True Love Waits

Q: How do i know a guy likes me because i like a lot of guys and i don't know if they like
me.

A: Well, some ways to tell if a guy likes you are...

* Does he compliment you? (I like you dress. I like your hair like that.)

* Does he bring you around his friends? (When your around his friends does he treat you the same as if it was just the two of you?)

* Is there anything physical touch in your relationship? (Wether it was just a pat on the back, offering his hand or if your arms rub against each others and he doesn't move it that might be a sign also.

* Are there any rumors about you guy's being more than just friends? (That might mean that he has talk to his friends about it.)

Q:Hey I was wondering, I have a guy friend who is sort of punkish and he gave me a hug one
time when I first came into youth group. Does that mean anything?

A: Usually hugs for guys, don't really mean much, but it depends on the hug. Was it just a hug or was it a HUG! If he huged you lightly like his chest not touch you then that is probably not something you need to worrie about, if he squeezed you a little to tightly thats somthing you might need to think about!

Q: I really jumping from guy to guy by liking him.  I seriously can't help it!  Even if I
dont like a guy, I spend extra time on my hair just to impress him!  Do guys    
that?  Oh, and this guy I liked, once he said he didnt like my shoes, becuase
they were brown or something.  It  didnt soudn rude when he said it, but all my
friends were like, "oh my gosh, he likes you Alli!"  One other question, what do
guys      the most?

A: Well thats apart of being a girl! Making your self look good wether its for a guy or your friends...but usually for a guy! I think guys aprreciate the time you put in to make yourself look good...but you dont want to over do it! They like that you take care of yourself instead of wearing the same shirt every day and taking a shower once a week. Thats one of the resonds why guys like girls...Is because they smell good!

Q: What turns guys off from us?

A: Here are something that turn guys off:

* Girls who complain all the time.

* Girls who don't need a guy.

* Girls who need him too much.

* Girls who telll him everything.

* Girls who always think there is a problem.

* Girls who backstab other girls.

* Girls who are jealous.

Q: Um do guys mind it when we girls talk about other guys in front of them? Or do they
not care? Like crushes we have on certain guys in the church.

A: Sometimes it depends on the guy, but most guys are jealous creatures. Say that you were talk to your friend in front of him about the guy you liked, and you didn't know that he liked you (the guy your talking in front of) that would crush him or he might get jealous of the other guy or something. So I think the best thing to do is keep the girl talk to the girls.

Q: Why are guys so afraid of talking to us girls? I mean were so not going to come up to
them if we have a crush on them so they should be the ones to come up to us and
start a conversation. I know ya'll are afraid of us rejecting you but wouldnt it
be better to just figure out whether we like you or not and then move on? Plus
you guys always say you want to be the leaders so why cant you do what you want
and be a leader and come be hte first ones to talk?

A: Quote from The Dirt on Dating- "I know he might not seem like a leader right now, but that's where you come in. You have to let him lead, give him space and the opp to do something. Don't take control away from him if he is slow on the draw. If guys don't see an opening that they can fill, they get lazy and comfortable letting you do all the leading..."

Q:Do guys like it when we girls dress up for church? Like instead of wearing jeans like
when we wear dresses?


A: Quote from Secret about Guys-"Think about the way you feel when you're dressed up for and event-perhaps a church service. You feel diffrently, don't you, after you've come home and changes out of your Sunday best into something more casual? Do you sit the same in either outfit? Walk the same? Most likely not. When wearing jeans at home you might flop down and fling a leg over an end of the sofa, in a skirt? Probably not..."

Q: Hi do guys ever talk about the girls they like to each other? And do they like like one
girl or a lot of girls (usually we girls like more than one guy at a time?

A: Guys talk about us girls all the time with their friends, but it's not always about the best things. So thats why it is our responsibility to dress modesty and treat guys with respect!

Q: Hey uh do guys like it when we girls tell them what sort of things we girls like them  to
do? Like one time a guy friend held the door open for me and I told him I hope
you know that we girls love it when you do that. Just so that they know we
really like it when they do that kind of thing. And would they even remember?

A: Guy's LOVE it when you give them praise or if you give them respect. Thats one of the #1 things that guys want is respect and if you give it to them they will give it back. Oh but you probably don't want to be all you flirty or say things like that while he's around his friends, he might get embarrassed about it or his friends might make fun of him.

Q:what do guys talk about?

