Secrets Forgotten

Teen Motherhood
I had my daughter when I was 17. I didn't really know how everything was going to turn out.
I didn't know how good of a mother I was going to be. All I knew was that I was going to raise my daughter the best that I could do on my own.
I was a single mother at 18, when all my friends were graduating, and spending time with there friends before they went to college. I was at home changing diapers
and fixing bottles. I didn't and don't regret my daughter, but I missed out on a lot. I love my miracle with all my heart, so I don't blame anything on her.
I took the chance, and the first time, I got pregnant. I was like the other girls, "oh it won't happen to me." but it did. I didn't get to graduate with my friends.
I got car sick so bad, so I had to drop out. Instead I got a GED. I didn't get to go to my prom with all my friends. Didn't get a senior picture,didn't get to do all
the things I wanted to do as a senior. At what was supposed to be my graduation I had a 1 month old daughter with me, and she pea'd all over me. I couldn't congratulate
all my friends because she was cranky and I had to get her home. I'm writing this so that other teens that read this know that it can happen to them, and they
are prepared for what comes along with it so that they think twice about taking those chances. It doesn't ruin your life, it takes your life in a different path
And if you want to go down a path you choose to you won't be able to. Motherhood is the best thing that happens to you. Don't ever make it something you will
end up regretting.

Statistically
The statistics states:
"Teen pregnancy is viewed to be the cause of many problems. Teen mothers are more likely to not finish high school or college. Additionally, it is estimated that as
much as 80% of unwed teen mothers end up welfare. Compared to 25 years ago, pregnant teens are also far less likely to be married.
A child born to a teenage mother is also seen to be at a disadvantage in society. As they get older, they are more likely to do poorly in school and have a greater chance of
experiencing abuse and neglect. It has been found that sons of teenage mothers are more likel y to wind up in prison. Daughters of teen mothers have an increased risk
of experiencing a teenage pregnancy themselves."

I wanted to be the exact opposite, and I was. I didn't graduate high school, but I did get a GED. I know a lot of single mothers with sons, that aren't in prison
And daughters who are in college and not pregnant. I don't think its the teen mother thing, I think it has to do with the way they were raised. If you are raised badly you would most likely raise your child the same way. that's what I think.

My Daughter
Everything I did and do was for her. I didn't want to be the type of mother who thought of herself then
her daughter. It's very difficult thinking about how you are going to raise a child to be there own independent person with great values. I want my daughter to be the one defending another child being made fun of, not the one making fun of others. How can you do that? How can you look at a 4 year old
and tell her how bad the world is? and why you don't want her to talk to strangers. When she asks why theres a little girl on tv thats missing, how are you supposed to
tell them why? Those are some things that I have not figured out how to tell her. My daughter accepts anyone into her life, and at times thats scares me.
No one will ever know what true love is until they have had a child. I thought I knew, but I didn't. Yes I love my boyfriend with everything in me,but the love for my
daughter is so much more intense. I could never ever imagine myself with out her.

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Nicole is a 23 year old mother of a 6 year old girl. 5"3', Blond, Johnny Depp, Gwen Stefani, Pickles, Animal Lover. Love Marylin Monroe, Elvis Presley, Judy Garland. Very fond of History. More?
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