Emotional Purity
What's emotional purity? Emotional purity is doing your best to save your emotions for the person that you will marry. In other words, you are reserving yourself for your future husband. This require guarding our hearts, our minds, our thoughts, our words, our emotions, and our eyes, It means saving that close, intimate friendship for one man only, avoiding premature emotional attachments, and staying free from the intimate bonds that can form easily, but are then painful to dissolve. Emotional purity includes guarding our eyes from those "fun" romantic glances and stares, keeping our hearts from being poured out until the right time, and taking captive thoughts that want to run wild with fantasies and dreams.
We see this concept throughout the Bible. Holiness means "being reserved for one." A powerful picture and important pattern is found in Genesis 24: 16 where Rebekah reserves herself for Isaac the way the church does for Christ. Emotional purity is hardly even considered possible in our present society. But think about it this way : How would your future husband feel if he knew that some other guy knew your deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and emotions? What would he think if some other guy had known you even better than he himself knows you? Or how would you like it if some other girls had dozens of long, deep, intimate conversations with your husband and knew practically everything there was to know about him?
You see, there's more than just keeping your physical purity, or even your first kiss. There are many firsts that will be special if you make them special by saving them for the right time rather than trying to generate romance with every young man you get to know. Some special things may include,
- First expression of interest
- First words of affection or love
- First gift given or received
- First romantic look into his eyes
- First trip together
- First special song, place, event, or memory
- First ring
- First dinner date
- First "I love you"
- First piece of you heart given
- First serious or ongoing correspondence with a young man
- First special affectionate nicknames or actions
- First kiss
This is not a list of rules but rather, it's a list to make you think. As girls, we shouldn't be trying to get as close to the line as we can get. The question should be "How much can I save for my future husband?" It is not that we are merely trying to avoid the worst, but rather that we desire to achieve the best!
As a teen girl myself, I struggle a lot with keeping my thoughts and mind pure. Sometimes I would find myself dreaming off all about a prince charming and how he would lift me off my feet. I would get very frustrated when attacked with these thoughts. What are some ways to help? Well, I usually pray to God about these thoughts, I will often ask him to replace these thoughts with pure godly thoughts. Also when those thought arise in me, I will pray for my future husband, that he will be able to keep his purity and focus on our Lord Jesus. I will PRAY for my grandparents who are not yet Christians. And when I do that, it really helps me! I mean, satan is the one trying to tempt us by giving these thoughts, but when I just pray for myself, my future spouse, and others; it backfires on him! Next time, Satan will have second thoughts about giving us those ungodly thinkings.
Well, I hope and pray that I have helped you in some ways. May God Bless every one of you as you continue to serve him in shining ways.
Much Love,
Beth 
some excerpt from "Before you meet Prince Charming". By Sarah Mally.