For an example - When my father was in the care of nurses my mother and I were there from long before visiting hours started to well after midnight or one AM. One or the other of us was there whenever my father was awake. A gentleman came into my father's room as his room mate for a couple of days, a very nice old man that got along quite well with my father. On the first day that this gentleman was there he was having trouble figuring out how to use the nurse call button - my mother and I were leaving at the time and the guy asked me to help him figure it out because he really had to use the restroom. I showed him how to use the call button then stopped by the desk and pointed back to the room and told the nurse that the gentleman in the room needed some assistance. Her response was "Oh, I'll get around to him. He's always hitting that thing and we just ignore him." That woman was talking about my father, the father that I or my mother cared for 98% of the time. If that is their attitude toward a man that they did not truly have to care for, what fate was there on the poor people that had no one else to help them? I know of another incident where a night nurse in a retirement home beat a old woman to death because she messed her depends and he had to change them. What kind of care is that?

Please, help me out so that I may continue to offer my father truly loving care during the last years of his life.