I am in a relationship with a girl, which has been going totally great. But recently, I noticed that she is eating less and less, saying that she wants to be thinner. I try to explain to her that she doesn't need to lose weight, and if she needed to, that wouldn't be the way to do it, but she says that she feels that she has to. How can I make her realize that anorexia is not the solution?
The best thing you can do is exactly what you are doing -- caring for her health and trying to get her on the right path. One further step you can take is to show her what she could turn into by seeing if you can find someone to introduce her to who is anorexic. Consult your doctor, explain the situation and see if he/she can help you find that person for your girlfriend to meet. I firmly believe that by doing this it could very well be the wake up call that she needs.
The only way to lose weight correctly is to follow a balanced diet with excersize. She needs to take in enough calories to burn effectively during excersize and while her body is at rest.
If she is stubborn, which most of us are, it will take strength and determination on your part -- more than she has towards losing weight in an unhealthy manner. I applaud your efforts so far and hope you let me know how things turn out. firstname.lastname@example.org
Hope this helps,