"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.”~ Richard Bach
Cocaine abuse causes great emotional harm to partners and family members. Coping with the destructive behaviour of a cocaine addict is exhausting. We can not control their behaviour no matter how hard we try, we must stop trying to rescue them, we must let them experience the consequences of their actions, and we must understand that Cocaine addiction and control don't go together; no cocaine addict is in control of their addiction. Once addicted the cocaine is in control of the addict not the other way round.
A Cocaine user loses the quality of patience – they start to feel an irresistible desire for the drug and cannot wait, they must take cocaine immediately. He or she cannot say to themselves ‘OK I’ll wait another day or a few days.’ They have to have it immediately.
Thus, in general it is very difficult for a user to deal with feelings of displeasure, aggression, sorrow, disappointment, or with tension and conflict, if they are not immediately resolved. This is a considerable obstacle to them understanding the process of change, necessary to end their addiction. Or to understand what family and friends are feeling.
In addition, cocaine abuse is an extremely selfish activity. The user starts thinking and looking for drugs to the detriment of everything else. They no longer take an interest in family and friends for their own sake; Family and friends start to get used to satisfy the user’s own needs.
This site is not for Cocaine users, it’s for the partners whose lives have been affected by cocaine. Please feel free to post and share your experiences with others in our forum. Always remember that you are not alone, it’s not your fault and things will get better. Start focusing on your future.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."~ Eleanor Roosevelt
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