Emulate the creator of the type of life that you desire! If you want to be a real estate billionaire, emulate a real estate billionaire's work ethic, charisma, knowledge, and networking. If you want to marry a basketball player, carry yourself like the type of woman who gets a basketball player, spending endless time in the gym to keep the physique, keeping your hair, nails, attitude, etc., on point. If you want to be a powerful leader, emulate the self-discipline, service mentality, and personal sacrifice of that leader.
Ultimately, it is very easy to say what we want, what kind of career, friendships, mate, and income that we desire. But for anything worth having, it is worth working for. You have to commit to doing what it takes to get what you want and put in the effort.
Stop becoming complacent and taking your life for granted. Start, instead, giving it your best shot, and staying dedicated until you get it or your desires change. Whatever your desires and goals, DON'T GIVE UP, and do what you have to do to make it happen.