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these disclaimers, but I feel I must include it. I am not
responsible for any content contained below. These are the
stories sent to me from other army girlfriends, fiancees, and
wives. Please respect them and their stories. If contact
information is included, feel free to contact, but, as always with the
internet, be cautious and respectful. Thank you to those who
chose to submit their stories and show the world what it is like to
date/be engaged to/marry someone who is 'married' to the army.
Thank you to all of you who write to me to tell me your story. If you would like your story put on my webpage, email me your story (kate1204@gmail.com),
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on the internet. As I receive stories, I will post them on the
Other Stories section. Thank you for sharing.
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Dear Kate,
My name is Danielle and I'm 21 years old. My boyfriend Will (24) is
currently deployed in Iraq and I'm going out of my mind. I'm also in the
military and thought this would be a piece of cake seeing as though I've
witnessed this everyday for the past 4 years with colleagues and friends. Boy
was I wrong. I am having the hardest time accepting the fact that my
boyfriend is gone and in a dangerous place. After talking with my mom about
how hard it is to express my emotions to people who just don't understand she
suggested I look on the internet. And that's where you come in. I have a hard
time sleeping, and he's constantly on my mind. We've been together almost 2
years and although I know 21 is a young age, I know he's the one for me.
We're both in the National Guard so we take part in the one weekend a month,
two weeks a year but I've been working fulltime for the guard for 3 years
now. When we met I was working a second job here in Boston as a waitress. I
waited on him and was mesmerized by how handsome he is. Since that night (he
left me his number and about a 50% tip) we've been inseparable. Neither of
knew then that we were both in the National Guard. Weeks later talk came up
about what else we are interested in besides waiting tables and carpentry
(his civilian profession) and come to find out he had asked me out a year
earlier and I shot him down on a drill weekend. I'm hoping to find some
ladies that have been through this before and maybe want to talk to a
devastated SPC going out of her mind. I really can't discuss my relationship
to my co-workers since although dating within the military is allowed to a
degree it is frowned upon. In my defense we are in different units and under
different chain of commands. I have a myspace and email
(
daniellekkelly@yahoo.com) and I'm hoping to make some great army
wife/girlfriend friends, to help one another get through a very difficult
time in our lives.
Thanks for listening!
Danielle
it is okay for you to post this on the internet
My
name is amanda, i am 18 years old and recently married not only to the
love of my life, but the military too. My husband and i met in
highschool, I was a junior, he was a senior. I actually ended up
graduating the same year he did (one year earlier than supposed to). We
graduated in june of 2006 and he went to boot camp in january of 2007.
We got married 15 days after he got out of boot camp. He originally
joined the army as a reserve but a few weeks out of boot camp he
decided he wanted to go active duty. So we spent maybe a month or so
together and then he was gone again to fort leonard wood missouri, to
in-process for our first duty station, which is hawaii. It ended up
taking a lot longer than expected and i got put concurred travel, so he
was in hawaii for another month almost two, until i got here. So, now
its october and my husband and i have been together a whole 3 and 1/2
months of this whole year, and he deploys to iraq in december, possibly
november. I have only met 2 people since i have been in the military,
and always looking for people to talk to in the same situation, if you
would like to contact me feel free i have aim and my s/n is armywife045
and my email is
mynicholas0459@hotmail.com
You can put this on your site if you want.
My
name is Jaclyn I am 18 years old. My husband and I got married in Feb.
of this year and things have been really really hard. A couple weeks
ago we decided he was going to join the Army as an MP at first I was
okay with everything until I found out that were not gonna see each
other for 6 months and I know for some people that does not seem so bad
but for me that seems like forever he is my bestfriend and all I have
my family does not really talk to me and I rent a room from a lady that
is never here. I feel so alone and scared I have never felt like this
before and I have never felt so alone before I live in a town where I
dont know anyone and I really dont have anyone to talk to. If anyone
wants to talk to me I would love to get the mail. Just e-mail me at:
jaclyn_alan_flores@yahoo.com Hope to hear from yall! Jaclyn
HI, my name is melissa. And Im 16 years old im
engaged my fiance is recently in basic training. We've been together for a year
and i love him so much. I always knew that he wanted to do this whole army thing
but he told me last minute that he joined and he had to ship out the following
week. He graduates in a couple weeks than he goes to ait. But im
having a rough time wihtout him i worry about him so much and thier is
really no one to talk to because no one understands. My friends dont really care
to listen. Its really hard wihtout him he is my life support. I was just
wondering how i can make this go by faster and easier. My e-mail address
is dat09latina@yahoo.com
Thank you very much for taking the initiative to create a site for
young army wives. lt's easy to feel alone when your man is gone for 15
months. My fiancee's name is pfc ******, and he is in Iraq right now,
at Anaconda air base in Balad. He gets back on R&R in November, and
we're getting married then. l'm so excited! lt was really nice to see
what other girls like me have to say about going through a deployment,
because we really do go through it every bit as much as they do. Thanks
again kate. Your site touched at least one person tonight. -Jennifer , Palm Bay Florida
cupcake307@hotmail.com
hi my name's lia - full name is talia...
i'm
a bit older than most of you - i'm 29 :) but my husband is coming up to
his first - yeah - first - deployment anf i'm pooping myself just to
think how lonely i'm going to be here in germany without him. we met
while i was Stateside - dated for a good couple of months, he proposed
last april on my birthday and we were married late may this year in
denmark. i'm originally from south africa so when people ask "how did
you two meet" its pretty cool to hear them/see their faces :) and then
to still explain why i'm here in germany (he's stationed here) well
anyway - i hope this site can help me keep my chin up. he's going out
between the 10th to the 21st of this month....soooooo....yeah. i'm
scared :)
thanks for the website kate!
regards :)
Lia* taliahadad1978@yahoo.com
My Story :) You Can post it, if you'd like
Someone
once told me that I'd never forget the years i was in School. I never
knew how right they would be. I was 12 years old when I was in the 7th
grade. I made the cheerleading squad the summer before and once school
started I became class president. I had had puppy love boyfriends in
elementary school, but I knew notthing of love and I wasn't looking for
it. I wanted fun and excitement. The first week of Junior High was
different. We had combination lockers and we had such a small school
the Junior High was combined with the high school in the same building.
That Friday we had a back to school dance. I had begged and begged to
go, my parents kept saying no, but finally gave in. It was a mix of 7th
grade all the way up to seniors. Of course all of junior high
overdressed so I was in a red dress and all the older kids were in
Jeans and cute tops (Live & Learn!). I danced with my friends with
the fast songs and we got drinks on the slow songs. Well, During one of
the fast songs I saw a Freshman doing the seawalk. I knew him. Him and
his twin sister moved from Illinois when i was in the 3rd grade (I told
you its a small town). But he looked different. He had blonde hair and
green eyes, a button up shirt and baggy jeans. He was soo cute! He
asked to Dance with me and pretty soon we danced together the rest of
the night. The next monday at school I saw him between classes and we
said Hi and Bye etc. He was a football player and he met me afterschool
at my cheerleading practice. He asked for my number and I nearly fell
out! I couldnt wait to get home! We started being a couple after that,
had our first kiss at a football game, it was the perfect
cheerleader,football player High School Romance.
We were together from then on, growing up together and having all of
our first experiences with each other. We knew we'd be together
forever, and our favorite topic was spending eternity together. Where
noone would tell us we couldnt be together.He joined the army his
junior year of high school and He asked me to marry him! Of course
everyone thought we wouldnt go through with it. I was 15 when we got
engaged! When he graduated on May 27th 2005, I had just finished my
Sophomore Year. We got married 15 days later. One day after my 16th
birthday. I was 16 and he was 18. Everyone said I was pregnant (Which I
was not) & they all said we wouldn't make it (which we are!) I
finished high school a year early through homeschool. We made it
through basic and AIT,Got stationed in Schweinfurt,Germany and we were
together for 9 months (not counting the months he was in the field) and
he deployed to Iraq. He has been there for 10 months, he was supposed
to come home August 29th, but got extended to October 22nd (thats the
date as of now).We enjoy taking long walks with our dog,Maverick &
just being together! He is a great soldier,Great Husband and one day he
will become an even better father. We just had our 2 year wedding
anniversary he surprised me with a diamond ring and pink roses in the
mail,since hes still in Iraq.We are still fighting to be together,but
our love is worth the fight :) I can't believe I married that boy I met
at my first dance, but he can have every dance for the rest of my life. leslie_shelly@yahoo.com
Hello, my name is Jessica, I'm 21 and
I am married to Justin. We were married June 22nd, 2007, almost two
months exactly from our engagement. Reason for the short engagement,
which I'm sure anyone could guess, was that he was home on leave right
before deploying to Iraq. I met Justin through a friend while they were
in AIT together. When they came home on leave I had a party at my
apartment and he came. For me it was love at first sight, I heard the
angels sing when he got out of his car. lol....but seriously I think I
did. He had a cheating girlfriend I knew about because we used to talk
on the phone a lot and he'd tell me about her. I just could never say,
HEY I'M RIGHT HERE!!! I had some respect for the girl, however, when he
came to the party I knew it was different. I knew he was there to see
me and it turned out we got along just as great in person and that was
it. We were together I believe a little over 2 years before we got
engaged, with of course the short break up. He
left in the beginning of July and will serve 15 months over there.
