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About Love |
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If you love
someone, you accept him as he is. But if you accept him as he is, you
don't truly love him, because if you truly loved him, you would want the
best for him, which is virtually always for him to be better than he is.
How did our ancestors deal with this paradox? Enoch hid in a cave, Noah
preached listlessly for a century, Abraham sought the redeeming quality,
and Moses loved us, selflessly and unequivocally. An examination of the
lives of these four great men, who lived and loved 3000 to 5000 years
ago, tells the story of a journey from self in quest of the most potent
and altruistic of human emotions. Man, by nature, is a selfish creature.
Even in his relationships with others he tends to focus primarily on
himself or, at most, on his self-colored perception of his fellow.
"Love" is the endeavor to transcend this intrinsic selfishness and truly
relate to ones fellow, to be sensitive to and devoted to his needs as an
individual distinct of oneself and ones own stake in the relationship.
Love is not only about caring and giving but also about influencing.
When the Torah commands "Love your fellow as yourself," it does so in
the context of the obligation to rebuke him if he is behaving in a
negative and destructive manner the immediately preceding verse reads,
"Do not hate your brother in your heart; rebuke your fellow..." No one
would stand by as a loved one suffers hunger or is threatened by
violence; no less so, if one sees his fellow suffering from spiritual
malnutrition or moral blindness, he must make every effort to reach out
to him, to enlighten him, to offer guidance and assistance. Thus the
Torah instructs, "Do not hate your brother in your heart": do not
succumb to the all-too-prevalent reaction to the wrongdoing of others
contempt for the "sinner." Instead of despising him, respond with
concrete and pragmatic steps to cure him of his spiritual ills. Rebuke
him, by word and example, with sensitivity and loving concern, and
assist him to rise to his true, quintessential state of goodness. The
selflessness and the influence of love are proportionate to each other.
As this overview will demonstrate, the more selfless are your
relationships with your fellow, the more extensive your influence upon
him will be. Conversely, the more your vision of your fellow and your
involvement with him is defined by your self and its self-colored
perceptions, the less he will respond to your efforts on his behalf.
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