Come to the Stable

The Stephen Spalding Foundation

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Child Welfare: A Healthcare Model

Medical Foundation for the Care of Victims of Torture
The healthcare model for Come to the Stable the Stephen Spalding Foundation is Medical Foundation for the Care of Victims of Torture located in Great Britain.  Founded in 1985, the Medical Foundation for the Care of Victims of Torture provides care and rehabilitation to survivors of torture and other forms of organized violence.

In 2004, some 2,588 men, women and and children were referred to the Medical Foundation for help.  They came from nearly 100 countries, foremost among which were Iran, Turkey, the Democratic Republic of Congo, Eritrea, Somalia, Uganda, Cameroon, Congo (Brazzaville), Iraq and Ethiopia.  After checks to ensure that the cases fell within our remit, they were given, as appropriate to their needs, practical, medical, and psychological assistance in keeping with our holistic approach.  On hand to help them, the Medical Foundation had more than 200 paid full-time and part-time staff, and, and a similar number of volunteers.

The Medical Foundation aims to:

  • Provide survivors of torture in the United Kingdom with medical treatment, practical assistance and psychotherapeutic support.
  • Document evidence of torture.
  • Provide training for health professionals working with torture survivors.
  • Educate the public and decision-makers about torture and its consequences.
  • Ensure that Britain honours its international obligations towards survivors of torture, asylum seekers and refugees.

Torture and violence include the elements of pyschological and sexual violence.  Whether the pedophile or sexual predator grooms the victim outright over a period of time or attacks with the rapacious need for physical gratification, the damage inflicted in horrendous and life-long.

Reports of child victims of sexual abuse increased 125% between 1986 and 1993.  Stastical data indicate that only 1 in 18 instances of violent crime where the victim is under the age of 12 is ever reported to the police.  Crimes involving sexual assault occur in 32% of these cases where the victim is aged 12 or younger.

In the United States today, 39 million adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse are coping with the trauma rape, forcible sodomy, and a host of other crimes affiliated with molestation crimes.

Medical professionals acknowledge that the effects of childhood sexual abuse do not become apparent until the victim is an adult and a major life event takes place, such as marriage or the birth of a child.  The healing process, consequently, is arduous and difficult due to the pyschological torture, post-traumatic stress, and other harm to their persons.

Nearly 50 percent of all victims of forcible sodomy and sexual assault are children under the age of 12.  Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) are children ages 17 and younger.

At least 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 7 boys is sexually abused by the age of 18.  Abuse and neglect are indiscriminate, affecting children across all income levels, all races, all ethnic groups.

For victims of sexual assault under the age of 12, most often the offender is a family member or an acquaintance, but seldom a stranger.  Nearly 1,100 deaths related to child abuse occur each year; 38% of those children die before their first birthday.

Child victims frequently require long-term health and mental health care, as well as special education services an additional estimated cost of the $13 million per day.  Nationwide, the total annual cost of child maltreatment is estimated conservatively at $94 billion.

There are few crimes that have greater long-term negative impacts upon the victim than childhood sexual abuse.  In most cases, the survivor is condemned to a life sentence of either taking prescription medications or being consumed by illegal drug use, based on his/her ability to cope with this horrendous crime.

As a society, we need to restore those child victims of sexual assault.  We must rescue survivors from the pain and trauma and sense of self-guilt that often becomes a life-time sentence of personal torment and painful trauma.

Survivors of childhood sexual trauma and adult victims of sex crimes must travel an arduous path to recovery.  As with survivors of torture, the violence of physical retribution, war crimes, and other human rights violations, Come to the Stable/The Stephen Spalding Foundation is dedicated to helping those harmed in some way in life by sexual predators to move forward and heal their pain in some fashion wherever, whenever possible.

Child Welfare: Information and Support
for Professionals Serving Victims
of Childhood Sexual Abuse and Violent Crime

American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children (APSAC)
APSAC's mission is to ensure that everyone affected by child maltreatment receives the best possible professional response.  Its Web site offers related publications and information on legislation and professional education.

Child Abuse Prevention Network
The Child Abuse Prevention Network provides support to child abuse prevention professionals through online resources, various electronic mailing lists, and other information exchanges.

International Society for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect (ISPCAN)
ISPCAN supports individuals and organizations working toward the prevention and treatment of child abuse, neglect, and exploitation through publications, congresses, professional training events, and worldwide activities.

National Center for the Prosecution of Child Abuse
The center serves as a central resource for training, expert legal assistance, court reform, and information on criminal child abuse investigations and prosecutions.  The center is a program of the
American Prosecutors Research Institute, a nonprofit research and program development resource for prosecutors at all levels of government.