After the wedding, I moved to Oklahoma (I'm from Detroit) because he
was stationed at Ft. Sill, to spend my last two weeks with him. Justin
will come home on R&R for our one year anniversary for two weeks,
which I am counting down the days for. Currently, they have no mission
over there yet and it sucks being stuck in a dust bowl when I know he
should be home with me. : ) However, I know this won't happen, just
wishful thinking. I'm looking forward to moving back home to Detroit
real soon and waiting out the rest of his deployment with our family
and friends.
I wouldn't say I am "married" to the Army, I'm just a part of it. I am though married to my husband who is in the Army.
Jessica
For
start...My name is Sheena and I am 17 about to be 18 in 3 months.I
dated Michael for 5yrs... we were engaged for a year and 9 months and
now Married for 3 months and 2 days! Weve known each other sence I was
like 8 and he was 10, and LOVE started when I turned about 11 in ahalf
12!!! NOw weve been inseparble ever since. He is what I call my other
half! I know im young BUT I love him and I couldent see my life without
him! I CAN and will wait for him as long as I have too. Because i know
and understand that love just isnt something physical, but rather
something you can feel, believe in, and hold close to your heart!! The
feeling of knowing that someone loves you so much is more than anyone
can imagine...and when you have that feeling...you should NEVER let it
go!! I do get lonley that he is not here but i know that i cant just
sit around the house and mope around, because it solves nothing and
causes grief and depression! While he is gone I am doing constructive
things like School, Cheerleading, working and joining clubs and
programs... so that i can stay busy until we are reunited again! The
only thing We can do ladies is support our men, and be faithful to
them! Know one knows what its like to be Married to A soldier but
US...lets show the world that not only our Husbands are strong and
willing but so are we...we can make it...and only through Hope and
faith!!
Love Yall, and wish you the BEST of LUCk
-ShEEna- lorimaner@msn.com
Hey there, my name is Carli. i somehow came across your site &
fell in love with it.. It was wonderful having an opportunity to read
these stories. i feel like im not so alone now!
\please post this on your page if you can!
My
name is Carli and i am but 17 years old. I am not an army wife
yet...but will be very shortly. My boyfriends name is Danny and he is
the greatest thing to walk into my life. He was already signed up
before we met so i knew what i was getting myself into. I tried hard to
listen to people when they told me not to fall in love with this boy
because he'd be leaving me. But that was impossable. Danny is my rock
and my angel & without him life almost seems worthless. We fell in
love quickly...The kind of love you only hear about in story books. I
realize im young but i have found the man i want to spend the rest of
my entire life with. I've never been so proud of someone before. I
don't think Army wives/girlfriends get enough credit. It's hard. Very
Hard. But we love our soldiers more and more everyday & we learn to
respect the fact that they are gone...even though we miss them
incredably much. I'm honord that my man is fighting for our freedom
and i thank him everyday. It takes much bravery to join the army at a
time of war. God Bless our soldiers out there & if anyone needs to
talk feel free....
mangusc2008@yahoo.com <3 my heart goes out to you all.
My name is Darcell Rincon I'm 20 years old and married the man of my dreams.
We started dating in middle school when we where both 13 and when we turned
16 I found out I was pregnant with a little boy. He was born our senior year
of high school and we where both scared to death!! We both decided that
having a baby young was not going to stop us and continued our senior year
the same, we both continued to play sports; volleyball and basketball with a
new born child. It was hard at times but we always made it work. People
expected us to fail and break up because of our age but we proved them
wrong!! After high school we decide to both go to college plus work with a 7
month old, but then my husband wanted to join the army? I was scared but
told him I would support any decision he made and at this time I only wanted
was to be married before he left!! we both had to think about this very hard
but know this was the best thing. We had planned to get married in 2009 and
need to change a few things. He has only been gone for 3 weeks now and I
miss him so much, I cant wait to see him. I am really scared and don't know
what to expect, I am still attending college and will graduate in Dec with
my associates in General studies, so I am hoping our life is staying to fall
in to play like god planned. I am hoping that someone in the same situation
will e-mail me and let me know what to expect when you move on base;
housing,money, schools? I support every wives decision but my only advice is
to keep looking a head to your future, never second guess your decision
"What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger".
thomasrincon9023@yahoo.com
Hi my name is cristina and I really love your website. i just wanted
to post my story on here.
Me and ricky met when i was a freshman and he was a junior. we met
thru a mutual friend and we started getting to know eachother.
everyone in our high school thought that he was "the cutest guy in
school" and i was so proud that he was atleast giving me the time of
day. well over time we drifted apart he got a girlfriend so i stayed
away. but eventually we started talking again and he asked me out on
4.6.06. we've been thru soo much from hell and back. but now we are
happily married. he has always wanted to join the military but i
always held him back because of the war and i was just too scared to
let him go. but last may i got pregnant...keep in mind im only 17 and
hes 20...now i feel like this is the only way to be okay in life. now
are beautiful daughter is 5 months and i just graduated high school 2
weeks ago and we got married in hawaii on 5.12.07. i am really trying
to support him with his whole dream about being in the army, but its
hard i dont want my daughter growing up with out her dad. i have so
many fears about the army life and i would just love someone to clue
me in about the whole process and how itll all work out. please
someone email me <
clrfolchi@gmail.com>.
he is scheduled to leave on the 19th of this month. everyday
closer...the sadder i get.
Hi Kate! I found your webpage online. I think it is awesome you created that.
My husband is active duty army. He flies helicopters and I am the SAHM
to two young, BEAUTIFUL, and "busy" (God bless 'em:tongue:) sons.
My husband just spent a year in Honduras and now has orders for Iraq.
I don't know what I would do without the spouses I have found on
support boards on-line. My husband has his fellow pilots and soldiers,
but we have each other (this is particularly important b/c civilians
have such a hard time TRULY understanding what it is like living the
military life). Unlike our husbands, we have to create the environment
for bonding instead of having it created for us by virtue of going to
work! LOL.
The Army always says that if it wanted my husband to have a family,
they would have issued him one. Well, that is all well and good, but
the fact is, he DOES have a family. And the Army (try as it might)
cannot divorce the happiness and well-being of the family from that of
the soldier and vice versa; what affects one inevitably affects the
other.
ANYWAY, I am babbling. Because of the length of the war in Iraq, some
spouses and I were inspired to create a group for spouses who are
interested in being informed and involved in the next Presidential
election (Military Spouses for Change). I was wondering if you would
be willing to put a link on your web-page? Please check us out at
www.militaryspousesforchange.com.
Thank you!
Carissa
militaryspouses@hotmail.com
PS
I am currently working on a Military and VA Resources Page. If you can think of any, please let me know.
My name is Jenni and I am 22 years old and my husband PFC Young is
away in South Korea. I met him in High School he was truly my high
school sweetheart. Boys came and gone in between our high school
relationship but I knew in my heart he was the love of my life. We had
a beautiful girl leap day Feb 29th 2004 Brianna. Then we got married in
March 28th 2005. And we had our second child October 10th 2007. We
currently are in Charlotte NC because my husband had to go to school in
Fort Eustis,VA for 8 weeks then after he was suppose to graduate me and
the kids we going to move to VA to be with him but 2 days before his
graduation we found out he was going to Korea for a year!! Most
depressing thing I had to go through because when he left my son was
only 6 months old. Its hard being away from him cause its me taking
care of our children day and night. To be a Army wife is a big
privilege but its hard and you have to be a strong person to get
through day to day struggles with your husband away. He'll be home for
his leave time in October for our sons 1st b-day but he is missing out
on everything and when i have a rough day at work then come home to our
babies its hard not being able to talk to him and since we are not
living near a military base yet I don't have other wife's to talk to
that is going through the same issue's. I miss my husband and cant wait
for him to come home. He does have a phone but with our different time
zone I cant talk to him all the time cause he is 13 hours ahead of us
her in NC. Thank you for reading my thoughts its hard to talk about it
cause no one understands what a Army wife goes through unless you are a
Army wife yourself. Our husbands sacrifice alot and so do we Please
pray for our troops and there spouses! Lots of love to all of you and i
an so proud of my man serving our county!!.
I just came across your page and I thought it would be cool to add my story to you page!
My Name is Melissa Strickland, I am 18 years old and I got married
to my soldier June 9th, 2007. We met in 7th grade at school and have
been dating since 9th. We got married two weeks after I graduated. Ryan
(my husband) is currently based in Japan and has been there since
November of 2006. He is based there for 3 years, and hopefully I will
be going over there soon. Ryan and I were about 3 months into our
relationship when he told me he was thinking about joining the army
reserves. I didn't want him too but supported him the whole time, after
he came back from basic the summer before his senior year he decided to
go active. This was really hard for me to understand why he would do
this. The summer after he graduated he went to Ft.Bliss for AIT and
then returned home for 2 weeks (when we got engaged) He then went to
Japan where he is now. He recently came home on leave for our wedding,
and he left 6 days after we got married. I am now working on getting a
military passport so I can move over there with him. I would love to
talk to anyone who is feeling alone like I am. I was just getting used
to him being gone and then he came home for 3 weeks and I am starting
all over again.... E-mail me if you want to talk!
