Most women aren’t satisfied with their man – even the successful attractive guys. The reason is they don’t have sexual confidence – the REAL confidence that affects everything else. I’ve put together a new course that teaches you how to get that INNER confidence, and satisfy your woman every time.Don’t BlinkHow many married women cheat on their men? Go on, take a guess.Well, according to surveys (and remember, these are just the wives who ADMIT it) the number is over 50%.Wow.With girlfriends, not surprisingly, the stat rises significantly.And you thought YOU were bad.Boredom – Your worst enemyKnow why? Shocking as it may be, most women say it’s because they get BORED.And they don’t only mean this-restaurant-again bored.Usually, they’re talking about BEDROOM bored.There’s a sad fact us men have to own up to: as lovers, most of us suck.I know, I know, I can’t believe it either.A few sad facts: most women don’t have an orgasm most of the time. Quite a few women have entire RELATIONSHIPS without once having an orgasm.There are even some women who go their whole LIVES without one. Can you imagine what that’s like?Also, can you imagine how long you’d stay with a lady if she couldn’t give YOU an orgasm?That’s right, one night.Women put up with it a lot longer not because it’s less important to them, but because they’ve learned to live with disappointment.The long search for the ultimate OStill, when they’re in an unfulfilling relationship like that, it’s not particularly strange that women would search for their sexual fulfillment elsewhere. Hell, statistically, it’s probably happened to you – whether you know it or not.But there aren’t enough guys who GET IT to satisfy the attractive desirable women in the world, so even the affairs are usually disappointing.Perhaps it’s just the excitement of being naughty, perhaps the selection of men for purely sexual purposes (as opposed to relationship material), but A LOT of women get MORE sexual satisfaction from their affairs than their relationships.Even if it STILL isn’t what they need.See, here’s the thing. And I’m going to be very blunt here.Almost every man isn’t, well, a MAN.They may look like a man. They may talk like man (sometimes). They may play one in their daily conversations, in their pick-ups, in the men’s room.But in the BEDROOM, this is something you can’t fake.Only a SUPREME sexual confidence is what does it.Sexual ConfidenceListen, I’ve spent THOUSANDS of dollars (literally) trying to figure out the key. I learned all the techniques possible –and a few impossible ones. I became a master at impressing and attracting women – any woman, anywhere.But that didn’t do it. I mean, sure, I got to have plenty of sex with gorgeous women, but whenever I wanted…. something… DEEPER, it always fell apart. I needed theKEY.After all my study and observation, months of conversations on the subject with a psychologist friend, and plenty of quality time with various types of women, I found the key.Next level shit timeMy new course, Blissnosis, is ALL about this.It goes BEYOND anything I’ve taught before.In the past, it was all about getting the girl. That is OBVIOUSLY the most important first step – without the girl, you can’t get anywhere.But if you want to KEEP the girl – or get even BETTER at cracking some of the tougher shells out there – you need to get ADVANCED.We already know that over half of women cheat on their man. Of the rest, some won’t fool around because of strong morals, or simple resignation.A VERY few don’t mess with anyone else simply because they ARE satisfied.FINALLY.The smallest percentageA man who has TRUE sexual confidence – a kind of confidence that runs deeper than any other – you won’t have to worry about a woman drifting away from you.She won’t be bored. She won’t be faking. She won’t want anyone else because, frankly, she’s probably never MET another man who has the confident presence you will.Let alone been ATTACHED to such a man.There are WAY more attractive and desirable women then there are men worthy of them – so most, in their heart, know they are settling most of the time.They aren’t free to be themselves, because the men in their lives haven’t created the right environment for it.Fantasies – an exampleWomen have just as many sexual fantasies as we men do – and yes, like all guys, women have some which are risqué.But when their MAN doesn’t have the confidence and openness to tell a woman what he REALLY wants in his sex life, she’ll follow that lead.Just one example, but a common one, and a very emblematic problem.Truly confident men will LEAD, and the women in their lives will take on that same freedom.Not only will you be completely OPEN, not only will you experience a wild sex life – the kind you, literally, DREAM of – but you’ll REALLY satisfy your woman.Plus, you’ll help HER flower and experience HER fantasies.You’ll help her become a complete person.Become completeBut she NEEDS you to achieve this – because this sort of thing requires two people. And you need to have the sexual confidence to take it where it goes.How do you get this? Check out my newest product, Blissnosis, to find the KEY that will make EVERYTHING possible. Get any woman you want, keep her happy – happier than she’s ever been – and BOTH of you get to become more COMPLETE than you’ve ever been. Change both your dreams to reality.You just need to give yourself permission to become what you want to be.You just need the key.Derek Vitalio
