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Was Männer brauchen

"Als ich ein Kind war, da redete ich wie ein Kind und dachte wie ein Kind und war klug wie ein Kind; als ich aber ein Mann wurde, tat ich ab, was kindlich war."
(1. Korinther 13:11; Luther-Übersetzung)

Männer brauchen einen "sicheren Ort", wo sie merken, jemand versteht sie und sie sind nicht alleine.

Männer brauchen eine klare, bindende Vision von biblischer Männlichkeit, an der sie sich fest halten können.

Männer brauchen Zeit mit anderen Männern, um gewinnbringend ihre eigene Männlichkeit weiter entwickeln zu können.

Männer brauchen praktische Anleitungen, mit denen sie den Erfolg schon erahnen können.

Männer brauchen andere Männer, die sie anfeuern und motivieren.

Männer brauchen einen feierlichen Moment, bei dem sie wissen, dass sie jetzt zum Mann geworden sind.

"Eisen wird an Eisen geschliffen; so schleift einer den Charakter des anderen"

Sprüche 27:17 (Einheitsübersetzung)


"Männlichkeit ist in einem Zustand der Verwirrung. Und verwirrte Männer verursachen eine Menge von Problemen!"
Dr. Robert Lewis

Five Keys to Friendship from Pope Francis

“A friend isn’t just an acquaintance, someone you enjoy passing the time of day with. Friendship is something much deeper.” Some advice from Pope Francis on friendship.

1. A good friend knows your secrets: Good friends are those we can confide in and open up our heart to, in order to share with them our joys and sorrows, without fear of being judged. Scripture says: A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter: he that has found one has found a treasure. There is nothing so precious as a faithful friend (Sir 6:14-15). But friendship doesn’t come about in just one day. As Pope Francis says: “A friend isn’t just an acquaintance, someone you enjoy passing the time of day with. Friendship is something much deeper.” “Patience is needed to forge a strong friendship between two people. A lot of time talking with one another, spending time together, getting to know one another—that’s how friendship is forged. Patience makes a friendship real and solid.”

2. A good friend never abandons you: Jesus said: Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends (Jn 15:13). Pope Francis insists: “When you love someone, you want to be at their side, to care for them and help them, to say what is on your mind. But you never abandon them. That’s how Jesus is with us; he never abandons us.” True friendship is disinterested; it seeks to give rather than to receive. Saint Josemaria gave some clear advice for true friendship: “In my thoughts, words and deeds towards my neighbor, may I never cease to practise charity, or allow indifference to enter my soul” (Furrow, 748).

3. A good friend always defends you: “Never allow weeds to grow on the path of friendship. Be loyal” (Furrow, 747). Good friends never abandon their friend when difficulties arise; they never speak badly of their friend, or allow that person to be criticized when absent. Pope Francis says: “It is a great joy to be able to put yourself in the shoes of the other person, to embrace and forgive them. We all make errors and mistakes, thousands of them. Therefore those who can assist others in their errors, in their mistakes, are happy. They are true friends and never abandon anyone.”

4. A good friends doesn’t offer you “smoke and mirrors”: Saint Josemaria said: “True friendship also means making a heartfelt effort to understand the convictions of our friends, even though we may never come to share them or accept them (Furrow, 746). “Jesus doesn’t offer us merely ‘smoke and mirrors,’” says Pope Francis. “He knows that true happiness, a happiness that fills our heart, isn’t found in having trendy clothes or smart shoes, or a popular brand. He knows that true happiness means having a sensitive heart, in learning to weep with those who weep, in being close to those who are sad, in hugging someone. A person who doesn’t know how to cry doesn’t know how to laugh, and therefore how to live. Jesus knows that in this world of so much envy and aggressiveness, true happiness requires learning how to be patient, to respect others, to not condemn or judge anyone. Jesus wants to bring us the fullness of happiness. He wants to bring us friendship, true friendship, the friendship that we all need.”

5. A good friend always gives you strong support: True friendship means giving our friends the best that we have. And our greatest good, without any comparison, is being friends of Jesus. Pope Francis encourages us to be true friends of our friends, with a friendship like that of Jesus. “Not just remaining among ourselves, but rather heading out onto the ‘court,’ in order to make new friends. You have to spread Jesus’ friendship throughout the world, wherever you may be, at work, when studying, by WhattsApp, Facebook or Twitter. When going to a dance, or having a good aperitif. Out on the street or playing a game of pick-up basketball. That’s where Jesus’ friends are. Giving them the conviction that we should be happy, since we have a Father in heaven who loves us.”


Struggles and Pain

Life unfortunately is about struggles and pain. God promised us it would not be a cake walk. However He has also promised us all our pains, struggles etc. will be forever gone in his new kingdom. That is a promise we can take to the bank and count on. So look ahead and not behind to your new life with Him.


A True Friend

I have a saying which I share in here now and again. It is this;

"A friend is a friend to a friend indeed, when a friend is a friend to a friend in need."