Armywife6907@yahoo.com
feel free to post on internet
My name is Ashley. I'm 18 years
old, and my husband deployed June 12, the same day he and I got
married. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to face in my life.
When I watched him get on that bus to go to the airport, the tears
streamed down my face and my heart was aching. It's even harder that I
haven't even been able to spend a full day with him as his wife. My
husband is a wonderful, brave, strong man, and I love him with all my
heart. That is why I married him. Even though he cannot be here
physically at the time, he is there for me emotionally and he makes
sure I am well taken care of. It is hard on both of us, but I know our
love is strong enough to get us through this. He is my life and my
everything, and even though it hurts, I am so very proud of him.
moonlightkissez531@yahoo.com
my story is so similar to yours. my husband left a week after we
got married, (three days ago), we don't have kids.. and i'm only 21. what did
you do to stay strong because these 3 days have been the hardest on me -
ever!?!
rhandi ReRoX023@aol.com
It's fine for you to post this on site!
Hi,
my name is Dana and I am 18 years old. My fiance' is 19, and recently
went to his duty station in Louisiana (*Fort Polk*). I am to be married
next Friday and move next Sunday. My fiance' and I are high school
sweethearts! I met him my freshman year, but we didn't start dating
until my junior year. I NEVER imagined that we would even go out, let
alone get married. He was the guy that every girl wanted to date. I was
the same way, but I just never thought he was interested in me. He
proposed right before basic and it really surprised me. I am VERY
nervous about moving to Louisiana being that I have lived in Atlanta,
GA my entire life. Can anyone tell me what I should look forward to
after moving on an army base (*as far as work, everyday life, and
making friend's*) Also how to deal with not being around family. Email
me at
atlzhottest07@yahoo.com
thank you!
My name is Nicole, I'm from New Jersey. I am 22 years old I have been with
my boyfriend for 3 years now and we planned on moving out together and
getting married as soon as I was finished with Nursing School. We are
inseperable. Well I graduated this past May and am scheduled to take my
boards July 30th. I feel lilke I have gotten shorted because my fiance has
decided to join the army in hopes for special forces. He has a great job but
isnt happy and I think it's deeper than that, taht the army wont fix. Now I
can't stop crying when I should be getting ready for the next chapter that I
have worked so hard for. I know I should support him like these women on the
web site, but I feel like this is an impulsive, selfish decision and I am
not included in it at all. I dont know if I can stay with him through this,
we have been through sooo much and I dont know if I have it in me! How do
you army wives muster up the strength to put yourself through the lonliness
and pain??? Do we have a choice??? I am so confused , if someone can give me
some advice, that would be great.. Thanks.
Niki7202@msn.comI give you permission to display this on the internet and would appreciate
it.
I give you permission to post my story on the internet.
Hello,
My name is Whittney I am 22 Years old and my husband is 21, we have been
married for 3 years and we do not have any kids, yet. My husband has been in
the ARMY for 4 years, So I knew I was in for the surprise of my life. Oh and
I got that surprise BIG TIME!!!! We have been very lucky so far, we have
been at the same post for 3 years, and my husband Ryan has not been
deployed. All of this makes me feel very lucky, so if I complain I feel bad,
like I should have nothing to "whine" about. But my life has been I guess I
would say difficult. We were VERY young when we got married. Then We moved
to Va (very close to Washington d.c) after we got married, im from SC (I
lived in a VERY VERY SMALL TOWN) We were so young we could not have a "real"
honeymoon, we still are yet to go on any kind of ,trip what so ever. Well,
I moved straight from my parents house to a small apartment with Ryan. I had
no car knew nobody, and Ryan has a very demanding work schedule that changes
monthly, so I am alone about 75% of the time. I was stuck in an empty
apartment alone, scared and confused. Our first year of marriage was so
hard, we would fight all the time. I was crying all the time and my parents
were miserable, I felt I had hurt everyone around me. The next year I was
diagnosed with Depression, which I felt had been brought on my my moving. I
have since been fighting it with a vengance and have it under control. My
relationship with Ryan is the best it has ever been, and I feel like I have
a grip on my life finally. But, I still feel very alone and lonely because
no body back at home knows what im going through, and I know a total of like
4 other ARMY wives. I don't go to the FRG meetings because im the only one
without a kid. So I feel like im the only ARMY wife from our base without
kids, we plan on having them but we just are not ready yet, at least Ryan
isn't. So that is basically my story, kinda boring I guess but who
knows???????????????
Thanks
whittney_sc@hotmail.com
Hi, my name is Kelly, and first I want to say what
a great thing you have done here with this site. I just have a question
that I am hoping you can help me out with. My boyfriend is in Mosul right
now, unfortunaely he got slapped with the 3 month extension. We were
planning to get married in October, obviously, that's not goin to work. He
still wants to do this, but I'm not sure how it would work with us being where
we are. Any suggestions? Please feel free to respond via
e-mail kellyewers@hotmail.com. Thank you
so much for any advice you can offer. May God bless your family and keep
your husband safe.
Hi,
I have just found your website and thinks is great!At the moment me and my husband have just been posted to Germany.
Before we left England we where told how i will love it and i will make so many friends, well they couldn't of been so wrong!
I have been here now for 3 months and so far haven't made
any friends as im a young 20 year old army wife, with no kids, all the
other army wives seem to be older and have kids,there are so many clubs
for them but nothing for young wives with no children, also where we
live there is no jobs, so I'm not even meeting people that way.
At the moment i don't know how im going to stay out here for 3
years!also my hubbie is going to iraq next year and I'm so worried that
when he goes i still wont know anyone or have any friends, every where
i go around the camp everyone seems to have their own clicky group, i
feel i have nothing in common with the other wives.
I was thinking about working from home but all the sites go on
seem to be a scam, anyone out there in the same position as me would
love to hear from you. jenloat@googlemail.com
hey my name is lena im 21 years old and im married to a us soldier!!
im from germany and my english is not perfect im sry for that:-(
We have 8 month old son!!!
My
husband is in iraq and he is supposed to come back in september but its
not for sure they might have to stay 3 month longer!!!
I really miss him and i just want him to be here with me and our son!!!
We dont have the chance to talk often which is really hard for both of us!!!
But im thankfull for every call he can make!!!
Its a hard time and i looking forward to hear from you and i want to say thank your having this webside for young army wives:-)
Lena
lena_s_k@yahoo.de
I am married to Spc. Jeff Johnson Jr. I
am 22 years old and he has been deployed since Sept 2006 and not due
back until Dec 07. Times are hard here at Ft. Jackson bc i have no
family here and the South is what i expected it to be. Jeff and I met
at a grocery store in Three Rivers, MI where he grew up and I 10
minutes away. We both worked at the store and i was his bagger as he
checked out the guests. How we got to talking is that he is so awfully
blond i asked him if he was albino! He just laughed and i said, " Oh
don't worry i am not offended." Along with all of that, we became fast
friends because of the love of music we both have. After dating 11
months and living in GA i discovered I was pregnant. We moved back
home and Jeff couldn't find a job, he enlisted. On August 12, 2004 we
got married and he left for Ft. Jackson for BCT on August 26th. I had
our son Vince in November and Jeff couldn't attend, but he was on the
phone with me while i was giving birth, which meant a whole lot. Our
lives have changed drastically and i wouldn't change anything for the
world. Having my best friend gone for so long has hurt, bad. No Army
Wife can deny that we do have the toughest job and do whatever we can
to stay upright. Like i always tell my husband, keep upright angel,
and you will be home before long. That is for all you wives as well,
don't worry, he'll be home, just be his inspiration while he is away!
Thank you for listening
email anytime!
Courtneyrj@hotmail.com
IT IS OKAY TO POST MY STORY ON THE INTERNET
HEY
EVERYONE MY NAME IS DORNESHEA AND I AM 19 YEARS OLD. I AM GETTING
MARRIED IN AUG. OF 2007 BUT I AM NOT SURE OF THE DATE. I AM MARRYING
THE BEST MAN IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD AND THAT IS PFC DEVALLACE E. HE
RECENTLY JUST SWITCHED BRANCES. HE WAS IN THE NAVY NOW HE IS IN THE
ARMY. I MEET THE LOVE OF MY LIFE MY FIRST YEAR OF COLLEGE AND I REALLY
DIDN’T PAY HIM MUCH ATTENTION. HE WAS NOT MY TYPE. SO HE USED TO DO
LITTLE THINGS TO CATCH MY ATTENTION. WELL FINALLY I GAVE IN ON FEBUARY
7, 2007 I WAS SITTING IN SCHOOL CAFETRIA AND THAT’S WHEN HE WALKED UP
TO ME AND ASKED ME IF HE COULD TAKE ME OUT. SO I SAID SURE. THE LOVE OF
MY LIFE AND I HAVE BEEN A COUPLE FOR 4 MONTHS NOW. WITHIN THE THIRD
MONTH OF US DATING HE CAME TO ME AND SAID NESHE I WANT YOU TO BE MY
WIFE. I REPLYED WOW YOU WANT ME TO BE YOUR WIFE. THEN I ASKED WHAT MADE
YOU COME TO THAT DECISION. HE SAID HE DOES NOT HAVE THE DESIRE TO BE
WITH ANY OTHER WOMAN. AFTER THAT MY HEART MELTED TO THE FLOOR. SO NOW I
AM WAITING FOR MY MAN TO COME BACK HOME TO ME. HE HAD TO GO TO TRANING
AND SCHOOL HE HAS BEEN GONE FOR 2 MONTHS NOW. MY MAN WILL RETURN TO ME
ON JULY 26, 2007 AND I CANT WAIT FOR THAT DAY. OH YEAH I WILL FIND OUT
OUR PERMITTED DUTY STATION IN 2 WEEKS. I AM LOOKING FOR SOME FRIENDS
THAT CAN RELATE TO ME AND KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE AN ARMY WIFE. SO
PLEASE NEW/EXPERINCED WIVES FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME AT dobailey1987@yahoo.com
First
of all i do give you permission to post this on the net and your web
site made me cry for about an hour but had alot to help out thank you.