Child Welfare: Documentation and Research
Referencing Victims of Childhood
Sexual Abuse and Violent Crime

Juvenile Offenders and Victims: 1999 National Report
Howard N. Snyder and Melissa Sickmund (September 1999), Office of Justice Programs/Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, National Center for Juvenile Justice, 810 Seventh Street NW., Washington, DC 20531, T: 202–307–5911, U: www.ncjrs.org.

Child Welfare League of America
440 First Street, NW, Third Floor, Washington, DC 20001-2085, T: 102-638-2952, F: 202-638-4004, U: www.cwla.org.

Child Sexual Abuse: New Therapy and Research
David Finklehor (New York: Free Press/Macmillan, Inc., 1984).  David Finklehor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire, 126 Horton Social Science Center, Durham, N.H. 03824, T: 603-862-1888, F: 603-862-1122, U: www.unh.edu/ccrc.

Bureau of Justice Report 2000,
United States Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, 810 Seventh Street, NW, Washington, DC 20531, T: 202-307-0765, E: askbjs@usdoj.gov, U: www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs.

Children as Victims of Violence: A National Survey (1994)
David Finklehor and Jennifer Dziuba-Leatherman, Pediatrics, 94, (4):413-420, Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire, 126 Horton Social Science Center, Durham, N.H. 03824, T: 603-862-1888, F: 603-862-1122, U: www.unh.edu/ccrc.

The Victimization of Children in a Developmental Perspective (1995)
David Finklehor, American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 65 (2):177-193, Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire, 126 Horton Social Science Center, Durham, N.H. 03824, T: 603-862-1888, F: 603-862-1122, U: www.unh.edu/ccrc.

Which Juvenile Crime Victims Get Mental Health Treatment (2004)
Kathy Kopiec, David Finkelhor and Janis Wolak, Child Abuse & Neglect, 28: 45-59, Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire, 126 Horton Social Science Center, Durham, N.H. 03824, T: 603-862-1888, F: 603-862-1122, U: www.unh.edu/ccrc.

National Clearing House on Child Abuse and Neglect Report (1996)
National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect Information, 330 C Street, SW, Washington, DC 20447, T: 800-394-3366 or 703-385-7565, F: 703-385-3206, U: nccanch.acf.hhs.gov, E: nccanch@caliber.com.

Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse (2004)
Mic Hunter, Psy.D., (Fawcett Columbine/Ballantine Books, 1990, "When a person uses tricks, power threats, or violence to have sexual contact with another adult, it is called rape or sexual assault..." Dr. Hunter is licensed psychologist and therapist practicing in Minnesota.  He has a bachelor's degree in psychology from Macalester College; an M.A. degree in Human Development from St. Mary's College; an M.S. degree in education/psychological services from the University of Wisconsin; and a doctorate in clinical psychology from the Minnesota School of Professional Psychology.  He has completed both the Chemical Dependency and Family Intimacy Training Program, and the Alcohol and Drug Counselor Education Program at the University of Minnesota, and the Two-year Post-graduate Program at the Gestalt Institute of the Twin Cities.

Child Welfare: General Information, Resources, and Referrals

Administration for Children and Families (ACF), U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
ACF promotes the economic and social well-being of families, children, individuals, and communities.  Through its Children's Bureau, ACF assists states in the delivery of child welfare services.  Its Web site presents related initiatives, statistics, ACF programs, funding, and information systems. 

Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (ASCA)
ASCA helps survivors of child abuse transform their self-identities from that of victim to that of survivor and, ultimately, thriver.  The site includes resource materials and guidelines for establishing ASCA support networks.

American Humane Association (AHA)
AHA works to protect children and animals from cruelty, abuse, and neglect.  In addition to holding training conferences, AHA operates the National Resource Center on the
Link Between Violence to People and Animals.

Child Welfare League of America (CWLA)
CWLA serves abused and neglected children and their families.  Services include child abuse prevention and treatment, youth programs, residential treatment, child daycare, and family preservation.

Childhelp USA®
Childhelp USA® is dedicated to the treatment and prevention of child abuse.  The Web site includes information on nationwide facilities, helpful links, Childhelp programs, the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-4-A-CHILD), and child abuse reports.

Children's Defense Fund (CDF)
CDF represents America's children, particularly low-income, minority, and disabled children.  CDF goals are to educate the Nation regarding the needs of children and to encourage preventive investments in children.

Jacob Wetterling Foundation
The foundation works to protect children from sexual exploitation and abduction.  The Web site provides information in sections tailored to parents and caregivers, educators and community leaders, kids, and teens.

