Boys can be tricky! Through the ages of 3-9 we mostly resent them (the cootie stage). However, as we get older our feeling toward boys change. We might even like a boy more than we ever have. And that can get confusing.
There are many type of boys you will see in your life. Some of them will be guy friends. Guy friends are VERY different than boyfriends. Take a look:
A Guy Friend- a boy who is your friend. Of course you like him- but more like a brother than a "crush". You feel laid back around him and although fashion might not be his idea of a good time, you still have some things in common
A Boyfriend- a boy you REALLY like. As in a boy you actually LIKE LIKE, and not just a friend
Many of us get the two confused. If one of your friends is describing a guy, and is accused of liking him she'll immediately say "No way! He's just a boy friend!" What she means is that hes a guy friend. And she probably means nothing more.
Like I stated in my first sentence, boys can be tricky- here's a little advice on them just in case you'd like to know!
HOW TO IMPRESS THEM
There's many books on how to impress boys. "Oh make yourself look fabulous!" the covers scream. "This is your guide to looking HOT!" the text pops out. But really, none of these methods exsist. Boys are not impressed with cool hair or clothes (they probably don't even know about the latest styles). So what should you do? BE YOU. Any boy is fascinated with a girl who expresses herself. Because any girl that pretends to be something shes not is a FAKE. And no boy wants that for a girl. Despite those sexist movies where all the popular girls are stupid, ignorant wannabees girls can obtain respect by being themselves. THAT is the key to life and boys.
Some people believe that only a boy can ask a girl out on a date, and not the other way around. But thats really not true. A girl is smart enough to ask a boy out on her own- that Cinderella idea is so old school. So here is how YOU can ask out your prince charming:
1. Take a deep breath. Don't get too hectic. Put a smile on your face and walk up to him. It might be a good idea if you do it in a quiet place.
2. Don't ask "What are you doing Friday?" or "So do you like dances..?" Just ask it straight out. Say calmly, "Hey *his name here* I was wondering if you wanted to go to *event here* with me on *date*"
3. Wait for an answer. If he says no, dont sweat it. Don't badger him for a reason. It'll only make it worse.
Ok so a boy just asked you out.....so you should be happy dancing right? WRONG! Because you have no interest in this boy- plus you have your eye on someone else! So how do you let them down without being mean? Just say it. "Sorry....ummm....I....am....ummm not going to the dance! Yeah thats right....ummm....so sorry" WILL NOT WORK. Its unconvincing- and what happens if he SEES you at the dance WITH ANOTHER GUY. Bad news sista. Bad news. So just SAY IT. "Sorry. I'm thinking of asking someone else" Don't say "Maybe another time" unless you mean it.
OVERVIEW: Boys can be tricky. But as long as you be yourself, and smile you'll live through the boy troubles!
Thanx for reading
-Shannon
Friends & Rumors
Friends can be awfullly confusing! As a girl with 6 or 7 best friends, i know it can be tough handling all of them at once!
Of course friends are wonderful things to have! They will always encourage you (even if your really stupid sometimes) and they always have the best of time.
Every good thing though comes with rough patches. Fights can always happen (hey girls just can be catty sometimes)....or some misunderstanding OR RUMOR could cause a HUGE problem.
TAKE A LOOK AT THIS STORY. IT MIGHT GIVE YOU SOME IDEA ABOUT FRIENDS AND RUMORS:
ok lets say that Gina has a small crush on Jake. She tells her best friend Catie. Now Lucy happens to hear what Gina is saying to Catie. Lucy tells her best friend Millie that Gina is in love with Jason and that she scribbles his name on her notepads (hey she just assumes that she does...). Millie tells Jane. Jane tells JAKE. And soon the ENTIRE SCHOOL KNOWS. And soon Gina is left blushing and angry, unable to understand why everyone knows her secret! Not only that, but by the time the story gets back to Gina the story is completely different. Everyone is convinced that Gina called Jake a total hottie and that she kisses his picture every night- when all she said was that she has a small crush on him! She yells at Catie because she believes Catie told the class. Cattie is the only one she told, after all! Catie keeps telling her she didnt do it but Gina doenst believe her. The girls never speak again.
Now as you can see, this one tiny rumor resulted in a crushed friendship, an angry embarressed girl, and a sad confused girl.
RUMORS CAN BE DEADLY
Rumors always start problems! As you can see, Gina's story was changed every time it was told! Each kid added their own personal touch until the rumor was a complete EXAGERATION of what really happened.
Of course neither Gina and Cattie had any control over what happened. But one gossip. Yes just ONE can make a whole SCHOOL believe a lie.
Gossips are not good. Ok, ok. I bet we've all done our share of it. But if you do it constantly....well you're going to get quite a reputation. Many people go into the "gossiping business" because they get ATTENTION. They are nosy. They are who you go to for the juicest info. Because the gossip knows everything about everybody. This could make it seem like a dream role.
But think about it. Would you want to be friends with a gossip? If you are, you have to be careful what you say. You can't be yourself or share your secrets because you never know if it'll end up front page news.And who wants a friendship like THAT?
A gossiper will end up lonely....and the friends she does have probably only want her for the info.
OVERVIEW: Rumors can hurt friendships and EVERYONE. So please. Don't gossip or spread rumors. It leads to trouble.