My name is Bobbie I just turned 21 and am married to PFC James, I
have a 3 year daughter Acacia that he is adopting. I am also pregnant
with our first and last together due at the end of Dec 2008. I meet
James at the end of april 2006 2 days after he got out of AIT in a chat
room, we talked for hours every night until about a week later when we
met at my house first I spilled wax on myself and had to change and
after we left he slipped on mud so I didnt feel so bad. We went to a
party at a friend of mines we both we very shy but very into each
other. He was in the army resv so I was a little worried about him
deploying right after we met but never the less he asked me out in the
same chat room and we talked every day and we together every weekend
until july when he moved in with me. Oct 31 2006 we were married and
he signed papers to go active to help with money we left in Feb 2007
for KS and a week after being there found out he was going to kuwait
for a year. I was heart broken as was he. A month after that we were
told for sure he was leaving being of may for 15 months now. A week
befor he left I found out that I am pregnant we are both very excited
about the new baby but worried bc the baby will be about 8 months old
befor James gets home. Me and my daughter moved back home to WI to be
around friends and family who are very supportive and try to understand
what we are going thru. My daughter thinks of him as her daddy and is
proud to be an army brat but misses him more everyday and every knock
at the door gets excited thinking hes home. Most nights I still cry
myself to sleep. But we both say this has made us relize how much we
really do love each other and took avange of even sleeping next to each
other. Im always avaible to talk my email is
PFCJAMESWIFE@YAHOO.COM and i give permission to post my
email.
What are the right words to say to my son who is about to
miss his first childs birth on Sunday june 3
rd little junior will be
born. He is in basic training now in SC and wont be able to be here when he is
born. What do I say to him? He is so depressed!
Jannie jaanniiee@sbcglobal.net
It is okay to post this...My name is Janie and i am about to be
married to Spc. Black. We are stationed at Fort Riley Kansas. We just
got here last week and found out he is to be deployed this month. We
are supposed to get married first week of April. This is my first
deployment with him since he has not been before. I am here all by
myself and not sure how i am gonna handle things. I have two brothers
that are on their third tour but this is soo diffrent. I just need to
make friends maybe that will help. If you would like to talk or maybe
share some tips with me please feel free to email me a
Memori_19@yahoo.com thanks.
Janie
I meet my husband many years ago but only have been together for 3yrs
and married for 2. We have a son together that has ADHD and my husband
is a drill sargeant and I baily even see him. I'm learning the military
ways as I go. We have a FRG but I have trouble socializing with people.
I live in Columbus, Georgia my biggest problem is find a job. I would
like to work from home but I'm having trouble finding an organization
that is not going to cheat me out of the money we do have. I wanted to
hear some ideas or advice you guys as military wives that were in the
same place I'm in now. I love my husband and I respect him for the job
he does and love the honor he has in doing his job but this does take a
toll in our lives. I need to learn how to deal with the lack of time we
have together, I need help financially, and just learning how to deal
with change because moving so much is a hassle. Please help. Sincerely
Edna Lauzon
urlatindiva@yahoo.com
My name is Angela, I'm an Army fiance. I met SSgt Rick online in
March 2006. My story is one you may not post, I will leave it up to
you to do so. I would be happy if you did, because I promised Rick I
would let anyone and everyone know how much I love him. And right
now, I'm looking for any type of connection with someone who may be coping
with close to the same situation I am. When Rick and I started talking
online, I couldn't believe how lucky I was to meet such an amazing
man. He was starting training for a different MOS when we met, we didn't
quite know when we would be able to meet. Within a few days we knew we
were falling in love. The connection was astounding. To me he's a miracle,
my miracle. A month later he proposed while we were talking over voice
comms on the computer. We were ecstatic, of course I said yes!
He was going to be through with his training at the end of May and we planned to
be married then when he could get leave. As we all know, the Army
doesn't exactly take into account personal plans.
When he completed his training, he was told he would be flying back
to Fort Bragg and would be going to a debriefing when he stepped off the
plane. He called me in a panic and told me he was sure he was going to be
deployed. Sure enough, 4 days later he was flying to Iraq for a tour
of 2-4 months approximately. I assured him that I wasn't giving up on
him, I am in love with him. There was no way I was giving up on this
wonderful man that I've waited so long for. I got an idea about finding
some books on military life, deployment. I found a wonderful book,
Separated by Duty United in Love that was very helpful. Rick was able to
get into an online support group that we joined together. We met some
wonderful people. We talked every day most of the time, we were lucky for
that. I read books to him over the voice comm, books he was
interested in that I got for him, including Separated by Duty. We
sang songs for each other, in fact one of the songs he sang for me is on
your website, "Here Without You". As always from the start when we fell in
love we talked about our future, getting married as soon as we could when
he came home. We talked with each other's families, he talked to my
Mom when it was possible, I talked to his sister by phone and email.
We still were amazed at how we understood each other, how this amazing
connection had happened. There were ups and downs, but we managed to
get through the downs together and cherished the ups. I surprised him with
a tattoo for him in July. An American flag with his initials and a saying
that is special to us both. "Mi corazon, Mi ser, Mi vida" which
means my heart, my soul and my life. That is what we are to each
other. He couldn't believe I had that tattooed to my left shoulder.
He said there were guys that wanted their wives or fiances to get something like
that, but they wouldn't. He thought it was awesome and was
speechless. We found out he was coming home the first of the month in
October, I was overjoyed. He was so ready to come home.
The best I can figure is that a couple of days before he was due to fly out
of Iraq, he was out on a mission with his team, that's when he was
seriously injured. The last time I talked with him was early in the
morning on October 8th, 2006. I didn't worry too much until the 4th day
came and I hadn't talked to him. I knew there was something wrong. I
started making inquiries the best that I could. I couldn't get a hold of
his sister, the cell phone had been disconnected and she wasn't answering
emails I sent. I continued sending emails to Rick. By the end of the
first week I got word through my inquiries that Rick had been seriously injured
and was alive. That was all I could get at that point. I didn't know
where he was. I found out at the beginning of November what Rick's
injuries were. He was at Walter Reed Army Hospital and he wasn't talking
to anyone from what I understood, not even his family. I received an email
from him on October 30th that said "It is over. I can't make a life with
you or anyone". I sent an email back telling him that I refused to take
that as an answer and I was not giving up on him. He has since still been
reading emails from me and my Mom. We've continued to tell him what he
means to us. The last date he has read emails was December 8th. I
send him at least one email a day.
Since I wasn't listed as an emergency contact for him, which I
understand can be done, I haven't been able to get updated information on
his status or condition. I am a non-existent person to the military,
since I'm not family. I still haven't been contacted by Rick's
sister. I imagine that Rick has told her to not call me. I know that
he loves me, but he doesn't want me to have a life with him the way that
things are now for him. He sent an email to my Mom in the middle of
November that said "I can't have her in this hell I've created". To
me, hell is the way it is right now, we're not talking and I'm
not with him. He believes I can have a better life without him, I
know that isn't right. He is my life. He is my future. I
believe in him and in our love for each other, in us. I know
there isn't anything we can't do together. I have tried every thing that I
know to try to get information on his status. No one will talk to me
through proper channels. I've been doing research on his injuries
through the web search engines. I at least have some information there as
to what he is going through. And again I've started finding books on PTSD
and related information to try to understand. Maybe I can find some
guidance that way. Until then, it's up to Rick when he
wants to talk to me. And I'll be waiting. I'll wait forever for this
man, he's my miracle! I miss him every day, he's my best
friend, my forever love.
The one thing I would like to pass on is if you post this, to
the fiances: If your husband to be hasn't already done so, have them
put you on as an emergency contact. Get their units name, unit
commander's name and way to contact them either email or
phone number. Some type of information to be used on an
emergency basis. Get to know other service member's significant
other's, their wives if possible. Being out of the loop is a
terrible thing, something I wouldn't want anyone to go through like I
have. Talk with his family as much as possible and talk about what to
do if he's injured. I know it's not a pleasant thought or conversation to
have, but it is important. Rick and I didn't talk about it. I
wish we would have. Hind sight is always 20/20.
flashbangfury@aol.com
My name is Kelsey I am 17 years old 18 in May so in
like 6 months. Well I meet Vince (my one true love) 5
years ago. But yet I still have not met him his
hometown is In Maplewood Minnesota so he lives here
close to me. He is in Kuwait right now. It’s so funny
how you can love someone so much but yet have never
met him. = { But anyways um he is stationed in Killen
Texas at Fort Hood. And well I am suppose to meet him
December 23rd but you know the army things change so
fast and you don’t even know it. I pray to god every
night that he will be here when he says he is going to
be. He is supposed to be here from December 23rd to
January 7th. I guess I can do is hope and pray. I and
Vince talk almost every day and when we don’t I just
sit up and cry all night long. Hoping he is alright in
which I would never know if he was because I don’t
know his family and it scares me to death. I am
supposed to move in with him in June after I graduate
and turn 18 I AM SCARED TO DEATH THOUGH FOR ALL
DIFFERENT REASONS 1. I know nothing about Texas 2. I
know now one there 3. I heard they have huge
cockroaches and I am scared to death of them Have
never seen one in person before so I don’t know what I
would do If I seen one all alone with none there lol.