Kempe Children's Center
The center provides fundraising, education, parental resources, clinical services, research, and advocacy efforts to end child abuse and neglect. 

LOCATER®, Lost Child Alert Technology Resource
LOCATER, a national program from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) to distribute advanced computer systems and a cutting-edge web-based program to law enforcement agencies to rapidly distribute images and information about missing-child cases in poster formats.

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC)
The Center works to locate and recover missing children and raises public awareness about ways to prevent child abduction, molestation, and sexual exploitation.  NCMEC offers a 24-hour, toll-free hotline,1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678, TDD: 800-826-7653), a CyberTipline to collect leads from the public, and a Web site that details all of their services, including their LOCATER® program for distributing resources to speed the dissemination of posters of missing children.

National Children's Alliance
National Children's Alliance (formerly the National Network of Children's Advocacy Centers) provides training, technical assistance, and networking opportunities to communities seeking to plan, establish, and improve children's advocacy centers.

National Court Appointed Special Advocate Association (NCASAA)
NCASAA provides advocacy, public education, and resources for CASA programs across the country.  The association also trains CASA volunteers, who work to find safe, permanent homes for abused and neglected children.

National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect Information (NCCANI)
The clearinghouse offers publications, statistics, and searchable databases for professionals and others interested in child abuse and neglect and child welfare.

National Indian Child Welfare Association (NICWA)
NICWA has helped hundreds of American Indian tribes strengthen and enhance their capacity to deliver quality child welfare services and keep youth free from abuse, neglect, sexual exploitation, and substance abuse.  Major NICWA activities include public policy analysis, community development, and information exchange.

National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization/MaleSurvivor
MaleSurvivor
PMB 103
5505 Connecticut Avenue, NW
Washington, DC 20015-2601
T: 1-800-738-4181
U: http://www.malesurvivor.org

Organized in 1998, the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization/Male Survivor/MaleSurvivor is dedicated to developing better understanding and treatment of adult male survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

Prevent Child Abuse America
Prevent Child Abuse America promotes prevention strategies as well as providing advocacy, programs, resources, and answers to commonly asked questions about child abuse.

Witness Justice
Witness Justice provides trauma victims and their loved ones with resources that promote physical, psychological, and spiritual healing.  The site features access to experts, message boards, and other print and electronic victim resources.

Child Welfare: Documentation and Research Referencing Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, Violent Crime,
and the Roman Catholic Church

Survivors Network of those Abuse by Priests, SNAP
PO Box 6416
Chicago, IL 60680-6416
T: 877-762-7432 (toll-free)
U: www.snapnetwork.org

SNAP is the largest, oldest, and most active support group for women and men wounded by religious authority figures (priests, ministers, bishops, deacons, nuns and others) in the United States.  SNAP is an independent and confidential organization, with no connections with the church or church officials.

SNAP of Tennessee
State Director/Coordinator-East & West Tennessee
T: 865-748-3518
Coordinator-Middle Tennessee
T: 615-269-5165
U: www.rememberthesurvivors.com

Richard Sipe: Research Scholar
Sipe Report I: Preliminary Expert Report, and Sipe Report III: United States District Court Private District of Massachusetts, by A. W. Richard Sipe offer a startling insight into the massive cover-up and obstruction of justice organized by the Roman Catholic hierarchy of the United States.

Dr. Sipe is uniquely qualified to provide insight into sexuality and the clergy.  An ordained Roman Catholic priest, Sipe is now retired from active ministry.  He has interviewed more than 1,500 persons - priests and others with intimate knowledge of priests - about the celibate and sexual behaviors of priests.  Sipe has documented his findings in books and in numerous articles and lectures.

Pedophile Priests: Treatment Facilities
and Retreat Centers for Respite Care

Institute of Living
200 Retreat Avenue
Hartford, CT  06106
T: 800-673-2411
F: 860-545-7068
U: www.instituteofliving.org

The Center Building of the The Institute of Living in Hartford, Connecticut, was constructed in 1822-23.  Frederick Law Olmstead, the great American landscape architect, designed the 35-acre estate.  The elegant mansion, with a sweeping lawn, unfolds down to the sea.

Trees dotting the landscaped property date to the 1860s.  Olmstead’s trees include a Sweet Gum and Honeylocust, both Connecticut state champions, and a Chinese Ginko, one of the largest in the state.  New England champions in the Institute's park setting include a Bur Oak, a Pecan – a rarity in the northeast – a Japanese Zelkova, imported 1860 to replace the American Elm, and 23 other champion specimens.

Olmsted and his associate, Jacob Weidenmann, documented the design in Weidenmann's book: Beautifying Country Homes, published in 1870.