In other words, a true friend is a friend to another in all and in every circumstance, whether good or bad. A true friend is always there to help and to share the burdens of another true friend. A true friend will tell another things the other may or may not want to hear and will not turn his back on the other even if the other does not listen to the good advice of the friend. A true friend will always be there to help the other before even being asked. That is a true friend. That is the type of friends we all need and should seek after. If however that none can be found, we still always have Jesus whom is our TRUE FRIEND.



An old cowboy was riding his trusty horse followed by his faithful dog along an unfamiliar road.  The cowboy was enjoying the new scenery, when he suddenly remembered dying, and realized the dog beside him had been dead for years, as had his horse.  Confused, he wondered what was happening, and where the trail was leading them.
After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall that looked like fine marble.  At the top of a long hill, it was broken by a tall arch topped by a golden letter "H" that glowed in the sunlight.  Standing before it, he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother-of-pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like gold.
He rode toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side.  Parched and tired out by his journey, he called out;
'Excuse me, where are we?'
'This is Heaven, sir,' the man answered.
'Wow! Would you happen to have some water?' the man asked.
'Of course, sir.  Come right in, and I'll have some ice water brought right up.'
As the gate began to open, the cowboy asked;
'Can I bring my partners, too?'
'I'm sorry, sir, but we don't accept pets.'
The cowboy thought for a moment, then turned back to the road and continued riding, his dog trotting by his side.
After another long ride, at the top of another hill, he came to a dirt road leading through a ranch gate that looked as if it had never been closed.  As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.
'Excuse me,' he called to the man.  'Do you have any water?'
'Sure, there's a pump right over there.  Help yourself.'
'How about my friends here?' the traveler gestured to the dog and his horse.
'Of course!  They look thirsty, too,' said the man.
The trio went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with buckets beside it.  The traveler filled a cup and the buckets with wonderfully cool water and took a long drink, as did his horse and dog.
When they were full, he walked back to the man who was still standing by the tree;
'What do you call this place?' the traveler asked.
'This is Heaven,' he answered.
'That's confusing,' the traveler said.  'The man down the road said that was Heaven, too.'
'Oh, you mean the place with the glitzy, gold street and fake pearly gates?  That's hell.'
'Doesn't it make you angry when they use your name like that?'
'Not at all.  Actually, we're happy they screen out the folks who would leave their best friends behind...'

(Author unknown)

What a friend We Have in Jesus!

I am well fond of re-iterating this saying:

A friend is a friend to a friend indeed
when a friend is a friend to a friend in need.

As I pondered this thought tonight, I was reminded of the hymn What a friend We have in Jesus.

What better friend have we than Jesus. Many a so called friend will turn on you when things do not go their way, or when things become too difficult, when those in power become too overwhelming. Many of these so called friends will turn tail and run, and turn you in, and report you to authorities without just cause. Very few are there that will give their lives to save yours, to protect you against any and all evil and or dangers.

Few there are who will give their lives to save and protect. Even them who they do not know.

Only Jesus, stands among and beyond those who are above and beyond, the closeness of what it is to be known as a true and close friend. Only Jesus will give His life for the unworthy, the unjust, the selfish, the greedy, the thief, the sexual immoral, the liars, etc.

Would you?


What A Friend We Have In Jesus Hymn

What a friend we have in Jesus,
all our sins and griefs to bear!
What a privilege to carry
everything to God in prayer!
O what peace we often forfeit,
O what needless pain we bear,
all because we do not carry
everything to God in prayer.

Have we trials and temptations?
Is there trouble anywhere?
We should never be discouraged;
take it to the Lord in prayer.
Can we find a friend so faithful
who will all our sorrows share?
Jesus knows our every weakness;
take it to the Lord in prayer.

Are we weak and heavy laden,
cumbered with a load of care?
Precious Savior, still our refuge;
take it to the Lord in prayer.
Do thy friends despise, forsake thee?
Take it to the Lord in prayer!
In his arms he'll take and shield thee;
thou wilt find a solace there.

(Text: Joseph M. Scriven, 1820-1886. Music: Charles C. Converse, 1832-1918)


Will you, my friends, though not as close a friend am I to you as our Lord and Saviour, lean upon Him, trust in His everlasting arms. Will you not allow Him to carry all your burdens, cares and worries upon His His own shoulders.

Will you not allow:

Him to be a Friend indeed
to a friend in need.

He is that friend whom is closer and more true to His Word than any other whom you have ever known.

He has promised that He will never forsake nor leave you. That means, that no matter what ever your situation, no matter what ever you are going through, no matter whatever your ups or downs, no matter whatever your stature in life, He is always there as a friend, the very closest friend that you will ever have, be there to help you through and be your strength, your strong shoulder, your all in all.

If you are drowning in sorrow, in pain, in strife or whatever, He is there, He will be your shoulder to cry on, you help in trouble. He has given His life for you to see you through any and all trials and tribulations.

None is a greater friend than Jesus, nor will there ever be. Trust in Him to be your friend through each and every situation, whether good or bad, whether through joys or sorrow.

Whom are you trusting to be your true and trustful friend?

Whom is Jesus to you?

What a friend we have in Jesus!