Just recently someone wrote and told me that I was another person’s history. I have never had it put to me this way, but I smiled and went on to the next email. If I had been told this about 15 years ago most likely I would have felt rejected, but things like this do not affect me anymore. But, I’m not in the habit of looking up ex-wives old girl friends to try and date; I understand that it was clearly just a misunderstanding on her part. The next day at work I was telling some friends about the email I had received; and the one thing we all agreed on was, we were all at one time some body’s history. During that same week I had been wondering what topic I would write on next, but after my friends and I had this discussion, I knew what my next topic would be on. If any man or woman live long enough the chances are you are going to end up being someone’s history in another person’s life. By the time you reach the age of forty, it’s a good chance you would have been married at least once, or twice in the case of some people; and is now living in a state of separation or divorce. If you are divorced you may be thinking along the lines of meeting someone and dating, and whom are you going to meet? Chances are, another person’s history. Unless you are lucky enough to meet someone who never have been married, but again, the chances are they were never married, but has lived with someone. So even if a man should marry a woman or a woman marries a man, they will have to deal with the fact that history some times invade upon the present. Meaning, those ex- spouses many times have children, and that pulls them into the present relationship or marriage. Ok, but what if the person may have once worked, or been a past friend of your ex? In a case like this it would be a matter of personal conviction. But every case is not the same, and the questions that would come to mind is; how good of friends were they, are they still friends, are they old friends, and what would they think about the situation. The majority of the time that former spouse has long gone on with his or her life, and some times have already remarried. My former wife and I have been divorced nearly fifteen years now, personally I cared very little about who she married, and I think she felt the same about me. Some times we have so many rules and guidelines for our lives, that we never really get what we were after to begin with. Many of our rules are not God’s, but our own personal convictions, but don’t get me wrong, personal convictions are good, but they can also prove to be a hindrance in some situations. Yes, when it comes to the dating game, some of us are going to be alone for a very long time, and you know what? None of us are getting any younger.