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Questions from a reader:My question this time relates to dealing with objections and hesitation from a woman after approaching her. The main objections that keep coming up are:1. “I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.”2. “Look, I don’t really know you.”3. Look, I don’t really want a relationship.”Could you please give me some ideas on what to say in these situations in order to reassure the woman and continue the pick-up?Derek’s Response:There is a simple truth about most attractive women: they aren’t available long. They face a constant bombardment of passes, flirting, and general neediness in men.Maybe only one out of a thousand guys who approach these women are going to be deemed worthy of their time – but considering an attractive woman is probably propositioned by an average of 50 guys a day, it doesn’t take very long for them to find a man.Add in that a number of them need the affirmation of a relationship, and a number of them see being with the best of the litter – until the next guy comes along – as preferable to being alone, and a number of them are just bored, and a number of them want to have a boyfriend as a way to keep needy unworthy guys at arm’s distance, and a number of them will just say that they have a boyfriend for the same reason, whether it’s true or not… you see where we’re going here.Finding a woman worthy of dating WITHOUT a boyfriend is the rarity, not the other way around.Because of that, you can’t afford to simply write them all off.Now that doesn’t mean I advocate poaching another man’s lady. Far from it – actively breaking up a relationship is bad for two reasons: one, sooner or later you’re going to wind up VERYuncomfortable when a jealous ex comes after you: and two, a woman who trades up that easily is not the best bet for YOU going forward.That said, very few relationships last too long, for one reason or another. So when you meet a woman with a boyfriend, feel free to be playful and flirty and do all the other right things you’ve learned by now – but every time things threaten to get sexual, give a sly smile and draw back a bit, saying something about how bad she is, tempting you like that.But ok, I’m getting pretty involved here; let’s step back a moment and deal with the initial “Boyfriend” comment.The rules: be unfazed, be funny and cool with it, be, in fact, the same cool dude you’ve learned how to be, but even cooler because she now knows you’re not simply aiming for her panties.Some examples of responses I’ve used to the “boyfriend” comment.“Congratulations. I have a dog, but you don’t see me bragging about it.”“Huh? (puzzled silence) Oh, I get it. You’re incredibly attracted to me, and scared that I’ll cause you to be unfaithful, so you need to push me away. It’s ok, I’m used to this. I promise not to do anything tempting if you promise not to fantasize about me cleaning your pool. Can’t we just be friends?”“Me too! (with a ridiculously overdone lispy accent) We should double date!”(silence, to quiet laughter, to a fun look) “You have a very high opinion of yourself, I see. That’s good, that’s healthy.” (more quiet laughter, at which point she’ll give a playful slap to the arm)You get the idea. Don’t talk to her like a target – but like your sister. Be playful, don’t be scared off, and you’ll get yourself implanted.Then, once she’s single, she’ll remember you. Bingo.As for the “don’t really know you” line, I usually turn the tables with something like this:“Yes, and I don’t know you either. Frankly, I’m a little scared of you – I’ve already got too many stalkers to deal with. But if you PROMISE not to follow me everywhere taking notes, I’m willing to give you a chance.”Have fun with it. NO ONE knows ANYONE the first time they meet, so play around with that fact. Talk about YOUR fears to disarm hers.And when it comes to the “don’t want a relationship” reaction, you should… wait for it… PLAY with it.“What, you only want me for my body? I’m tired of being seen as an object, and frankly I’m very offended. You’ve got quite a hole to dig out from now. I have FEELINGS TOO, you know!”Obviously, this has gotta be delivered very tongue-in-cheek.So what’s the over-riding theme here? DON’T get intimidated, and DON’T act as if she’s trying to break off the conversation.It’s all part of the game, andif you treat it that way and just go on being your charming self, you’ll do just fine with these objections, and thousands other like them.Derek Vitalio
As you know, the incredible, life-changing Speed Life seminar is coming up in November a very sunny place. (Yes, it really is as beautiful as all the pictures and yes, the pretty girls really DO love foreigners!)
