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| RECOMMENDED BOOKS...The following are books I have read, which have been helpful in my grief and understanding of suicide and death of a child or loved one. I cannot recommend one over another..they are all good and have helped me in their own way. |
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| LAMENT FOR A SON by Nicholas Wolterstorff |
A very touching, revealing and honest revelation of Nicholas's grief after his son's tragic death. His son died while mountain-climbing yet his expressions of grief, anger, disbelief, questioning, etc. are all so much like what I have experienced. Although his son was killed in an accident, I felt his pain and anguish and cried through many of the pages, yet was nodding in agreement with his feelings. |
| PSALMS OF LAMENT by Ann Weems |
A collection of deeply, intense personal psalms of lament. This book took me on a higher level of grief...a more inspirational and faith-based journey through anger, questioning, and survival of my faith. |
| HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A CHILD by Catherine M. Saunders, Ph.D |
This book helped me to remember the stages of grief and that it was alright to feel (or not feel) the rollercoaster of emotions I have experienced. She specifically speaks to parents and how you lose not only your child, but your dreams and hopes for the future. |
| MY SON...MY SON... by Iris Bolton |
A powerful and heartbreaking book to read! It's written as Iris travels through the new grief of losing her son to suicide. This book revealed to me that there is a 'gift' to be found in Wayne's death and how it seems un-natural to think of receiving a 'gift' from the loss of your child. I cried my way through this book several times and will keep it as inspiration because I can see the places I was in my grief and look towards the places I need to travel. |
| AFTER SUICIDE by John H. Hewett |
This book tends to be more of a clinical approach for survivors of suicide. It's very factual yet reaches into the emotions and grief at the same time. It has really helped me deal with the question of 'why' and the self-guilt. The following statement opened a 'door of understanding' in my pain and understanding that Wayne's death was an escape...not a choice of death: "More than likely, your family member was a confused and bewildered person suffering tremendous emotional pain. He or she wasn't choosing death as much as choosing to end this unbearable pain." (pg 30) |
| HEALING AFTER THE SUICIDE OF A LOVED ONE by Ann Smolin C.S.W., and John Guinan PH.D |
I frequently read bits and pieces of this book. It seems to 'talk' right to me and gives advice and suggestions that are welcomed rather than 'clinical.' The case studies help me to 'see' others struggling and surviving. Some of the chapters are broken down into surviving: parent, child, spouse and sibling death by suicide. |
| AFTERSHOCK by David Cox & Candy Arrington |
This is another book that has helped me as I struggled with my faith and Wayne's death. David Cox is a survivor of suicide and the book takes you through how you might feel in the beginning and how to survive and regain your life and spirituality. |
| A TIME TO GRIEVE by Carol Staudacher |
This book contains meditations for healing after the death of a loved one. It is not concentrated on suicide but most pages 'fit' my grief experiences. It's a good book to pick up and read several pages at random...and still find understanding and inspiration. The book is divided into 3 categories: Retreating, Working Through and Resolving. Each page begins with a quote from a survivor, a short discussion of the topic and a quick meditation or prayer. It's a great 'companion' book.
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| A GRIEF OBSERVED by C.S. Lewis |
A book of comfort and inspiration. The 'bares his soul' in grief. There are so many emotions and thoughts that I understood from deep within my own grief. He is able to put some things into words that I have been unable to explain to others. After his wife's death (not by suicide), he questions God, friends, love and life..yet manages to survive and become a stronger person. Although this book is written in a diary or journal fashion...it is one you can pick up and read a few pages and know exactly what he is discussing. It is another book that eases my mind and reinforces that the thigns I have felt in my grief are normal. |
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