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Personal Bill of Rights


Personal Bill of Rights

1. I have the right to make other choices besides merely to run away.

2. I have the right to say "NO" when I feel un-ready or unsafe and not to feel guilty about it

3. I have the right not to be molested by fear.

4. I have the right to feel all feelings.

5. I have the right to believe I am probably not guilty

6. I have the right to make decisions.

7. I have the right not to smile when I cry or feel hurt.

8. I have the right to terminate conversations with those who put me down or humiliate me.

9. I have the right to change & grow.

10. I have the right to be relaxed, playful and frivolous.

11. I have the right to set limits and be selfish.

12. I have the right to get angry, even at someone I love, without fearing that I, the other person, or the relationship will dissolve.

13. I have the right to do stupid things without believing I am a stupid person.

14. I have the right not to be ashamed for what I don't know or can't do.

15. I have the right not to take on board someone else's shame or guilt.

16. I have the right to protect myself


Learning how to Let Go

 

Letting Go  does not mean to stop caring, it means I cant do it for someone else.

 

Letting Go  is not to cut myself off, its the realisation I cant control another.

 

Letting Go  is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

 

Letting Go  is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

 

Letting Go  is not to try and change another, its to make the most of myself.

 

Letting Go  is not to care for, but care about.

 

Letting Go  is not to fix but to be supportive.

 

Letting Go  is not to judge, but to allow others to be a human being.

 

Letting Go  is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

 

Letting Go  is not to be protective, its to permit another to face reality.

 

Letting Go  is not to deny but to accept.

 

Letting Go  is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.

 

Letting Go  is not to criticise and regulate anybody else, but to try to become what I dream I can become.

 

Letting Go  is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

 

Letting Go  is to fear less, and

 

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