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they have big crickets lol I am scared to death of
them to. But I guess 1 and 2 are way better reasons to
be scared. I COULD REALLY USE SO GOOD ADVICE SO PLEASE
CONTACT ME I NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE WHO HAS OR IS
GOING THROUGH THIS STUFF SO PLEAE PLEASE GET BACK TO
ME THANK YOU my yahoo id is brat_794 you can also
email me brat_794@yahoo.com …….. I doo give you
permission to post this and I also need it very much
thank you so much for your time. i just have so much
love for him and i know he feels the same for me
!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi My name is Ashley. I was reading your web site it is really cool I am in
kinda of the same thing my husband (We have been married 2 months) is in
basic tranning i am only 18years old he has sign most of his paper work
before we got really into each other he has been gone a month now i really
miss him and like talking to other army wifes they are like 20-30 years old
then me and there just like it gets easy They do not understand unless you
have kids are something all they talk about is there kids and thing. It is
hard right now we can not talk on the phone or email we have to write letter
to each other it really suck we have 4 month of this got any ideal of what i
can do to make the time go by please let me know at
abbey7321@hotmail.comthank you ashley
MicahHi, my name is Micah and I
am only 18 years old and just recently got married to my army love, Spc
Andrew. We were friends through high school and I had always had a
little crush on him but he was way to cocky for me..... yeah....oops. I
am new at being an army spouse, only three months and he was deployed 2
days ago.... I was hoping to meet some of the other wives but haven't
got the chance... Do you possibly have any ideas for me to keep my mind
occupied because I think I am going to out of my mind with worry? (waiting on ok to post email address)
Melmy name is mel and am 16 years old and i know that is quite young to be engaged but i love my fiance to bits he's my other half.
i met him before he joined the army through friends. i knew joining the
army was something he had always wanted to do and i was happy for him
when he joined it was his dream. what makes craig happy makes me
happy. he is the sweetest person i have ever met and texts me from his
camp every night. craig is 18 and is loving army life me and his family
are so proud of him. when he is away training i miss him so much its
like part of me is missing his calls is what keeps me going. he said he
would of found the army much harder if i wasn't here to support him all
the way. we had talked about getting engaged before he did because he
wanted us to be married before he goes to germany in a few years time,
so we can be together. one night he phoned me at 12am and proposed over
the phone he was whispering because his room mates were asleep. it may
not seem really romantic with his mate snoring in the background but it
was music to my ears to me. when he came home he proposed again this
time in his bedroom. i didn't know he was going to do it again he had
sprinkled rose petals on the bed before i went in then went down on one
knee with a beautiful ring in one hand and my hand in the other. it was
perfect! i love him so much and his love is the greatest gift i could
receive. so far our relationship is great. next year is what is going
to be the hardest part of our relationship so far as he is going to
afghanistan. craig is a wonderful man and told me he would understand
if i couldn't hack it and ended our relationship. i know each day is
going to be so hard for me and for craig to but i love him so much and
now he knows that when he comes home i will be here waiting for him. i
think its good that i can talk to girls in the same situation as me it
makes me feel less alone. my email address
scarletcooke@hotmail.co.uk.
Lauren Hi! My name is Lauren. I am
23. My husband is stationed at Fort Stewart in GA. But, we live in
Savannah. Anyway, we went to preschool up to sixth grade together. He
was like the "cool sixth grader." And I was in love with him, but, he
had no idea. I was a huge tomboy. I loved the outdoors, sports,
whatever... I even wrote in my closet with marker I love Andrew, but,
Andrew loves Cynthia. So I ended up going to another school and
forgetting all about him and all about being a tomboy. He started going
to my new school in 11Th grade. He couldn't believe I was the same
girl. We were dating each others best friends when we kind of I
realized we liked each other. We had been together two in a half years
when he told me he was going to the army. I was crushed. But, it was
actually a good thing. He is a good provider and a good husband so I
support him in whatever he wants to do. But, he is away training alot,
he is about to go back to Iraq for 18 months in September. So I would
love to talk to people in the same position. My e-mail is
lcwhite321@yahoo.com and my myspace page is
http://www.myspace.com/29223533
LaurenHi my name is Lauren and im 21. I am getting married
to pvt Grant June 22, 2007. We have been together for
almost 4 years, we met in Highschool our senior year
and have been together through everything! When he
left for basic and AIT it was really hard i cried alot
and we even ended up breaking up during his AIT but we
pulled through it and are now ready to start our
lives. He decided to go active recently he's been
Indiana national gaurd for 2 years now, and he is
signing his active papers right now. Im nervous and
scared because i have been hearing horror stories from
some Army Wives that i have met. I am trying to
prepare myself for going active and i know that
nothing will really prepare me its just something that
i have to jump into. My father was active in the Army
for about 10 yrs, and National gaurd ever since, he is
still in it today. My brother is active army he has
just came back from iraq, so my family is all about
the military and go figure i'd marry someone who wants
that life to lol. I was just hoping that by writing
this I could talk to someone and get advice or
information about going active since it will be just a
matter of time before we get shipped out somewhere (we
are trying for arizona but i want kentucky lol closer
to home). My email is
skittles_baby20002002@yahoo.comyou can email me anytime it's always nice to talk to
someone who is or has been in this position. It helps
knowing youre not alone.
Krystal
My name is Krystal and i am a wife of a Army Soldier. I'm 23
years old and it feels like i'm hopelessly lost without my husband here
with me. He left Feb 6 2007 out of Fort Bliss Texas. 12 days into
being married. it is so hard not being able to talk to him and even
harder because we are newly weds. but i moved back to CA to be with my
mom until he comes back. i just would like to know how others are
dealing with the separation cause i feel like i'm going crazy trying to
fill my day with work and even more trying not to let myself think
about what he might be going through "over there." i send him letters
every week. i'll write everyday and then send them out on friday but
what else could i do? i want him to know that i'm thinking about him
all the time without making it seem that i'm worrying about, even
though i am. i've had to stop watching the news completely just cause
it makes my heart break hearing about those who have lost their lives
fighting so bravely for our country. and it breaks my heart knowing
that that soldier had a mother, father, sister brother, maybe even a
wife and some kids somewhere. so i've just stopped watching altogether
and just pray for all of our soldiers to come home soon!!!!! so please
feel free to email me even if its just for someone to vent to or share
how your day was.
china_31@hotmail.com
Ashley
my name is ashley george 23 yrs
old and im married to spc george. i just recently got out of the army
because im 9 months pregnant with our first child due aug 20th. my first day at
the unit he was the first one to talk to me and its all pretty much a wrap from
there. they just deployed July 22nd to iraq and im having a very hard time.
i was in the army and i know that nothing they ever say is FOR SURE so i was
hoping they would just keep getting postponed atleast until we had our baby or
maybe just forever:). but sadly they left and luckily so far we have been
able to communicate freely even though its only been a week. they tell me when i
send a red cross message he might be able to come home right after our baby is
born but now im hearing he has to wait 90 days to come back home and i was
wondering if anyone could share what happened in their units? did they let your
husbands come back or not? i miss him so much and want to die every time he
calls but im trying to be postive and not let him know that im miserable because
i know he is. im also wondering how yall kept yalls relationships alive and if
things were the same when he got back. i know it will take time but i
guess i just want to know if its possible and what it takes to make it happen.
would love any emails asking or giving advice or just a friend my email address
is
armyho@aol.com and yes its just a joke!
god bless all of you wonderful women and i hope every time you all feel a little
lonely just remember there seems to be a lot of us wishing our men would come
home!
Valeriehi, my name is Valerie and my husband
to be is in the military too and I can relate somehow to the way you thought at
first. My soldier is deployed right now and it's not the first time. I miss him
sooo much that I wish he could just come home instead of being in a place like
Korea. I know he has a responsibility in the Army but at times it's hard to
understand, maybe because we are a young couple. What advice can you give
me?
DiannaMy name is Dianna and i am an army wife to SPC Scott. I am 23 yrs old. We are the proud parents of 3 wonderful little
boys. My husband and I met 6 years ago and were best friends from the
start. We worked together and were both married to different people.
