Playing With People’s Feelings
It never ceases to amaze me how people sometimes treat each other in relationships. Why do people do the things they do? Do they get some sick pleasure out of hurting others? No, I really do not believe that. I believe it is more a case of not having enough courage to face your demons and face up to your wrongs. Admitting when you have made a mistake is paramount in a loving relationship. We all need to eat humble pie sometimes.
Well many people do not do this. They will just give up on a relationship that is difficult and move onto the next victim. I recently met a lovely woman online, and she and I have become friends, she is such a lovely person and would not hurt a fly. Yet her feelings got trampled on like they were nothing. She was in-love with this guy and they separated for the holidays. She hoped that the relationship would continue; he apparently had other ideas. He chose to get into a relationship with somebody else and did not even tell her. She found out about the other girl completely by accident. It tore her to pieces.
How can people do this? Do they have no regard for another human beings emotions and feelings? Obviously not! I feel sick to the stomach every time I read or hear about this kind of thing and that’s probably because it’s been done to me.
I was dumped some years ago, and I was never told the reason. A two and half year long, long distant relationship was suddenly over for no good reason at all. I was absolutely livid with anger at myself for wasting my time on this guy. I spent countless hours on the phone to him and countless hours keeping in contact with his family to appease his wishes. I flew to see him whenever possible. The only time he came to see me was when he was visiting his parents, so in other words when he had to be here as his parents live close to me. Why did I not see that he was playing with me the whole time? That’s what love does to you I guess.
So I made a vow not to be stupid in love again, and think with my head and not my heart. I have chosen a man who would not deliberately hurt me for the world. However, we have our moments where I could quite cheerfully throttle the daylights out of him. But at least I see with my own eyes who he is, and I am always thinking with my head.
It comes down to this. Be honest with your significant other. Tell them where they stand. Stop being afraid of hurting that person, remember you are not responsible for their feelings and they deserve the truth. Don’t play with peoples feelings. If you are not happy with the relationship, tell them. Don’t lead them on for ever and a day. Because that’s how it feels, that time when you are waiting to hear from the one you love, it is slow and it drags. Put the person’s feelings ahead of your own and be upfront about what is going. If you don’t, then you are bloody gutless.
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