I am very sorry. I have had to disable the guestbook as it was receiving many inappropriate comments. I know it was very useful to many of you but I am not able to monitor it closely enough to prevent spam. I would recommend the many other military spouse websites for networking and help through this difficult lifestyle. Kate
When
I began attending college, I met my husband
through his roommate. They were both ‘Army guys’, and I was
intimidated. The Army was a lifestyle that I had never been
introduced to, much less ever thought of joining. As it happened,
he stole my heart, and I knew that he was the one for me very soon
after we started dating. As a wife, I stand by my husband both
while he is overseas and home, and he supports me in everything I do,
no matter where he is.
Attending our Family Readiness Group (FRG) has shown me that every Army spouse sees their duties in a unique light. The biggest difference I have seen between most Army wives and myself is that their husbands joined or rejoined the military after they were married. Thus, they generally had the opportunity to make the decision to be a military family as a couple. We met and married while he was active in the military. At the FRG meetings, I had trouble with the concept many wives repeated over and over, being ‘this is our duty’. I never had that strong connection to the military that the other wives seemed to have, and thus, I felt as if I wasn’t ‘as good’ or as supportive as the other wives. It took much reflection to realize that we all deal with separation in our own way, and that there isn’t one way that is better than another. We all agree that separation is difficult, and we all love and stand by our soldiers. Another time I went to the FRG meeting, a wife told me that when her husband calls her, she always puts on a happy face and only gives him good news and leaves out the bad news. I talked with my husband about this, and we both know that we would assume things were worse than they actually were if we had no information to base our assumptions upon. Every person affects the way we think and act. The FRG meetings have shown me that we are all military wives together, but can handle the same situation in correct, but very diverse ways.
This
website is based on my reflections and experiences with the
military. My experiences are different from the typical, because:
· My husband left one day after we married
· We have no children
· I am younger than the typical Army Spouse.
· I felt I had little support/understanding from other military wives because of the above reasons.