Then we both went through very bad divorces and have been together for
4 yrs now, married one year on March 31st 06. We moved to Nebraska
after about 2 yrs together and he decided to join the army. So he went
to basic and ait. Our youngest son was born during this time..and he
did not make it home to see us until he was 3 days old. Then we were
stationed at Ft. Hood texas. We were all just happy to finally be
together! Not too long after arriving to texas we started hearing
rumors of deployment. So they planned to deploy out in Nov. 05. About 3
mnths before deployment we found out that we are expecting another
child. My husband deployed to Iraq on Nov. 27th 05 and on Nov. 22nd we
found out that we are having twins! Over the last few years it seems
that our family has spent more time apart then together. He will be
home the end of April/beg. May for 2 wks of R&R. We are hoping that
the timing of his R&R matches up to the birth of our twins...but
w/the army you never know. My husband should be home for good in Nov.
06(if they dont lengthen his deployment) then we are getting stationed
at ft. carson. So the children and i are staying in Nebraska w/my
mother during the time of deployment and for the arrival of our twins.
I am proud of my husband for the duties that he does for this country.
And i am very proud of the wives(like myself) that stay behind and
support their husbands and troops during these very difficult times!
Thank you for reading my story!
CandisMy name is Candis i am 23 years I am married to SPC. Henry. I met my husband at the age of 3 and we played house together
growing up. But never thought that down the road would we ever be
really playing house. When i was 16 i started staying with his sister
alot of the summer and she would come and stay at my house. Her
brother was going to boot camp then. But i was dating someone else and
didnt really think anything about it. When he came home his sister
asked me to go with her to a church ice skating party with her so i
went were i feel in love with Hank (Henry). He was so sweet at this
time I am now 17 on March 23 2000 we started dating on June 1 2000 he
popped the question. We had planned our wedding for Oct. 11, 2001, but
decided to move it up to May 25, 2001 so that was our wedding date on
Oct. 1 we got a call and saying that he was goin to have to leave he
was being deployed. Thank God he didnt leave that time. But March of
2002 he was called and this time it wasnt false in Oct of 2002 he left
to go to Bosnia we spent our 2 Ann(2 week leave R&R) In Budapest
Hungry We missed our first Ann. due to his 2 weeks in the summer for
the national guard. He didnt get back till Sept of 2003 at the age of
19 being alone was hard to do cause i had never lived on my own before
But i made it though it by the grace of God. In March of 2005 Hank got
the news again that he could either go with his friends now or go later
with another group he choose to go with his friends which was hard for
me to let go again my husband is still gone and this time we have
missed our 4 Ann. we are hoping that he is home for our 5 but that isnt
lookin good at all but though this we have found out how stronge our
love is and we are. At my age i have been put though so much and most
people dont have to deal with a live time but ANYONE CAN BE A WIFE IT
TAKES A GODSENT TO BE A ARMY WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!! My huband is my best
friend my lover and soulmate and i am the luckiest women alive and i
miss him with all my heart and soul. and i cant wait to be in his
arms again it will soon be 5yrs of marriage and we have spent 2 or 3
years if we are lucky together. But all of you hold on it is tough but
you will get though it and be a stronger person because of it. I
will be praying for all of your husbands or loved ones. My husband is
in Iraq this time which is alot harder on my
ValentinaHi my name is Valentina I am 26, and an Army wife. I met my
husband Brandon Nov. of 04, in Savannah, GA, where he was stationed.
When I met him i was living in FL. My best friend & I decided to
have a weekend get away, and went there. I met him that night, and it
was love at first site, ( i know, it sounds corny). Well, needles to
say, that not even a month went by, that i had moved in w/ him, and
almost 2 months later, on Jan 3rd 05, we got married.
He
was suppose to deploy, but they kept him back, and i got pregnant w/
our 1st child, (2nd for me), Gabriella Savannah, (yes, her middle name
is where we met).
We are now in Germany, and he is Deployed
to Iraq. It is so hard when you are back in the States, it's even
harder being in a foreign country. He is only been gone for almost 2
months, and it only gets harder, but w/ a 6 y/o and a 4 month old, my
day is pretty busy. But when night comes and it's all quiet, it's when
i get very depressed, and just can't wait to be w/ him again. I hate
being away from him, i just want to be w/ him 24/7.He is my soul mate,
my one true love. The hardest thing is when my 6 y/o, (she calls him
daddy), says "when is the daddy coming home?? I miss him", it's so sad
looking at her little face, about to start crying.
Luckily
i get to talk to him everyday, so, that makes everything easier. If
anyone would like to chat or anything, you can email at
Armywifee2005@AIM.comThanks for letting me share my story.
Valentina
Stephanie Ours is a funny story... James and I
met online, 2 days before my 24th birthday, I was in Saint Tropez,
France for my birthday with some friends. He was deployed in Kuwait,
but stationed in Baumholder, Germany, I was and still am living in the
UK. It was completely by accident when he sent a message to my email
address by accident. I replied and luckily he was online with a webcam,
so we got chatting. Suprisingly we were online for over 4 hours that
night and the following 2 nights, come to think of it I never really
got to see alot of Saint Tropez, but I can't complain. I knew right
from the start that James was something special, his confidence
sometimes borderlining on cockiness, his sense of humor and his openess
was so refreshing. I told myself not to get too excited as he could
turn out to be a monster with 10 heads when we meet.
Luckily
he was going on leave in 3 weeks to SC and he asked if it was ok for
him to come and visit me for the weekend. I couldn't beleive it, he
wanted to fly all the way to London to be with me just for the weekend.
I agreed after some hesitation and actually started looking forward to
the visit... what have I got to loose? I thought. When I met him at the
airport we hugged for what seemed like hours, all my nevers and anxiety
just disappeared and it was like being with someone who had been away
for a while. I knew I was inlove with him by the second day and so did
he, as he actually took me to this little antique jewellry shop and
asked me if I was gonna get married what would be my ideal ring? I
looked over on this lovely princes cut diamond and we instantly bonded,
to my surprise he told the man the let me try it on. It was perfect in
everyway. Then he got down on one knee infront of everyone and asked me
to marry him. I screetched yes.We did of course discuss the issues of
me moving to Germany later on that year when he gets back and then to
the states the following year.
So after a tearful goodbye and
talking on the phone everynight and online, he flew back to Kuwait. It
was so hard and it was about to get worse. He came online and said he
had some bad news, I took a deep breath and begged him not to say it as
I knew it involved him going to Iraq. To think yesteday our main
problem was deciding where to get married and what date. Now this....
He
left Kuwait the next day and it took him 2 days to get to Baghdad,
Luckily his phone worked so he was able to text me when they stopped,
so that sort of eased my mind slightly. Once he got to Baghdad and got
his room which by the grace of God had wireless internet connection, he
sent me an email describing everything, he said he was fine and I
should stop worrying but how can I not? I have found the man I want to
spend the rest of my life with and in a second he could be taken away
from me. I never knew this would be so hard. He comes online and texts
me everyday but still I can't bear the thought of him being there. My
friends don't understand and can't really offer support as they are on
the outside looking in. This can be a lonely life sometimes. Thses
obstacles only strengthen our love and his determination to make it
home safely.
AngieMy name is Angie my husdand chris and I were married July 9th 2005
a couple days after my 18th birthday. We met in december of that 2004
when he came home form basic training I was dating his step brother.
From the second he walked through the door I knew. Then lots of drama
hapened and in Febuary we became a couple on our 2nd date he proposed
(Feb 24). It was very hard in the begaing and still is. I had a hard
time leaving all my friends and family behind and moving to another
state. Then once I got to FT.Nowhere in hicksville I died. I went
from a big city with lots and lots to do & a major hispanic pop to
being the mexican couple and walmart. It was not cool Niether was
being 18 my husband is 22 and one of the youngest in his company and
the only one besides his sgt who is married. It was most gonna be a
year now and i have no friends i did meet one wife who seemed okay then
i found out she was having an affair. But I have my husdand and my cell
phone and as of 4days ago the internet still working on cable. YOU ARE
ALL MORE THEN WELCOME TO EMAIL ME. As I said I have no friends okay I
have one but she very far away and i dont hear from her that often.
TrishaMy name is Trisha, I am 19 years old
and just recently became an Army wife. My husband Chad and I met in
high school, I was a sophmore and he was a freshman. We met through a
mutual friend who I was actaully "talking to" at the time however I had
had a crush on Chad for a while, we had a class togethor we had just
never actually talked. Once this mutual friend introduced us it didn't
take long for our friendship to turn into more then that and on the
last day of school that year he asked me out. Then one day, about two
and a half years into our relationship he told me that he was joining
the army. I can't say it was really a suprise, he had talked about it a
couple times before and his dad had also been in the army however that
didn't make it any easier.
Then a couple
months after he signed the papers he left for basic training. That was
a very hard time for me, waiting everyday for a letter or a phone call,
missing him but it was worth it when I finally saw him again. I went to
his graduation with his parents and siblings and that day was just
incredible! After that he had to go to Airborne school for about a
month which was a little easier because he got to call and have his
cell phone but I still missed him every day. Then, before he had to go
to his base in Ft. Carson he got to come home for a little over a week
and that was when we decided we wanted to get married. So, telling only
my mom and a few close friends, the two of us went to a small church
and tied the knot on Feb. 10th, 2006! I've gotten a bit of grief from
family for not having a big wedding and being so young but I know it
was a good decision and for the first time in my life I am moving away
from home to Colorado to be with the man I love later this month. The
two of us have been through a lot of tough things togethor and been
there for each other when we had to go through things on our own. He is
my best friend and even though we may be young I know that we can get
through anything togethor!
