Come to the Stable

The Stephen Spalding Foundation

The Business Plan of Come to the Stable

Come to the Stable/The Stephen Spalding
Foundation (CTS/SSF) is registered as a
501(c)(3) non-profit charitable corporation
with the U.S. Internal Revenue Service;
organized under the laws of the State
of Minnesota. We are dedicated to
the service and healing of survivors of
childhood sexual molestation and adult
rape victims.

  CTS/SSF programs outlined
  elsewhere in this Prospectus
  are found  in European countries.  
Our model is the Medical Foundation for the Care of Victims of Torture.  Founded in 1985, the Medical Foundation for the Care of Victims of Torture provides care and rehabilitative services to survivors of torture and other forms of organized violence.

The damage done to children and vulnerable adults by pedophiles and sexual predators is similar in range and scope, according to medical professionals.  As a consequence, the strategic plan of Come to the Stable/The Stephen Spalding Foundation includes the following goals:

  • To develop property for a safe and supportive retreat center for survivor/victims of sexual abuse in the United States.  The cost to survivor/victims and their loved ones is free.

  • Help survivor/victims the heal trauma and pain of their abuse as they confront and document what happened to them as children or as vulnerable adults.

  • Provide practical assistance and therapeutic support in a safe environment that will all survivor/victims refocus on their personal situations and lead more productive lives.

Our business plan is similar to the restorative health care programs of Roman Catholic facilities that treat pedophile priests in the United States and Canada.

Most importantly, CTS/SSF envisions a place where the survivor/ victims of sexual molestation will be able to feel that their needs
truly are being met.

In particular, CTS/SSF recognizes that victims
of sexual trauma require a variety of therapeutic
resources to rekindle "new life" skills and
training in order to transition successfully
from the pain of their abuse to the daily
regimen of just plain living.

To service these needs, CTS/SSF will offer
access to both therapeutic and respite care.
The methodology of this approach will include
traditional and alternative healing resources
such as talk therapy, self-help-group counseling,
access to psychiatric care if necessary, massage (Swedish, Shiatsu, and Rolfing), and acupuncture.  An urban/suburban environment will allow easy access to professionals who will support these programs.

Survivor/victims of sexual trauma often require new skills to re-enter the job market.

Consequently, CTS/SSF will offer in-service training sessions for long-term clients.  Professional and career training programs also will be available to short-term clients.

An adjunct to support our "new life"
skills program includes hands-on
training: housekeeping, personal
grooming, cooking and food
preparation, nutrition, exercise,
art (knitting, sewing, painting),
music appreciation, and similar
therapeutic regimens to rebuild
personal and professional acumen.

Similarly, forums to develop career
strategies and prospecting tools will
help survivors negotiate a better means of job security for their future successes.  Access to employment recruiters and job seminars to help survivor/victims build strong resumes will support their efforts to re-enter the workforce.

In addition, CTS/SSF will provide resources for advanced training in basic marketplace technology, i.e. office computers and software.

Respite care: an essential element of the Come
to the Stable rehabilitation program.  A survivor’s
loved ones are equally affected by the abuse of
sexual trauma.  Respite care is critical to preserve
the family unit and household; prevent divorce and
family disintegration; and ease the pain and
exhaustion of all those involved in the healing
and recovery process.

The Foundation intends to offer a two-tier respite
care program: short-term recovery (314 days)
and long-term (up to six months).  Short-term respite care is free to survivor/victims and their families.  Long-term clients will be assessed a nominal fee, based on need and income.

Daily Bread as Therapy: All meals breakfast, lunch, and dinner are free.

Clients will receive cooking lessons and help prepare meals as part of their program to rebuild their lives.  Learning to bake bread, harvest honey, support and maintain a vegetable or herb garden, for example, will help the desperate regain some joy in the little things in life as they begin to learn trust
as larger issues come their way.

Reaching Come to the Stable: CTS/SSF will
pay round-trip travel expenses for survivor/victims.