A: Well, guys talk about a wide variety of things. Such as sports, cars, ummmm...... GIRLS!!! But I don't want you to think that guys lives revolve around girls but a big part of it does. Sometimes you have to be careful because when guys are talking about girls, it could be about something that you don't want them talking about. So if you don't want the talking about you in that way, if you know what I mean, than be modest, be careful of your body language and just be yourself!

Q: Do guys like short girls? Like Im 5 feet 3 inches I think. I consider that being on the
short side. It is true that guys like smaller girls?

A: It is actually very true, a small part of why a guy might ask a girl out may be because he's taller than her. I know it sounds stupid, but guys like being tall because they my feel intimidated or over powered if his girlfriend was taller than him. But I don't want you to think that all guys are like that but I'm just saying that the majority of them are.

Q:OK. what do I do if a guy has a girlfriend and I still like him? I mean I think he might
(Im really not sure) like me but I dont know. Oh also I've only talked to him
like 3 times in my entire life. And that was a LONG time ago so I dont know how
to talk to him again because IM really shy.

A: Well, thats a tough one. I think you should maybe open up more but be yourself. You don't want you life to stop just because of this guy. You want to move on and then he might start to notice a change in you, and like it!

Q: Do guys read books on purity or is it just us girls who do?

A: Well I'm not sure of what they do behind closed doors but I think that there are books out there like Every young mans battle.

Q:What is to much for a first date? Like holding hands, kissing, hugging? I want to know so
that I don't turn a guy off on our first date by doing anything wrong. =) Oh and
what is the perfect date for a guy?

A: Well I say you should keep your bounderies so you don't scare him, and also so you keep some mystery about yourself. Guys love mystery! That is what makes them want more, in a good way, not giving them all you got cause when they've taken all thats left of you, what is there to give him. And here are some fun...

* Water park or amusement park

* Bowling

* Rollerskating

* Hiking

* Dance Class

* Something that you both don't know how to do

* Making a cake

Q: I'm naturally more of a quite person, but I always try to be friendly and say hi to
people when I pass them in the halls at church. There's a guy who will
completely ignore me when this happens, and not even then but when we're going
around greeting people during youth group will look in the opposite direction
and walk passed. Everyone tells me he's the nicest friendly guy around, but
personally I'm beginning to think he's a jerk.    Is he scared that I like him?
Or does he for some unknown reason dislike me that much that being civil is out
of the question?

A: Well, maybe he does like you or maybe he's scared to talk to you because he doesn't know what to say or maybe he is a jerk. What you should do is see how he acts when he's around other people. Then take it from there, you'll see maybe that it's not just you, maybe he's having a bad day, you never know.

Q: Well you know how you said the we should start writing to our future husband...well I
have but I want to know...what if we marry a guy that is maybe the one that God
didn't want for us and we give him the letters we've been writing for so
long....what do we do then?

A: Well, I think that God will let you know who and when is the right time to get married and who the right person is. You want to make sure what your doing is Gods will, and the way you do that is to make sure you talk to some wise people, like a pastor, your parents, people from your church, not your your non-christian friends, or a un wise sibling. Also, pray about it all the time, I know it's hard to understand when God's speaking to you or not but if you truly want to know what His will is, He will tell you.

Q: Ok I know guys like mystery but what is mystery? I mean how are we girls mysterious? And
how can we stay mysterious?

A: Mystery in a nutshell is what guys don't know about us that they really sometimes shouldn't know. So if your wearing a a shirt that is spagetti strap and is showing your bra straps, that is a bad example of mystery. Because this guy is seeing something he really shouldn't and I'm sure he doesn't want to see. But, say if you keep all of those types of things a mystery, guys will be crazy about you! They want to know more about you, not know everything about you if you know what I mean. They want a girl that doesn't tell them all her secrets or every detail of her life. You want to keep them wondering!

Q:i was wondering if a guy likes me: he does compliment me on clothing sometimes and
he helps me understand stuff in class when i don't understand; he seems to have
an interest in what i do and what my background is. does this mean anything, or
is it just him including me & being friendly?

A: It could mean he does, it could mean he just a nice guy. Just look for the hints that show that he may like you.

Q: what do Guys talk about at sleep overs.

A: well from what I know of they talk about a lot of the same things they talk about at school. Yes a large porcine is probably about girls!

Q: i had a boyfriend before and we've been together for almost 3 years ...we had a on and
off relationship thats why we broke up.after that we've never seen each other for
more than 2 years now and one day he texted me and I remember the same feeling I
had with him before ....but we live in two different world and Im afraid that
we will  end up doing the same mistakes again.....

