This is where I will put up frequently asked questions by common people, old, young it doesn't matter!  These questions are from other people and are just solutions  to problems that may be going on in your life and if you would like me to put your questions up here just tell me. 

 October, 2009

Question: Dear Shirley, I followed your advice a while ago on how to loose some weight. I did 30 crunches every morning before school, and now my stomach is flat. :) I am so proud of myself! But now my friends think that they're fat because I'm a "flat-stomacher" as some people call it at my school. How can I tell them they're not fat??

Answer: Congrats on how my advice worked!! :)

Now- your friends are just feeling bad about themselves. In the bible, it says how everyone is beautiful on the inside, and how the outside doesn't matter. Be sure to tell them this. Everyone in magazines may be picture-perfect, but to get there is a really hard process! They have to put on POUNDS of makeup, and work out everyday! It really is NUTS! :( Be sure again to tell them how God doesn't look at the outside, but in the hearts of people. I know for a fact these girls aren't fat, but perfect. And beautiful. Staying beautiful doesn't matter, but you should still stay healthy. Treat the body that God gave you with respect. Eat healthy, apples, oranges, grapes, [and not to mention the juices of these fruits!!] And don't forget vedgies! Exercise, go for a jog with your bff, and talk and socialize! Don't think about how you're going to be as skinny as that model after jogging alot, but how you're going to grow as a person. <3

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October, 2009

Question: I stole something from my friend, and [she/he] doesn't know I did, and now I feel AWFUL! Help!

Answer: I totally know how you feel. When I was little, I took my best friends toy, because I really wanted it. At first I didn't tell her I had it, but eventually, I told my mom. She told my best friends mom, and she understood that I didn't mean any harm. I gave it back to my friend, and she forgave me. 

Now it's one thing when you're a kid..you're parents help you alot in these situations. Now even if you're 17, you're parents will listen to you even if you think they don't. Come clean to them, and apologize to your friend. They may not be happy at first, but just come clean to them too,  tell them why you did it, and how you didn't mean to hurt them. But how you just wanted it out of jealously. Coming clean really does help. :D

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 March 20, 2009

Question: I feel like I'm getting a lot more fat than I used to be, and I don't like it! I used to be really thin, and now, fat! Help!

Answer: You may just be going through your growth spurt. :) You have to grow a lot, and maybe it just seems like you're gaining weight when you're not. And if you really think you're overweight, go to the gym, or do exercises, crunches, push-ups, anything to get your heart moving, and your buns off that couch with a bag of potato chips. Maybe try to eat more healthy food, and reduce the amount of candy or fattening foods you eat. Or just eat less food in general, share the pizza instead of eating all 8 pieces! :) Good luck! :D

March 1, 2009

Question: This person I was going out with me wanted to know why I broke up with him about 5 months ago. I think he wants to go back out. I don't like him though what is the easiest way to say no?

Answer: Well, don't be afraid to say no. Almost everyone goes through this kind of relashioship. You just have to say sorry, but I think we should be just friends. Maybe you can just be friends. Don't give in easily even if he begs. STAY STRONG! :) 

Question: Every time I go to the mall, I always find several different pairs of shoes I like, I can never find just one. My parents tell me I can only buy one, or none. Help!

Answer: We all love our shoes, don't we? Maybe you could see which pair matches most of your outfits, and you could wear them with almost anything. Instead of having one pair that you'd only wear once or twice.

 December 22, 2008

Question: I really want to be popular, but I'm not! Please help!

Answer: Everyone feels that they want to be popular at some point in their lives. I did, but then I realized how being popular isn't because you're pretty, or have cool clothes, but because people like to hang out with you, and your nice, usually easy going people. So if you really want to be popular, talk to lots of different people. Join clubs, or other sports, be outgoing! That's what popular really means.

November 20, 2008 

Question: My best friend is so mean to me!!! HELP ME!!!!!!! =[ =[

Answer:  Well that happens, and maybe you should explain to her how you don't feel completely comfertable around her. If she understands, great!! IF not just remember you don't have to listen to the bad things and stuff she does! Who knows your friendshp might work out! Thanks for the Question!

Question: Hey, I am obsessed with this kids show and my friends think I'm weird. So I stopped for a while, but I started again because I really like it!! Should I force myself to stop??

Answer: You don't need to be embarressed with your obsession. If you like it, that's fine. Your friends can't tell you what to do, or how to run your life. Just tell them that they probably still hold on to something that they liked when they were little. Like a blanket or stuffed animal. If you want to watch it, then go right ahead!!

 -Shirley

Question: I get so bored on Saturday's and I'm always on the computer, still bored. What things do you do to keep you from not being bored?

Answer: I know the feeling!  Sometimes I sit down and read a good book, sometimes I watch TV, or bake something. Also I write letters to my relatives, call my friends, and I made this website one day when I was bored! There are just endless things you can do when your bored.

-Shirley

Question: Dear Shirley, All my friends wear makeup, and they tell me to wear it, but I don't want to. They told me if I don't wear it that I look plain.

Answer: That is a hard situation to be in. If you don't want to wear it, you DO NOT HAVE TO!  If you want to when you're ready that's fine. Your friends can't control you. You and everyone else in the whole world is not plain at all, but beautiful. We all may look different on the outside, but you can't judge by that. You have to know the person really well to call them plain. Which is a very mean name to be called by your friends. So are they really your friends? Ask yourself these questions: Do they tell you what to do all the time? Do they listen to your opinions? Do they say "If you don't do it you can't be friends with me." Thanks for your great question! Hope that helped!

-Shirley

Question: Hello, I'm addicted to the computer and I don't know what to do. PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer: It is a very good thing that you are aware that you're addicted. What you should do is get a new hobby!  Get involved in after school activities, read a good book, play a new sport!  I hope this helps,

-Shirley

Question: I really want to ask someone to the dance coming up, but I'm afraid to. She's always around her friends, but I'm really afraid they'll laugh at me. Please help!!

Answer: The best you can do in this situation is to talk to her in the hallway while you're switching classes. Or maybe when you're in line for lunch, or before class starts. Maybe even by the phone after you get home from school. Unless that's awkward, (which it probably is) then the one I would choose would be in the hallway. But make sure she's listening and you have her full attention.

-Shirley

Question: Hi I have a bit of a problem and it has to do with my friends. They are reaaly cool and stuff but I just don't have fun when I am around them...I don't want to hurt there feelings but I want to have fun with some friend that I like to hang out with?! I also have my best friend in that group and I don't think she wants to leave. I really want to keep her as a friend but not hang out with the other ones that are kinda crazy too! WHAT DO I DO??? 

Answer:  Well that is a problem, if you really don't enjoy yourself around them then I would have to say is just hang out with the other friends that you want to hang out with but try not to hurt your old or new friends feelings! :)  and about your other best friend calmly explain to her that you really don't want to hang out with them. If she get's mad she get's mad but the are your friends and you get to choose them. Don't let your other friends pull you down from making new friendships!

                          -Shirley