Most survivor/victims are coping with many of
these life issues at once and they need a safe
harbor to recover successfully from the trauma
and stress of the crimes that they have
experienced and to focus solely on healing
the psychic wounds that life has dealt.

The CTS/SSF mission is to provide a place
where one can collect one’s thoughts, assess
the future, and move forward despite the pain and suffering of what has happened to them.

Pope John Paul II told American cardinals in April 2002, after summoning them to the Vatican to discuss clergy sexual abuse:  "There is no place in the priesthood or in religious life for those who would harm the young."

Governance Benchmarks and Standards

The Board of Advisors of Come to the Stable/The Stephen Spalding Foundation has established governance benchmarks and standards:

We believe that rape and forcible sodomy are sexual crimes.

We cultivate good communication throughout our organization so that our work and our decisions benefit from the knowledge and experience available.  We rely on those who understand the issues pertinent to the situations of our clients.

We are confident in our effort, because we
recognize that molesting another human being
is unacceptable behavior that demands an
equal share of the resources used to rehabilitate
sex offenders.

We value the generosity of our donors and volunteers.  To ensure proper use of what they provide us, we have developed strict codes of ethics and accountability.

We stand for integrity and transparency in our use of money and other resources.

The challenge we face mirrors the organizational endeavors required to maintain those retreats, estates, and rehabilitative institutions that treat pedophile priests.

Board of Advisors

Matthew A. Cosby
Matthew A. Cosby is an alumnus of St. Thomas Aquinas
High School Seminary (1986) in Hannibal, Missouri.  He
recently received a modest settlement from the Diocese
of Jefferson City, Missouri, and Anthony J. O’Connell,
the former bishop of Palm Beach, Florida, and Knoxville,
Tennessee.  Matthew is one of at least 30 O’Connell
victims and most likely more than 50 alumni and former
students of the high school seminary.  Matthew also is
one of most brutalized of O’Connell’s victims.  He received
an undergraduate degree from Conception Seminary in
Conception, Missouri, near Kansas City.  He is pulmonary
analyst with Barnes-Jewish Hospital in St. Louis, Missouri.

Michael D. Fleming, Ph.D., J.D.
Michael D. Fleming is a Minneapolis, Minnesota, attorney
who specializes in estate planning and commercial real
estate.  He is CTS/SSF general counsel.  Dr. Fleming
received a J.D. cum laude in 1996 from William Mitchell
College in St. Paul, Minnesota.  He was a recipient of
the Dean’s Merit Scholarship and an associate editor
of the William Mitchell Law Review.  He was admitted
to the Minnesota Bar in 1997. 

Prior of his law career, Dr. Fleming worked as a
classical music critic for more than 20 years.
Dr. Fleming received his Ph.D. in musicology
from Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri,
based on his research and study of music of the
Baroque period and the composer Michael
Preatorius.  He also served as program annotator
for the Detroit Symphony Orchestra for many years,
and has provided scholarly work for Opera Theatre of St. Louis, the symphony orchestras of New York, Philadelphia, St. Louis, and Pittsburgh.  Dr. Fleming’s critical analysis of classical music has been published in the New York Times, the International Herald Tribune, the Los Angeles Times, the Boston Globe and many other publications.  He is a former adjunct professor of music at Washington University in St. Louis and the University of Minnesota.  In 1986, Dr. Fleming was nominated for the Pulitzer Prize by his employer, the St. Petersburg Times. Dr. Fleming is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and Delta Phi Alpha, the German language honor society.

Sarah Spalding
Sarah Spalding retired recently as an administrator with the public school system in St. Louis, Missouri.  Stephen Spalding is her brother.

