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Advice of the week
Dear Dana,
My best friend keeps on stabbing me in the back. She is always doing something to hurt me. I dont know what to do. I've told her how I feel, but still she keeps on doing those things. I'm at my wits end. Please help.
Hurting in Colorado
Dear Hurting in Colorado,
Well she doesnt sound like a friend I would want in my life!! far far away from her!! Friends dont hurt one another. Friends are supposed to be there and help one another. If you feel you have exhausted all efforts in letting her know how you truly feel about the way she treats you and she still treats you the same way, then sometimes we have to walk away. Pray about it, God wants better for you !! You do not need friends like this. Pray that God will place new friends in your life that will uplift you and be that friend that you desire. He can do it!! But you do need to pray for her but keep your distance. We have to be cautious of what we say to each other. Our words and our actions are the representation of ourselves. What we actually feel and how we act is really what is in our heart. Read James 3:1-12. It talks about the Sins of the Tongue.
Dear Dana,
I'm 22 years old and I've never even been on a date. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find Mr. Right. All the guys I meet only want one thing and I'm not ready for that. Am I destined to be by myself the rest of my life? I dont know what to do or even where to look for a great guy. Are there any guys out there?
Lonely in Baton Rouge
Dear Lonely,
Girl, you will have plenty of opportunities out there to meet Mr. Right. Yes, there is someone out there for you. Remember that good things come to those that wait. You are only 22 years old, you still have plenty of time to find your Mr. Right. Many churches have a singles class that meets and socializes every weekend. Even if you dont go to that church, you can still get involved with their Singles events. Pray that God sends someone down your path. There is a guy out there thats going to be everything you want and more. Keep looking and most of all keep praying. !!
Dear Dana,
My husband lost his job a few months ago and he still hasnt found a job yet. He isnt looking . He has quit going to Church with the family. He is depressed but he still wont get out of the house and look for a job. He is watching the soaps every day and I think he is hooked . I work everyday at my 9-5 job. He isnt helping with the house either. He does take the kids to school everyday. I have talked with him about the situation to no avail. He says he is sending resume's out from the computer. I dont know what else to do. This is really starting to have an effect on our marriage.
Frustrated in Kentucky
Dear Frustrated,
I can see why you are frustrated!! Sounds like he has let depression get the best of him. As you wrote in your letter about how he lost his job, seems to me that he is scared to death facing the aspect of a new career. You need to get him out of the house first. Go somewhere with him, show him that he is special to you. What he is lacking is self assurance. He feels like he has let his family down. You have to build him back up again to have the self confidence to go out and look for another career. See if he will go to a Christian Counselor one that doesnt know anything about the situation. Talking to your Pastor may be too personal for him. Sometimes going outside your circle can help. I will pray for your family in this time.