The Institute is the home and treatment facility of some of the most notorious pedophile priests in North America.  On method of therapy offered by the Institute includes seminars in its vocational training program: horticultural classes are one of several options for consideration.  Therapy treatment for post-traumatic stress and anxiety as related to rape, incest, and other forms of sexual violence are available as well, along with cognitive-behavioral therapy for mental and emotional symptoms exhibited by pedophile priests.

St. Luke Institute
8901 New Hampshire Avenue
Silver Spring, Maryland 20903
T: 301-445-7970
F: 301-422-5400
U: www.sli.org

Located in Silver Springs, Maryland, on a 43 acre campus, Saint Luke Institute is convenient to all three Washington, D.C., airports.  The building design incorporates garden courtyards between residential wings, and the main dining room overlooks the spacious back acreage. 

Central to the building design at St. Luke is the contemporary chapel.  The 12-foot sculpture of The Moment of Resurrection stands as a reminder of life's movement through the Paschal Mystery.  It is also the pre-eminent symbol of St. Luke’s ministry to pedophile priests.

Like the Institute for Living, St. Luke maintains an aire of bucolic charm.  The area behind the central building, for example, is ringed by woods, providing a secluded and pleasant space for reflection and meditation.  Three tennis courts, handball courts, and a basketball court offer residents an opportunity for physical fitness and recreation in a relaxed country club setting.

Southdown Institute
1335 St. John's Sideroad East
Aurora, Ontario, Canada, L4G 3G8
T: 905-727-4214
F: 905-727-4214
E: administration@southdown.on.ca
U: www.southdown.on.ca

Southdown is situated on one hundred acres of rolling farmland approximately 50 miles north of Toronto.

In this pastoral setting for more than 35 years, a board of directors comprised primarily of Catholic lay persons has governed this registered, non-profit charitable organization that serves pedophile priests in North America.  Not only do pedophile priests have access to comfortable quarters, but also they are able to advantage of the scenic property and facilities that comprise the Institute, including two chapels.

Southdown offers assessments appropriate for pedophile priests “experiencing significant stress” in their lives, to “promote personal insight, foster change, and clarify the nature and scope of problems, identify specific goals, determine realistic expectations, and reveal the individual's unique resources for addressing their situation,” according to criminal investigators and expert observers of the sex abuse crisis of the Roman Catholic Church.

Mepkin Abbey
1098 Mepkin Abbey Road
Moncks Corner, SC 29461
T: 843-761-8509
F: 843-761-6719
U: www.mepkinabbey.org

Mepkin Abbey rests along the banks of the spectacular Cooper River, just 20 miles north of Charleston, South Carolina.  Mepkin Abbey is the current reisdence of Anthony J. O’Connell, the self-admitted pedophile priest and the disgraced bishop of Palm Beach, Florida, and Knoxville, Tennessee.

The property, a 3,200-acre plantation, originally used by the Native Americans as a hunting ground, has a storied history.  The American patriot, Henry Laurens, purchased the property in 1762.  Laurens served as the First President of the Continental Congress (1777-1778).

The Laurens line remains extant, and descendants visit the property regularly.

The Colonial-era plantation was the winter of home of Henry Luce, founder of Time magazine, and Clare Boothe Luce, diplomat, playwright, journalist, and author.  The couple are buried on the plantation property.

The Luces purchased Mepkin in 1936, and commissioned the famed landscape architect Loutrell Briggs to create the Mepkin Gardens.  The gardens were renovated in 1988 through the vision of Nancy Bryan Luce, wife of Henry Luce III.  Thousands continue to visit and to stroll through these Gardens each year.

In November 2003, the Clare Boothe Luce Library celebrated its second anniversary; more than 5,000 visitors who have used the collections or met in the Laurens Conference Room.  The Luce Library catalogued collection has more than 43,000 volumes.

Mepkin Abbey also boast a spectacular art collection.  On May 18, 2005, the Abbey displayed its Ugo Tesoriere Collection at a Charleston gallery.  In addition, the Emperor Trio performed in concert at First Scots Presbyterian Church in Charleston to honor the abbey.  Mayor Joseph Riley and Mepkin’s friends viewed the works of Tesoriere at the new City of Charleston Gallery, overlooking the harbor.

Survivor Media and Data Resources

Ecclesia
Michael Wegs has written extensively about issues related to the clergy sex abuse scandal in the Roman Catholic.  Most recently, David Clohessy and Michael Wegs contributed a chapter to the anthology, "Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP): An Action Plan,"
Sin against the Innocents: Sexual Abuse by Priests and the Role of the Catholic Church, Thomas Plante, ed., Greenwood Publishing Group (2004).