A: If the relationship didn't work the first time, it more than likely won't work a  second time.

Q: if guys are horrible to you does that mean they love you?

A: Well, it depends. Some boys reacted differently. Some are extremely nice, some are mean and stupid, and some are normal (rarely).

Q: Well I have this guy friend Emmit I like him more than a friend too i asked him for a
hug one time than day after day he gave me hugs without me asking what does this
mean?
Also i asked him for a hug & he kinda hugged me with chest to chest what does
that mean?

A: Well, I don't know what the hug a day might mean, but I know that if he's giving you those types of hugs, that is inappropriate. He shouldn't be doing that. Don't let any guy do that to you because it will make him think that he can go a little bit farther each time.

Q: when do you know your in love?

A: Well, I know that personally it wouldn't be with a boyfriend or happen more than once. I think we are really and truly in love when we find the person that God wanted us to spend the rest of our lives with.

Q: ok so i know you made a commitment not to kiss but i already did kiss i
got my first kiss in fifth garde behind the bathrooms at a football game but
what do i do now??

A: Well, start clean. Make a promise to yourself and your future husband that you aren't going to kiss any one from now until you meet your husband.

Q: a boys friends asked me to go out with his friend. i'm not sure if he
likes me or not. they were laughing after and i need help.

please help me if he like me or not.

A: Well, sometimes boys are stupid and like to play mean trick on girls just for fun b/c their not mature yet. So my answer to you is just ignore their little game that their play and tell them no thank you.

Q:how can i say if i really love someone? cuse it seems im falling for two
guys!!

A: Well, it's hard for me to say becuase I have never been in love. But, what I think the world is trying to tell us is that you need to follow your heart, which isn't really the wisest thing to do because our heart is feeling so much emotion that we maything we are in love when we really aren't. When you follow your brain, it will usually tell you the wisest chioce is with out too much emotion.

Q:Why doesn't this boy like me?
 

A: Well I don't know the boy, and I don't know you. But I do know that some boys it takes them a while to get comfortable around girls. And who know's he may like you and you just don't know it.

Q: What is the right time to go out with friends?

A:Well, that is a very good question, because that is how all of our dating realtionships should start out like. In friendships. You've got to get to know the person before you date them. As for when ....I don't know. Whenever God feels it's right. Pray together for your relationship, I know it's totally cheesey but your realtionship will be so great and it will last much longer than one that is not putting God first.) Ask someone thats wise and that you trust, to pray with you.

Q: How do you get a boy to notice you?

A: Be yourself! Don't go out of your way to be something that your not. You won't blend in with all the other girls that are trying to be something else and he will notice that there is somthing diffrent about you. And he'll (more than likely) like that!

Q: Why do guys like so many people why can't they just like one!!!!!!!!!!!

A: Well, like women, guys may like more than one person. There's really no way to stop them from doing this, but just try to understand that even you can like more than one person at the same time!
 

Q: What does it mean when one guy asks you if you like another guy?

A: It could be out of pure curiosity or it could be that he is interested in knowing for some specific reason!
 

Q: I consider myself a kind of goody-goody. I try to do what is right. People often tell me I'm a nice, sweet, sensitive, caring girl.
There's this guy I like from chruch, but I think he doesn't like me because he's intimidated by me. What should I do?

A: Don't try and change yourself for this boy. Being sweet, sensitive and caring are gifts from God and you wouldn't want to put those aside to make it more comfortable for this boy to make a move. One day there will be a guy that will find those qualities wonderful and beautiful and he will not feel to intimidated to ask you for your hand in marriage!
 

Q: Why do guys talk about other women? Is it to make me jealous or to let me know he thinks of me as a friend?
 

A: Most guys do talk about women even when us girls aren't around. In this situation it could mean he is an open guy and doen't feel it's a big deal to talk about other women around you. 
 

Q: Are ALL guys perverted? Pardon my question, but I have some friends that don't seem to be the type at all to lust after girls. It's as if they don't want to! 

A: Good question! Guy's are obviously not wired the same as girls. The first thing to remember is that guys are visual; unlike women who are more emotional. That is the way God made us. But, guys do struggle with lustful thought and visualization. No matter how nice the boy is, that is how they were made. But what separates them from the perverted ones are they do not act upon it. They do what is called bouncing. If they see somthing that stimualtes lustful thoughts they bounce their eye's. Thoses are the kind of guys that will become great godly husbands some day!