Winter. It's cold. People do what comes naturally when it's cold. Bundle, layer, cover up the imperfections of the body. Wrap under the wool and cashmere for comfort. Winter is a way we can sink into ourselves, reserve our energies, until Spring releases our inhibitions. I think we all hide in the Winter time and layer ourselves under comfortable habits, excuses and Fears. Use emotional fabrics to protect ourselves from the stormfronts of each others experiences. Some of are savvy enough to make themselves appear fashionable, matching tectures and colors perfectly: olive, brown, camel, orange, blue, gray and black. Others fumble and struggle to get it right.
So what's underneath all that "clothing"? How much of it do we really need? All the coats, scarves, hats boots and gloves gives the appearance of warmth but I wonder just how well we are protected from the elements of the world. It's cold out there. Everyday we willingly expose ourselves to the harsh conditions of life: Work, Relationships & the World. It's difficult to let your guard down when you feel just living is stripping you of your emotional and mental reserves day after day. So what do we do? We try to cover our pain by with layers and layers of destractions that keep us "safe" from each other. We blog because it wraps us in the warmth of anonymity, frees us from ridicule. We text because we would rather not deal with the awkwardness of reality. We email because we live such fragmented and seperated lives, our schedules don't allow us to look into each others eyes. We are online because we still have the need to be connected but are scared to tell him/her what we really look like for fear of rejection and loneliness. I would tell you that I for one am not comfortable being exposed for who I really am. I'm dreadfully frightened of my own truth and I would gather that you would be too.
Winter suits me just fine. I love the first white snow fall, the stillness of the crisp air, The boots that keep my toes warm, the wool turtlenecks, sweaters, scarves and soft cashmere lined gloves. Just remember to cover your head and bundle up...
It's cold out there.
mrwhisper
Currently Listening To: "The City"In the RedTina Dicosee related
The world is so cynical. Idealism & Positivity is seen as weak whereas Pessimism and Negativity are seen as smart, informed and even funny. Generation X, 13th, MTV Generation, Generation Y, Generation C, Echo Boom Generation, Millennial Generation,
The Internet Generation, Have all been exposed a love lost world full of suffering and chaos. This is most true when it comes to affairs of the heart. Gone are the days of flowers and chocolates. We live in the age of web cams and restraining orders. What would in the past seem romantic is now seen as stalking, and people are more than ever trying to close themselves off from the “Human Touch”. Men are still at a loss as to what’s appropriate to do, to call or not to call, Bad Boy or Nice Guy. Ladies are just as confused, Assertive or Demure, Hard To Get or First Date Kiss. With our busy schedule and silly expectations we sometimes aimlessly look for a different kind of connection, where we can be who we want to be and not who we really are. Here on the Net we can and have created Psychological Avatars that can say and do everything that we wouldn’t dare in the real world. The Nice Guy can now play the Bad Boy, The Bad Boy can fool the Demure Girl and she in turn can be more Assertive, or play Hard To Get. The cost we pay is the emptiness we feel in the wee hours of the morning when we’ve spent hours looking at meaningless words on an IM screen…
We have become victims to it, Technology. Most of us need it to get through the day, a computer, a cell phone, a PDA. With faster ways of communicating like email, text messaging and IM ask yourself do you feel more connected or not? Is knowing that you can be reached at anytime make you feel closer to those you love or not? Most of us see it as a burden, an annoyance. But when was the last time you actually had a face to face meaningful conversation with someone, anyone, a loved one, spouse, significant other or relative? Take a moment…times up. Put down your cell phone and be present here in the moment. Talk to the person most important and in front of you. Don’t type, write someone a letter, a hello letter, a goodbye letter, a love letter. When you receive one treasure it, because it’s slowly becoming a lost art form. Save it in an old shoe box, show it to someone special, get closer to the ones that mean most.
Song:"Through Different Eyes"
Artist: Jon Jenkins
Album: Beyond City Lights
"To have and to hold".
We all treasure our independence, our need to be free, and the sense of unencumbered exhilarational bliss. Yet, deep down we also have to be wanted. Wanted by our friends, family, spouses and significant others. There is nothing like knowing that the ones you love want you, there is a warm sense of security in that. Like a comfy blanket that surrounds you on a chilly winters night.
It's cold outside...thousands of things that seep into our mind that make us question our self worth: our jobs that tests and ranks the level of contribution we add to the industrial machine, our religions that can either affirm or condemn our spirituality, our nations that challenges and questions our loyalty, and even our own intimate circle of friends and family can leave us distraught. Yet sometimes, if you are fortunate, you can stumble onto by complete accident or the sheer force of will and determination, someone who will have us as we are: fragile, fractured and fearful. Holding us to a better standard than we are used to or were willing to achieve. Someone that will bring out the best parts of our personality, without limiting our need to feel free. For some the search is on, still continues or is just begun. For others a new journey is underway...the ability to keep what is yours in your possession.
"To have...and to hold."
Don't Let go...