Mary Monroe Ellis, Ph.D.
Dr. Mary Monroe Ellis is Associate Professor of Mathematics with the state university system of Tennessee.  She is a valued and involved member of her academic community, serving on numerous committees and panels focused on improving benchmarks and outcomes for the students that she serves.  Dr. Monroe Ellis also is a noted community activist and organizer.  In 2002, Bishop Joseph E. Kurtz of Knoxville presented Dr. Monroe Ellis with the St. Ann Medal in recognition for outstanding leadership with the Catholic Girls Scouts of Eastern Tennessee.

Susan Vance
Susan Vance is a recognized Catholic educator in the Diocese of Knoxville, Tennessee, and mother of four boys.  Susan works closely with Dr. Mary Monroe Ellis in developing awareness programs regarding sexual abuse and sexual awareness education in both Knoxville and Oak Ridge.  She is co-founder, with Dr. Monroe Ellis and Carole Mullane, of The Sunshine Alliance, which serves as an information clearinghouse for child welfare organizations throughout Tennessee.  Susan also is a talented graphic designer and webmaster.

Michael J. Wegs
Michael J. Wegs is an alumnus of St. Thomas Aquinas
High School Seminary
(1971) in Hannibal, Missouri. 
He recently received a modest settlement from the
Diocese of Jefferson City, Missouri, and Anthony J.
O’Connell, the former bishop of Palm Beach, Florida,
and Knoxville, Tennessee.  Michael is the first student
to file a civil suit against O’Connell in the wake of the
Christopher Dixon disclosures.  His case is the only
one to date that has moved successfully in uncovering
the scandal at St. Thomas.  In Doe v. Roman Catholic
Diocese of Jefferson City, et al., CV302-142CC
, Marion
County Court Judge C. David Darnold ruled that members
of the clergy are, in fact, employees of religious denominations.  
In addition, the Darnold opinion stated that “churches can be held to the same standard as any other entity that is in the position of caring for children.” In jurisprudence matters, Doe v. Jefferson City, is noteworthy in that this ruling set precedence by disagreeing with the 1997 Missouri Supreme Court case, Gibson v. Brewer, which ruled that members of the clergy were contract workers and, thereby, limiting the liability of church-affiliated organizations.  Michael received an undergraduate degree in journalism from the University of Missouri-Columbia (1975).  As a seminarian with the Diocese of Jefferson City until 1979, he pursued graduate studies at Kenrick Seminary in St. Louis, Missouri.  Michael is an award-winning journalist and corporate communications consultant with more than 30 years experiences these markets.  He lives in Marion, Iowa.

Clergy Service Model

As a child’s physical boundaries are violated by sexual
touch, his/her mind also is being violated.  Covert contact,
quite common in pedophile priest molestation cases, is
particularly powerful in teaching the victimized child not
to trust his/her thoughts and perceptions of the world.  
In fact, the perpetrator is saying one thing is happening
when, in reality, something else is happening to child.

Religious institutions provide access to a significant
number of healthcare providers and services to child
molesters in an attempt to rehabilitate the criminal
and reconstruct the image of the organizational
framework.  Likewise, civil institutions provide,
at taxpayer expense, services for secular
sexual predators.

Unfortunately, the sacred tends to show more concern for the perpetrator than the victim.  The secular tends to lack proper financial support.

Come to the Stable/The Stephen Spalding Foundation hopes to rectify this problem for the victims of sex offenders.

We have developed a healthcare model aligned to the best practices of Church-sponsored facilities that treat pedophile priests: the The Institute of Living in suburban Hartford, Connecticut; Southdown, Toronto, Canada; St. Luke Institute, Silver Springs, Md.; or RECON in Dittmer, Missouri.

Institute of Living Hartford, Connecticut
The Institute of the Living in Hartford, Connecticut,
incorporates numerous edifices including the
Center Building, which was constructed in
18221823.  The campus is the home and
treatment facility of some of the most
notorious pedophile priests in North America.

Frederick Law Olmstead, the great American
landscape architect, designed the 35-acre
estate, which now houses the Institute.  
Its elegant mansion, with a sweeping lawn,
unfolds down to the sea.

