The Forbidden Voice....

Many times when we see injustice and miscarriage of justice taking place, we wait for someone noble, someone in power, someone with authority to move and debate issues, someone already renowned for past exploits to come to the rescue of the situation.

 This wait can sometimes be described as eternal and infinitely time unrelated. It is this waiting that creates anger, frustration, violence, regression and in some cases replication of the same emotions in those that are in close proximity.

 This unfulfilled quest for truth and justice takes much longer to materialise and can in most cases cause resignation, which leads to lowering of standards and compromise or can drive the subjects to acts of unbelievable magnitude in expression that society revolts in response.

 It is this uncontrollable wish to be heard that this website has been created. It invites all that feel the world has treated them unjustly. This website is a "nsaka" which means a meeting place for those that want to speak out rather than wait for others to speak on their behalf.

 If and when anger starts taking hold of your faculties, It is important that you do not get angry inside your small world. There are people that are out there doing something legal and just for the sake of justice. It is very wrong to be crippled by anger. It leads to extremism and in fact makes individuals susceptible to vile individuals like terrorist organisations.

 An angry mind is easily influenced to do things that create more chaos and rarely form part of the solution to the world's problems. Participating in constructive global building should be preferred to short cuts that always cause more harm than good.

 Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specialises in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.

 Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a co-worker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings

 The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviours, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.

 Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behaviour. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression or even terrorism!!!!

 Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticising everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they arent likely to have many successful relationships.

  Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

 Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger. For instance, you like a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your "significant other" wants more connection and closeness. If he or she starts complaining about your activities, don't retaliate by painting your partner as a jailer, a warden, or an albatross around your neck.

 It's natural to get defensive when you're criticised, but don't fight back. Instead, listen to what's underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don't let your anger—or a partner's—let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.