Walk With Me

                                                                                                                      You can come with me to this lovely garden 

Just walk with me amongst the flowers step by step

We can enjoy the moment alone together

Look about you now close those lovely brown eyes

Hold my hand and enjoy the quite moment

As we walk in fields of bright colours reds pinks blue and yellows

So lovely a garden

Soft grass below our feet like a carpet so soft

Come sit with me and enjoy this wonderful pleasure

Share it together as we talk quite

And relax in the inner garden of our minds together as one

Smile that lovely smile hold out you hand in loves embrace

To such a wonderful Garden in your mind

Always close in our hearts and minds as close loving Friends

Forever and forever

What Is True Love?

The following viewpoints are just some thoughts on what love is. I do not claim them to be right or wrong in the eyes of others. I know each person has his or her viewpoints on what love is.You might say it is just a way to release all that is inside. So sit back and read. Who knows, you as the reader might find it edifying, and yet you might see an image of a Person you just don’t like. Either way, You the reader judge

“Love is blind”

How we all have heard this saying that “Love is blind”. In my life I’ve experience this on a personal basis. There is some truth to it, but what it is; is just a form of infatuation. When I found myself experiencing this, it was like an overwhelming feeling of utopia. Unfortunately this feeling of utopia was short lived. It was kind of like an emotional high, but what it did was distract me from the reality of the world around me. I found myself just doing things without realizing that the choices I made did have consequences, nor did I care. What I found out later on, after the veil of being blinded by love was revealed, the actions when I was in that state changed my life. It lead me to unnecessary pain that would have been avoided had I stop just for a moment in time and reconsider what I was feeling was real or not.

“Love is pain”

How ironic to think that the love is pain, but there is absolute truth in this. In every instance that I knew I loved someone, there was pain somewhere along the line. The reason why pain exists in love is because love truly cares. Had I not felt a form of love that showed caring, I would have not felt anything. To me, being in the state of mind where you are emotionless is being lifeless. Hence, if you feel nothing, there is no pain. The end result would be you did not experience love. There is pain in love also because when I opened my heart, I was totally vulnerable. It was like going out on the war fields totally naked without no armour or protection for my heart. When you can love like this, eventually you are bound to be hurt, especially by the person you give it to. The reason for this is the fact each person is only human, doomed to eventually make mistakes. These mistakes unfortunately are sometimes directly or indirectly given to the giver of love. So we find ourselves giving pain to the very person we love. That is why I also think it is totally fictional to hear someone say,” I promise to never hurt you.” It is like saying the impossible. To say that would mean we are not human.

I also feel that love is pain when there are expectations, and when those expectations are not met, or some how in some way reaches a point where it wasn’t meant to be; we then feel the agony of pain in love. This pain can be felt when one is being in love and not receiving the same love back. I will discuss this in detail under “Being in love”.

“Love is actions”

We all know that technically love is define as a verb. Of course a verb is a form of action. So many times I’ve heard people say, “I love you”. Even though the act of saying “I love you” is an action, it isn’t enough to just to say it. Love is more than words, but when one is willing to say, “I love you” it is only the first half of the evidence of the real existent of love. After it is said, there must be consistent actions that follow it, and not just for temporary period of time, but as long as time exist. If these actions come to place where it stops, so if it stops performing actions then that is saying love isn’t anymore. This would devalue the very meaning love because love is a never-ending form. It has no end.

“Giving love”

In order for love to be birthed or exist, it has to come from an original source. Someone has to be ready or willing to pour out love for love to exist. Giving love to me is an unselfish act that just does without any expectations of any kind in return, but a willingness to share what is inside me. It is an offering of a part of me to that person. To me when I give love, there is joy and a form of fulfilment that comes from that act of giving love. To know that I can share something to someone else freely without reverence is an unmatched treasure. Giving love is also sacrificing your own wants and needs for the sake of another. So, to give love is stating you are placing someone else before yourself. Their needs are have a higher value in your eyes than your own.