My name is Jarita and I am 22. I
am married to Spc. Derek. I met my husband Derek in July of
2004. We met on the internet and became really good friends very
quickly. He was stationed in Fort Bragg, NC while I was living in
Montana. Derek was from my hometown. He planned on coming
to see me in September of 2004. When I first saw my husband he
took my breath away and I knew I met the one I was to marry. The
plantonic friendship grew to a deep love and admiration. Derek
and I dated long distance until May of 2005 when he proposed. I
planned the wedding and we were married a year to the day after we met
in person. We wed on September 9th, 2005. We moved to Fort
Bragg where he was stationed as an airborne combat engineer. I
was very new to the military life but I think I am getting the hang of
things. We are expecting our first child in June on the 22 on my
husband's birthday. We are excited about expanding our family.
Derek is doing his first deployment to Afghanistan in March and
he won't be present at his baby's birth but will try to come home to
see us as soon as he can. I am very proud to be an army wife and
am very proud of my soldier and I am going to stand by him through this
deployment and be strong for us as a family. I am also proud of
the job he chose to make his career. He also will be a great
father and is an excellent husband. I love him dearly he will be
missed while he is gone!
Lorie
My name is Lorie i am an army wife. Me and my husband got engaged at
christmas we started planning a wedding then he tells me it is his
lifes passion to join the military. I was made and did not want him to
do it, but........ he did it anyway. So we went ahead with the wedding
and on july 5 2003, we became husband and wife. 3 months after we were
married he left for boot camp and AIT. Was gone 5 months for that he
was home 2 weeks got his station and we moved we were there 2 weeks and
they told him your going to iraq. I moved back to Ohio with my family
because i was having a hard time dealing. We got through it though. H e
came back from there and is know currently deployed to iraq again. I am
living in Texas i desided to try and ride this one out alone but it is
so hard becuse i barially know any one here. And a 3 year old runs you
reggad let me tell you. Well thanks for letting me tell my story if you
like it i give you permission to post it. and if anyone would like to
e-mail me my e-mail address is
lynn00004@yahoo.com thanks again for taking the time to read this lorie
Daphney
Hello my name is
Daphney. I'm 19 YRS OLD.I was married when i was 18 almost a year
on nov.19.Well me and my Husband met in high school i guess you can
call us high school sweethearts, i dont know you decide?We met in the
lunch room i was a freshmen the roughest looking girl you would ever
see baggy jeans, braids to the back,over-sized shirt the whole
nine.Well of course he was very popular a junior and a pretty boy that
the girls adored.Well anyway the day we met i was walking in the
lunchroom and i sliped on a banana peel i know it sounds lame but i
honetly did lol.well he came towards me and had his hand out so of
course i assume its to help me up because i fell. But no i was wrong he
snitched his hand away and pointed me out to the whole lunch and
laughed so loud that the whole lunch room noticed i was on the floor.i
was so mad i hated him but at the same time there was something about
me that drew me to pursue talking to him. Well as time
went along i realized he had little interest in me.Never payed me any
attendtion i went to the floors he had classes on that i didnt just to
catch a glance and wrote letters and poems to him that i let others
give him, even though i did all these things he never gave me a
chance.So oneday during my sophmore christmas break i decide to give
myself a a makeover. so the day i came back i had on a tight fitted
jean outfit, hair was straigthen,eyebrows waxed everything to a t, was
perfect. so again i was in the lunchroom and a crowd formed around be
to complimate me and my transformation he than made his way though and
i over heared him say " whos the new girl" and when i heared that i new
i had him i turned around and he was in shocked to see it was me.well
from than on i though it would get better somewat it did but i only got
was "hellos" now. So i gave up i said hey watever.And of
course when i stoped following him around is when he came around.RIGHT
B4 HE GRADUATED But after that we have been though soooo many things
thoughout the years but nothing could ever break us apart i beleive
that we are one in a million couples that have real and true love.i
will BE with him even after death BECAUSE i worked to damn hard trying
to get him lol. NAH im only kidding im just glad that i have been
blessed with a amazing man.THANK YOU for letting me share my story.
- Daphney nyc,
daphneyjames@yahoo.com
I met Dominik when I was a freshmen in high school. He was
one year ahead of me and we dated all through high school. He was a
foster child and had no family and I fell in love with him immediately.
My senior year he left for basic training, he came back for my
graduation and proposed. We had big dreams of a family and kids and a
house in the country. That June he left for Iraq, I knew it was coming
so we were as ready as we could be. I began working and we saved up for
our wedding. In march I recieved a call saying that Dom was killed by
friendly fire. I'm not even sure what that means, how can fire be
freindly if it kills someone you love. Because I was the closest thing
he had to family I used our wedding savings and my college money to pay
for him to have a proper burial. I miss him more than life itself, and
I would give anything for one more day with him. Make sure that you
tell your soldier that you love him everyday and make the most of the
time you have together because you never know when it will end.
Shajuana
Hey kate1204, I am a military wife such as yourself. My hubby and have
had our bitter times soon after we got married. But things are much better now.
I am very opened minded to a lot of things now. I know it was very hard to see
your hubby go only 1 day after you all were married. My hubby and I have been
married almost 3 years and we were separated about 3/4's of the time. I like
you am scared of the unknown. I have cried so much in the past until but I
still love him no matter what unconditionally and uncontrollably. I have
always loved my baby. He has 1 son and we have no children together but it will
happen in the near future. When will he be back home? Do you all have a line of
communication going? I know it is hard but he will be home sooner than you
think or feel. Just keep the communication and lettering and care packaging going.
Feel free to email me at shajuanabossier@aol.com or missjamesunlimited@yahoo.com.
Your friend indeed Shajuana
Tammy
I am 19 years old and got married 10 days ago - my husband left 2 days
ago. Its really hard on me because I am 32 weeks pregnant and don't
know if he will make it home in time for the birth of our little girl.
I've always had trouble letting people go away and this is the longest
we have ever been apart in almost 2 yrs. that we have been together. My
mom and family try to comfort me but it doesn't help much because they
don't really know how I feel - because the longest my dad and mom have
ever been apart is 3 weeks - My husband has 7 weeks and then comes home
for Christmas. Its amazing how much you realize you love someone when
they are gone - he left Tuesday night and now its Friday morning and I
have cried so much and now I think I need pills for depression because
I was depressed before he left and now its worse. I guess I will make
it - it really helps to write to other people who has husbands that are
away.
pinky121503@yahoo.com
Mandy
My name is Mandy, I am 22 and I met my husband, Barry, at church when I was 12 years old.
The moment we made eye contact it was all over. When I was a junior in
high school, Barry decided to enlist in the National Guard. It
broke my heart. we had been inseparable since the day we met and I
couldn't bare to be without him for 6 months. He made it thru basic and
4 months after I turned 18 on November10th,2001 we got married and
had the most perfect wedding day. The first year we were married he had
a 3 week summer camp in Fort Irwin California and while he was gone our
house was broken into and most of our things were stolen. we
made the decision to move so we built a house and we broke ground on
November 2nd,2002. One month before we moved in, I became pregnant with
our first child, a son and we named him Matthew, because in Hebrew it
means "gift of God". I had Matthew on November 25th, 2003 and we got to
bring him home on thanksgiving day. In June of 2004, when our son was
just 7 months old, Barry was deployed, he spent 5 months in Mississippi
and 1 month in California before going over seas. all the while he was
missing all the first and It broke my heart that he couldn't be here to
be with us. In November 2004, Barry left for Iraq. Him being in
Mississippi was hard but I could handle it because he was out of harms
way, but when he called me from Germany on his way to Iraq, it
finally sank in who he was and what he was doing, he had been in the
national Guard for 5 years but he was only gone two weeks a year on a
base training for war, I guess I was just denying the fact that
he could be deployed. But I work at KFC and I have my son and between
the both it keeps me pretty busy, but at bedtime when I lay down alone,
That is when it hurts the most. But I am very fortunate enough to be
surrounded by my family and friends and although I still smile and
laugh, I feel only half whole, Barry is my best friend and the love of
my life and I pray every night God keeps him safe and comforts him.
It seems like everything happens to me
in November, because on November 9th just 1 day before our 4th
anniversary, Barry will be home.
so many things have changed, He left a
little baby and he's coming home to a 2 year old little man, and
Not to mention I am 25 pounds lighter. But when we talk on the phone we
tell each other that we get a fresh start and I hang on to that.
although we are different people our love is 100 times stronger.
If he is deployed 10 more times ,
I will support him and hold down the fort in Jacksboro, Tennessee
where we call home. I have truly been blessed with a wonderful
husband who loves me and little boy who is his spittin' image, I have
nothing to complain about. I just take it day by day and pray the next
day is shorter than the last I wish there was no hate in the world
but there is and we should be proud that our men are fighting it! I
hope you all can find comfort in my story and I wish you and your
soldiers well.
Mandy's email ad
dress is faith2025_3@juno.com
Natalie
Hi
my name is Natalie , I would like to add my story on your great site.