Anyway, since this seminar promises to be almost overwhelming in the amount of personal improvement and personal influence methods and secrets, I wanted to give you the jump-start by giving you some drills you can get started on RIGHT NOW!
These aren't required. But they will help you hit the ground running when you get here.
BTW, if you haven't booked a room and want some advice on that, call Ross: 310.822.5771)
Anyway, as I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is...
.......Recognizing and Getting Off Of Auto-Pilot!
Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in...trances of fear..of limitation...of doubt of lack....
..............Really Do Not Serve Them!
Actually, these trances DO serve someone. They serve the "power structure" that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the "authorities" on how to live an "ok" life.
Getting Off Of Autopilot..Now..Today!
One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed paterns of perception, response, action, etc.
To develop this "meta" awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.
You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill(how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.
Sometimes, the advice is lacking(as is the case with my rip-off, cheap-jack, bullshit imitators and "competitors")
But just as often, even with good "advice" and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.
What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc
This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.
A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog shit, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN. That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awarness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and "in the freezer" LONG enough for new way to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES
This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts. Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.
I'll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward... Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful. This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!
How To Use Breath And Energy To Immediately Set You Free!
Does this make sense? Now, here is the next exercise to do: As you know, I talk alot about a spot on the body located about 2-3 inches below the navel, between the navel and the public bone. If you've studied any martial arts, occult or "esoteric" disciplines, this spot is called different names: the kanda, the t'an t'ien, the hara, etc. Without getting into intricate explanations, you just need to view it as a major power center in the body and a major awareness center as well. So....stand upright. Feet planted about 2 feet apart. Take a deep inhale, and as you do, imagine the breath is moving in a soft line of energy feeling down the front of your body and swirling in the t'an t'ien. It doesn't matter if it is clockwise or counter-clockwise. Find out which works best for you.
Exhale by pulling your belly toward your spine and as you do, send strong line of energy from the small of your back up the center of your spine, out through the top of your head.
(By the way, you can go to the website and see a free video that will show you exactly how to do this...http://www.seductiontuition.com/speed-seduction Click that link. Scroll down the page to the second to the last video. You will see me demonstrating this with myself and teaching it to a student.
And if you want to learn more about doing this, I highly recommend my Fear Into Charisma video/DVD. Just click here to find out more: http://www.seductiontuition.com/speed-seduction )
Onward Do this breath about ten times. Now..as you go through your day, whenever you talk to people, focus on that inhale going to the hara, and put your focus and awarness there as you feel the energy swirl. You don't need to work about the exhale, except when you are alone, doing the ten breaths.
Out in the world, just focus on your awareness and breath in the hara. Notice how it changes your awareness and perception of people. Don't change anything else in your behavior. Just notice what you notice:
What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in yourself? What patterns of response/behavior can you notice in yourself, BEFORE they actually get manifested in your behavior...can you catch some "auto-pilots" that are now just considerations that you can actually put aside? Don't try to MAKE this happen..just notice if it does?
What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in other people? What specificly do you notice about how they respond to authority/power and how they exert authority/power with others? Can you notice which of their behaviors are "auto-pilot" and which appear more freely chosen?
Anyway, I look forward to seeing you at Speed Life, and I can't wait to also introduce you to the "Super-Team" of other amazing trainers.
