9 Tips How to Read Her Sexual Language

By Coco Swan Is she flirting? Smiling? Eye Contact? How to pick up her flirting signals. Interpreting her sexual body language has never been easier. 1: She Starts Preening: This is otherwise known as ensuring that she is looking her best. Standing up straighter, tucking in their tummies, and pushing out their breasts are spontaneous and instantaneous gestures that women are interested. This will be followed by smoothing her skirt or dress, playing with hair and jewellery, and then disappearing to the ladies room for a once over. Adjusting and checking on appearances is a great sign of body language flirting. If you catch her checking out your butt when you are on the way to the bar, or she starts fixing her hair when you turn your back, you know she is interested sexually.
2: Eyes. Her eyes say it all. A flirting woman will usually send 3 sidelong glances your way. You will get a second look to confirm they liked what they saw and a third if they are considering talking to you. The 4 second scan. We look at uninteresting people for 3 seconds or less. A definite sign of interest is when the girl keeps throwing 4 second gazes your way. How the flirting woman breaks your gaze. This is even more important than how she has been looking at you. If she looks to the side, or around the room, you have lost her interest. If her eyes drop to the floor before looking back up again to meet yours within 30 to 60 seconds you have a chance. Downcast eyes followed by a preening signal like playing with or tossing her hair indicate that she is liking what she is seeing. If you are looking at her and your eyes lock, a flirting woman will often raise her upper eyelids slightly and rapidly. This is a very subtle eye opening movement that is saying, “I am looking at you.” Zero eye communication means zero connection. Time to move on to someone else. A raised eyebrow usually indicates a question of some sort. The more you look someone in the eye, the more attractive, confident and truthful you seem. 3: Feet. Feet can be a great indicator of the flirting woman’s true feelings. Few people notice what they are doing with their feet subconsciously because they are so far away from our faces. This places them a long way up on the credibility scale. By pointing a foot towards you, the flirting woman is saying you are welcome to join her group. She is slightly defensive if she has one leg crossed over the other, but while one foot is still pointing at you, it is still looking okay. Once she uncrosses her legs and starts mirroring your foot position this is a better sign that she likes you. Her foot between your feet is an obvious sexual body language gesture. Better yet, if she should bend her knee and have it touching your knee or leg while you are both standing. These both suggest strong sexual flirting messages.
4: Body Posture: The flirting woman has her shoulders pulled back and her breasts thrust forward. One hand placed on a sexily jutting hip is a flirting signal for you to join her. Placing a hand on the back of a hip can also be a gesture to place emphasis on her tiny waist. Arching her spine into the shape of a ‘C’ displaying both her breasts and bottom is body language flirting, inviting you to check her out. A strongly sexual body language signal is when she starts to lean forward bringing her arms in closer to her body, pressing her breasts together and deepening her cleavage.   Playing with her necklace is another subconscious flirting gesture. Her fiddling with her neck jewellery invites you to look at her breasts a definite erotic signal to you that she is flirting is when she starts stroking her throat, neck or upper chest. The signal is even stronger if she combines the stroking with a neck arch. By tilting her head to show you more of her neck she is implying that she is starting to trust you. Throats and necks are “lover’s zones”, places where no one else touches us. Stroking her neck or chest also draws your eyes to her breasts. 5: Playing with her hair: Fluffing her hair, running her fingers through her hair, and the strongest sign of body language flirting, tossing her hair, are all designed to show you she is available. 6: Her Legs: While sitting, women often cross their legs to look sexy, ladylike or just to show them off. The higher she crosses her legs over her thighs, the stronger the sexual signal. If she is also smiling at you, showing eye contact and is resting one hand in her lap this is extremely strong sexual body language. Smoothing hands over her thighs is another common preening sign for women when they are in the company of someone they find sexually attractive. By sitting with her legs swung out to one side she is making an obvious attempt to make her legs look longer and herself good for whoever is watching. The more frequently she crosses and uncrosses her legs while facing you, the better your chances. The more thigh she is exposing the more likely it is that she is hot for you. If you are in a barefoot situation, she will start to walk on tiptoe if she thinks attractive men are around. By doing this it makes her legs look longer, her body slimmer, and overall, she looks more feminine. 7: Her Wrists and Palms: Women will flash their wrist at someone they are interested in. While she is playing with her hair or fiddling with an earring, check to see if her wrist is turned to face you with her palm facing out. While she is flashing her wrist at you she is saying, “You can approach me”. 8: Does she want to kiss you? If she is doing any of these then the answer is probably YES! Licking her lips. When faced with something arousing everyone licks his or her lips. Eating and drinking suggestively, sucking and licking fingers. All ways of advertising their talents. Keeps touching her mouth. Everyone’s lips become engorged when we get turned on, making us more conscious of them and more likely to play with them. Putting her head close to yours: This is nearly always an invitation to kiss. Tilting her head: Getting into position on a subconscious level. 9: Does she want more? Towards the end of the encounter you can check out her intentions with this little test. Step towards her and then quickly step backwards. If she is interested, she will now step forwards to close the gap without even realizing she is doing it. The other trick to try is to lower your voice to a whisper. If she stays right where she is and shouts at you that she can’t hear you, and then she is not going to be getting any closer. What the Color of her Clothes Say about Her: Red: She is happy to be the centre of attention and is not afraid of her feelings. Black: Stylish, chic and original. Beige: Uncertain. White: Look at me. Navy Blue: Business suit. Light blue: Composed. Hot Pink: She wants to stand out from the crowd. Light Pink: Fragile. The art of flirting and interpreting sexual body language has never been so easy to understand. Never misread the situation again! Apply these dating tips and go out there now! Good Luck, Coco Swan. Copyright 2007 Author Coco Swan. If you want a more sensible way to find a new partner than scouring through endless dating sites, you would be best to use special or reviewed dating sites that have been given the once over. Coco writes for and recommends the site 'DatingXLence' for a good outcome. You can see many reviewed online dating services here and it's a free service.