Trees on the landscaped property date to the 1860s.  Olmsted and his associate, Jacob Weidenmann, documented the design in Weidenmann’s classic horticultural book, Beautifying Country Homes, published in 1870.

Olmstead, who designed New York City’s Central Park
and many of the great estates of the Eastern Seaboard,
created a sumptuous park for the Connecticut property. 
His palette includes a magnificent Sweet Gum and
Honeylocust both Connecticut state champions 
and a Chinese Ginko, one of the largest in the state.

The Institute also is home to regional New England
champion trees: a bur oak, a pecan (a rarity in the
northeast); a Japanese Zelkova, imported 1860 to
replace the American elm; and 23 other champion

The Institute offers its long-term client vocational training in horticulture and the ability to change careers.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy for mental and emotional symptoms is a key aspect of this treatment facility.

Mepkin Abbey Charleston, South Carolina
The banks of the spectacular Cooper River
Mepkin Abbey, edge the 3,200-acre
plantation just 20 miles north of Charleston,
South Carolina.

Mepkin is not a treatment facility, but it is the
current home of the self-admitted pedophile
and former bishop of Knoxville, Tennessee,
and Palm Beach, Florida, Anthony J. O’Connell. 
The Mepkin property, originally used by the
Native Americans as a hunting ground, has a
storied history.  The Colonial-era property was
the winter of home of
Henry Luce, a founder
of Time-Life publications, and his wife,
Claire Boothe Luce, a member of Congress, ambassador and author.  The couple are buried on the grounds.

Life style and living standards, for some, are matters of choice.   For many others, these luxuries are unattainable.

Cardinal Bernard Law , who is Bishop O'Connell's patron, now holds a prestigious position in Rome.  Prior to this appointment, he maintained a residence in Boston, which was sold for $20 million in 2003.  The Archdiocese of Boston sold his summer home on Cape Cod for $2.55 million, also in 2003.  A search of Massachusetts real estate records in 2003 revealed a personal multi-million dollar portfolio a collection of Florida condos, vacant lots, one- and two-bedroom houses the legacy of individuals who earmarked major portions of their estates for his benefit.  By year-end 2005, the Archdiocese divested itself of $208 million in real estate holdings.

Cardinal Anthony J. Bevilacqua (ret.) of Philadelphia is no stranger to luxury.  In the late 1990’s, he closed or merged 15 parishes and schools in archdiocese, but spent more than $5 million to renovate the cardinal’s mansion, three office buildings, a parking lot, the cathedral and his summer residence on Cape May (a luxury expenditure estimated at more than $500,000).  His successor, Cardinal Justin F. Rigali, enjoys this style of living, too.

Bishop William F. Murphy of Rockville Center, New York, spent nearly $1.3 million in 2003 to acquire and renovate a home in his diocese.

Bishop Tod D. Brown of Orange County, California, is buying his priests private homes (ranging in price from $600,000 to $1.5 million) to serve as rectories.  In December 2004, Orange County agreed to the largest settlement yet in the United States clergy molestations scandal at $1 million (est.) per survivor, which is in excess of $100 million.

Ultimately, Come to the Stable/The Stephen Spalding Foundation intends to create
a modest place of rest for the troubled and weary.

In the last 24 months, the survivor/victims of Anthony J. O’Connell have discovered, personally, that the survivors/ victims of rape, incest, and forcible sodomy need this service.  They need a place to go to alone or with loved ones for a brief period of time, just put down their burdens and rest.  Most survivor/victims are coping with many issues at once from job security to medical crises to the simplest workaday activities like eating lunch and they need a safe harbor to consider their futures as they recover from the trauma and stress of the crimes that they have experienced.

Consequently, the CTS/SSF mission is to provide a comparable way-station in life a place where we can stop at major points en route to our destination somewhere to collect one’s thoughts, assess one’s future, and move forward despite the pain and suffering of what has happened to us.

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Bishop John R. Gaydos:  "Debriding" Victims of Sexual Abuse . . .

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