Ok, me and Nathan first meet 9 months ago..its a very weird story. I
was working at Taco Bell/KFC in Burkburnett,Texas. It was past closing
time and one of my co-workers traded closing jobs with me. He went and
locked the front doors while I washed the dishes. When he was done with
that and sweeping the floors I was tired of the washing so I traded his
normal closing job for mine. Well I guess he didn't do such a great job
of locking the doors because when I was busy wiping off the counters I
saw this weird guy come out of the womens restroom. I was so scared i
thought he was going to take the money and kill us all. We just stared
at each other for a long time, he looked like a deer in headlights!
Finally he just mumbled something about the mens room being jammed
(which is true it got jammed all the time)While walking to the front
door and exiting. I noticed him and two guys outside smoking. I dont
know if i was enticed by him or if i was just stalling, not really
wanting to mop. Well so i went outside and asked him for a smoke. His
two army buddies,who i am really good friends with now, were really the
only ones talking to me. He was really shy. Anyways as they were
getting ready to go, he turned to me and said "I hope I see you again",
without missing a beat i said,"yeah me too". I guess he got the hint
and asked me for my number. He called the next day, I didnt think he
would, and we went out a week later. Its been great ever since, we got
married August 20,05. But now its just hard because he went to Iraq
about a week ago.I moved away from my family in Texas and am now living
with his in South Dakota, so not only am I depressed but home sick too.
I could really use someone to talk to that knows what I am going
through. You can email me at Mitchgurl06@yahoo.com. And you can use my story on your site. Thanks
Melissa
My
name is Melissa, I am 20 years old, and I am an army wife. I just moved
to Petersburg VA from NJ to live with my husband who is stationed at
Fort Lee. We met when Mike was a freshman and I was a Sophmore. We
dated on and off through the rest of high school and my first two years
of college. We had talked about getting married in the future, but when
Mike joined the Army in February that all changed. While Mike was away
in basic I realized I didn't want to be away from him and wanted to be
with him forever. In April of 2005, I found that Mike shared those
feelings when he proposed to me. He proposed at Fort Jackson. SC on
family day before his graduation. We were married on July 15, 2005. I
have no regrets about getting married as young as I did. I love living
with my husband and I am as happy as I could be. I am currently looking
for a job as a bank teller and am planning to go back to school to
become a nurse. I would love to hear from others who are army wives,
fiances, and girlfriends. My email address is
Sparklindiva29@adelphia.net.
Tabi
When Kate first talked to me about adding my story to her website, I wasn’t quite sure that it would fit. She has since convinced me otherwise, so here it goes! My name is Tabitha and I am 22 years old and currently living in Duluth, MN. My fiancé Brent has been in the national guard for approximately 5 years. Brent and I met through a mutual friend about 4 years ago. She was my best friend, his best friend, and head over heels in love with him; which made us off limits to one another. We lived four hours apart, and our friend did a very good job of keeping us from one another. For about three years it worked just fine. Brent and I saw very little of each other, and talked even less often. The only things I heard about him facing deployment to Bosnia were through her. I prayed that he would come home safely, and always wondered what life was like over there.
In the midst of Brent being gone, I met and for a short time dated one of his good friends. After returning from Bosnia, Brent’s family threw him a big welcome home party. My friend begged me to go with her, and it was a wonderful opportunity to see Brent again. We
had spoken several times during his 9 month deployment, but not as
often as we would have liked due to jealousy of our friend.
Soon after his coming home party, we started talking quite often. Usually
they were drunken phone calls in the middle of the night (as we are
both college students) but it eventually came to be that we spoke for
several hours every night. We had an amazing connection that I had never felt before. He is honestly my soul mate and I couldn’t share more love with him if I tried.
A thing about Brent that should be known is that being in Bosnia greatly changed him. He went from being a playboy of sorts to a genuine sweetheart. Upon
his return he swore off his old lifestyle of parties and women, and
went in search of something of substance; something real. He has said that being in Bosnia gave him much time to think about his life, his choices, and his future. He was finally ready to settle down and know what it’s like to truly love someone.
We decided to start dating at the end of June. It is long distance for the moment, until this spring when I am finished with school. He asked me to marry him on October 16, and we have our wedding date set at May 19, 2007.
One thing we talk about is what will happen in the event that he is deployed. I miss him so much right now, and he’s only 4 hours away!! I am amazed at the strength I see in the partners of our military personnel back home. I hope someday when we are faced with the call of duty, I can find the strength in myself to carry on. He is not planning to leave the military anytime soon, and *cross your fingers* has no word of deployment in the near future. I don’t know and understand a lot of what he does, but he’s always willing to explain everything to me. I’ve found the man of my dreams, even though I swore to Kate that I would never be a military wife! I can’t say that I’m looking forward to a deployment, but I will say that I am preparing myself slowly for one that may come.
I am very willing to share other stories, thoughts, or just be an ear to listen to for anyone who may need it. I’m a psychology major, so I am very good at listening! You can reach me via email or instant messaging on (MSN) tbeauty00@hotmail.com.
Loz
I
first met my Fiancé on valentines day 2003 sounds corny i know but
hey. i had know that he had once been in the army but i thought he had
given up on that life, little did i know 4 months down the
line he decided he wanted to re-join the army, this is where it
all began.
As you will all know it is a long hard process for
both soldier and their partner, lot of waiting and a lot of
agonising over the results, but we finally got there 3rd May
2004!
The next big mile stone was his passing out parade
12 weeks after his big goodbyes there his is in the lime light again,
but where are we mentioned in helping them get there the times they
phoned wanting to give up, the moods cos they want punch something!
Then threes the learning the trade which for my
other half was driver! what is it an ego boost cos ur in a big
truck and you rule the road! MEN!
Then the hardest point his first over seas posting
not even been together 2 years and my man the one i want to be with is
in a another country. after a week we had decided that all the "FUTURE"
talk about us being married had to all come together and we set a date
got things signed and now we are waiting for the big day on 5th August
2006.
i have found many partners judgemental because
writing this i am only 17 i was 15 when i met my fiancé he will be 20
in February, i know we are making a big commitment that will affect the
rest of our lives but we are both aware of this and we know we are
doing the right thing. please if any one would lie to talk about this
or share your experiences please don't hesitate to get in contact on loz_swin@hotmail.com you can also add me to msn if you'd like.
cther
My name is
Heather, I am I military wife, and I am actively going threw a
deployment right now. Josiah and I got married in the summer of 03, and
shortly after that (about two months shortly) he was deployed to Iraq
for a minimum eighteen month deployment. However like some military
wife I was not aware of this deployment in till a week before our
wedding. In any case we got married and told each other that we would
get threw it.
At the time an 18 month
deployment felt forever!!!! I just couldn't imagine myself without
josiah for that long. Before josiah left we had a lot of problem, we
fought all the time, and about stupid little stuff too, it wasn't even
anything to fight about. This was all confusing to me because we had
been together for over three years before we had gotten married, it
just didn't make sense as to why we were fighting like this. For all
you that have been threw a deployment you might no this as
pre-deployment stress. Josiah and I was told that it is very
naturel to be fighting the way we were fighting before his deployment.
It was a mixture of a lot of emotions, anger, fear, sad, lonely,
depressed, poor me, why me. Im sure most of us have been threw
these if you are reading this right now.
But now being on the home
stretch with josiah being gone for 15 months I feel like the time
has flown by. I suppose in the beginning it did feel like forever,
and its natural to not know what to do, but as the time goes on the
pain eases, and you pick up and move on with your life. As bad is that
sounds you have to in order to stay sain. Im not saying that I have
never broken down and bawled, im just saying that if you let it consume
your life and every move, then your going to be very miserable during
the deployment.
Although we all have our
own way of dealing with things, and that's how I chose to deal with it.
I am not saying its the best way, IM just telling you how my experience
for me was. Anyway thought that I might give some insight on how my
deployment has been. If anyone wants to contact me, my email address is
Headyhc@aol.com . God bless to all of you.
Trish
My name is Trish , I am 23, and I am an Army Wife.
I am currently living in California with my parents, while my husband
is deployed in Iraq. We met in August 2001. One of my best
friends from High School was based at Fort Lewis, WA, and I went up
there to visit him with his girlfriend (now wife). My husband
was his squad leader. My friend had invited him to go
to dinner with us, and he came to his room early. ( I know this
is going to sound lame, I feel that way everytime I tell this
story) The first time I saw my husband, Brett, I knew that I was
going to marry him. I told my friends girlfriend about how I
felt, and immedietly she told me to stay away from him because he was
so much older than me and she had heard that he had a really bad
temper. I ignored her of course. I was currently living in
California, so when the long weekend was over, I had to go home.
We talked on the phone everyday, for the next four months, and visited
eachother once or twice a month. I moved in with him in,
Washington, the day after Christmas of that year. We lived in
Washington for nine months and then he got out of the military.
We moved in with my parents in California. He proposed on
Christmas day 2002, and we were married in August 2003. During
this time Brett couldn't handle being out of the Army, so he
re-enlisted and we were supposed to move to Ft. Campbell, KY and he was
in the 101st airborne. A month before we were supposed to move,
his parents told us if Brett didn't join the military, and we moved to
Texas to live by them, they would help us out until we got settled, so
we were off to DeSoto, Texas (a city 15 minutes south of Dallas).
We lived there for about a month before Brett got the military itch
again. He looked into going active duty, but then he decided on
the National Guard. About a month after he was offically in, we
got the call that he was to be deploye to Iraq in January of