I talked to my lawyer at that time about what was happening and being told to me. I was advised to call the local dss and make a report of abuse immediately..... Well I did and a couple of hours later I was visited by the first investigator from the dept. of social services. They gave me a protection plan that would not allow my ex visits with the kids until the investigation was complete. They told me I had to allow them to do some kind of exam called a CME on my oldest that was complaining of pain when going to the bathroom. Before the investigator left he looked at me and said I do not believe anything happened to her and he left. My oldest daughter had to go through a woman exam, that is what a CME really is..I had no choice but to let them do it. The investigator told me it had to be done.Otherwise if I did not allow it they would come after me for neglect.
The report from the investigation come back unsubstansiated. There was not enough evidence. The investigator told me that since my ex had not penatrated her there was not enough evidence. That her word was not enough. He even implied that I might have coached her to say what she was. So again the visits start. The first weekend visit was not bad, the kids came back dirty and without any big bruises. The second weekend visit my son who is 4 and not yet potty trained came home and kept grabbing himself between the legs and did not want to go to the bathroom. I finally made him go to the bathroom and while he was in there he begin to cry.. I asked what was wrong and he said it hurt. So I went to see what was wrong. I almost passed out. He was swollen and red ....I immediately called dss.... ( big mistake) ..They told me to take him to the pediatrician right away and they would meet me there.
When I got to the pediatrician office at first I did not see the investigator and the nurse took me and my son into a exam room to wait on the doctor. The investigator then showed up at the exam room with the doctor. My son was so brave telling what happened to him and that is when the investigator ask me to take him next door for my ex to see. His words were "The accused has a right to see what he is being accused of" . I said no way are you going to expose my sons privates to the one who did it to him.. The doctor told me she needed to take him for a test and would be right back. She took my son and left. I went to the exam room door and low and behold the doctor and the investigator took my son right next door where my ex, his mother and his sister were at. My son had been exploited.... I could do nothing to stop it.... How did my ex know to be there and get there that fast????? Should have seen the warning signs then but I did not. I still believed that dss was there to help the kids.. Big mistake... As soon as they let my son leave that exam room I grabbed him up and left. Can you guess what the dss report on that incident came back as... That is right unsubstansiated.......The doctor said the swelling and redness was from an undetermined cause... My ex told them that I knew about it and they believed him....