Father's Helper:
How the Church Used Psychiatry to Care
for — and Protect — Abusive Priests


Barry Werth

The New Yorker

Issue: 2003-06-09
Posted: 2003-06-02

Early in 2002, as the American Catholic Church was engulfed in sex-abuse scandals involving priests and children, the quiet, mutually beneficial relationship between the Church and the Institute of Living became a matter of public concern.  The Church’s use of psychiatry—or, more precisely, the bishops’ policy of sending priests suspected of having molested minors to psychiatrists and psychologists rather than reporting them to the police—has become one of the most disturbing, and costly, elements of the scandal.

In a prescient book, "Sex, Priests, and Power," published in 1995, A. W. Richard Sipe, a psychotherapist and former Catholic priest, wrote,"The current sexual crisis finds the church in an interesting double bind with the psychological sciences.  Being forced to face the problem of child sexual abuse by priests, the hierarchy has been quick to run for cover under the psychiatric umbrella‘these men are sick.’ ’’ Yet, as Sipe points out, the more that psychiatrists have investigated the problem of sexually abusive priests, the more the Church has lost control over individual cases, and the harder it has become to handle them in secrecy. "Not only will the extent of abuse of children be exposed," Sipe predicted eight years ago, "but all of the sexual activities and the mechanisms by which they are rationalized, denied, and defended will inevitably come to wider and wider public attention."

“Psychiatry and psychology were used to treat the offending cleric, contain scandal, and to placate the legal system if the cleric ran afoul of the law," Sipe wrote in a 1996 consultant’s report for three cases in Dallas, including one in which the diocese was found liable for failing to supervise a priest who was running a "sex club" for teen-age boys and was ordered to pay a record hundred and twenty million dollars.  "Victims and their families were usually reassured by Church authorities and subsequently ignored: ‘Father is our problem and we will take care of the problem.’ "

Advocate Web: Messages of Hopes
Belinda Martinez, a survivor of sexual assault, is an artist and advocate for survivors of sexual assault and exploitation.  Her poetry, thoughts, and commentary have received international recognition via the Advocate Web: Messages of Hopes.

The Dutch website Misbruik Door Hulpverleners features her work prominently on its Creatief webpage.  One such entry is:

I Am Hope
Belinda Martinez
belinda.martinez@advocateweb.org

Will you write a song for me?
Will you let your heart keep time?
Will you sing it everyday - everyday,
Until your sorrow goes away?

Will a teardrop trace your cheek
On a quiet afternoon?
Will you love me even then - even then,
Tho' it hurts to live again?

Will you wonder if I'm there
When you see a starlit sky?
Will you blink it all away - all away,
And yet pray for it to stay?

Will you turn your head to hear
When the wind sounds like my voice?
Will you wait for my caress - my caress?
I am Hope.  Please answer, "yes."

Garry Wills: Scholar & Historian

The analysis and commentary about the sex crime scandal of the Roman Catholic Church has been examined and restated cogently by the scholar and historian Garry Wills.  Wills, a Roman Catholic, is a professor at the University of Chicago.  His views in the New York Review of Books are particularly helpful in understanding the scope of the problem facing our society today as a result of the willful neglect of the leadership of the ilnstitutional church:

Scandal (May 23, 2002): a review of The Changing Face of the Priesthood: A Reflection on the Priest's Crisis of Soul, by Donald B. Cozzens; Don't Tell: The Sexual Abuse of Boys, by Michel Dorais, translated by Isabel Denholm Meyer; and The Unhealed Wound: The Church and Human Sexuality, by by Eugene Kennedy.

Priests and Boys (June 13, 2002): a review of three works by Philip Jenkins: Intimate Enemies: Moral Panics in Contemporary Great Britain, Beyond Tolerance: Child Pornography on the Internet and Pedophiles and Priests: Anatomy of a Contemporary Crisis; Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex, by Judith Levine, with a foreword by Dr. Joycelyn M. Elders; and Goodbye, Good Men: How Liberals Brought Corruption into the Catholic Church, by Michael S. Rose.

The Bishops at Bay (August 15, 2002): a review of Betrayal: The Crisis in the Catholic Church, by the Investigative Staff of the Boston Globe and Conclave: The Politics, Personalities, and Process of the Next Papal Election, by John L. Allen Jr.

Priests and Boys: An Exchange (September 26, 2002), commentary by Philip Jenkins, Judith Levine, et al.

American Jesuits (April 25, 2002), by Rev. James Martin, S.J.

Jesuits in Disarray: (April 25, 2002), a review of Passionate Uncertainty: Inside the American Jesuits, by Peter McDonough and Eugene C. Bianchi