“Receiving love”

Of course when there is a giver of love, which means it was meant or direct to someone else, a receiver of that love. Unfortunately sometimes when love is given it is not always received. I confess I too was at this place one time in my life. It is a cold feeling, an empty feeling. A true lost if you ask me for love to be given and the person isn’t ready to receive it. To receive love is accepting part of something greater than the world can give you. Of course not everyone can receive love when love is given, but to receive means to be willing to open your heart and soul. You must be willing to be vulnerable and allow it. I feel those who do not receive love or reject love it is because they have fear inside them. This is understandable as I have been hurt before, and it resulted in fear. But, the more I pondered on it, to receive real love, or true love…is receiving something that we shouldn’t fear, because it is pure and intended for our own good.

“Being in love”

Gosh, what can I say about “being in love”. I know for a fact everyone has felt it somewhere along his or her life. From a personal stand point; I admit I’ve being love several times in my life. On the positive note of being in love, I would say it is the most wonderful feeling, emotion, and completely fulfilling thought. The notion of feeling of having total security with someone else that feels the same way for you is beyond words itself. I guess the reason why people enjoy “being in love” so much is because it is being fulfilled in an area of our heart that the tangible world can not give. Therefore, I believe it makes it more precious and valuable to the individual when they are in love. I feel that being in love makes a person feel special, wanted and needed by someone who is completely separate from us, but yet share a common union through the equality of love that they have for one another.

On a negative note concerning being in love, is to fall or be in love with someone that does not share the same level of intense love is an experience I wish no one to have, but I know realistically some have felt this. It is an agonizing feeling. In a way we inflict our own selves with hurt. It is actually even unfair if you think about it. Imagine, here you are pouring your very heart and soul to that person, and they don’t give back equal love. It’s no wonder there are so many broken hearts in the world. For me, at one point it literally destroyed me as person. My life did a complete u-turn. I lost all faith in myself, in people, and trust was a not a word that I believed to be true.

Also, another issue about “being in love” that I always hear, and I am no exception to this either. How many of us have said to ourselves or to someone we love that we are not in love with him or her anymore? For me, to fall out of love or stop “being in love” meant that something happened in order for me to stop feeling in love. It usually happened when the person that I was in love with, inflicted some form of pain to me. It made my heart reconsider if I wanted to feel this hurt again. The moment I felt this way, it was like an instant separation of my heart from theirs. I think too often why we find ourselves falling out of love is because we live in a world that demands so much of us. We soon forget ourselves in the midst of our daily living. Now, if we forget about our own selves; how can we honestly expect “being in love” to thrive in our hearts?

“Love Unconditionally”

to love this person, no matter if they hurt me or not, I am In this world where everything is based on conditions, it is hard to imagine the word “Unconditionally”. To me, to love unconditionally means to share something that is beyond the human feeling, or emotion. It is a going to still love them as they are.” (Of course the only exception to this is if giving love in an abusive atmosphere) It is deciding in your heart and mind, when you tell them you love them unconditionally, you are telling them that so long as you live, you are making a daily, moment by moment choice in every part of your life to give rather than take from them. When we can choose to make a committed choice or decision, it takes away all the excuses for not loving the person in any situations, no matter how long it may last.

Concluding Remarks

In conclusion, I would like to say that overall love is beyond value if we try to compare or give it worth on a tangible basis. I wish everyone would experience the existent of love in his or her lives. Some times in life when things goes bad, and seem we have lost everything from love ones, to the world around us, if we hold on to the faith of having love in our lives, it will give us hope, and hope keeps us from feeling total despair where there is nothing left to live for. I for one am a lover of life, because it is such a precious gift to live, to breathe, and to know that my life has worth, purpose and meaning. So, I say to you all who read this live and learn, let love be part of your lives. It will give a whole meaning to your life if love dwell in the midst of your daily existence