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“How Men Should Treat Women”
My first memory of witnessing my Mother cry was at the age of 5. We were in a hotel room with the lights off and the television on. My Sister was 2 1/2 years of age and my Brother was 7months old. My Mother was in search of a man/husband/father. The male who had abandoned us for his music career and to travel on the road. I became the man, a counselor and a protector. The first fight I had with a man was at the age of 14, to keep him away from my sister. I was the glue and a hope to my mother, younger sister and brother. I promised my mother that all would be well and that I would take care of my family. I failed. I was too young and vulnerable. I was not mentally mature enough to battle all the demons attacking my immediate family. I was helpless. My mother went on to develop mental illness, that has negatively affected and destroyed normal relations with us to this day. I became the brunt of her anger and abuse due to being the oldest. I along with my brother and sister, went on to live a life in and out of foster homes. When not in foster homes, we lived with various family and associates between the ages of 5-17. All those places were cruel with the exception of the short while we lived with our grandfather. After our Grandfather passed away, our step-grandmother showed us who she truly was. I was kicked out first. I went to live on the streets, my sister was sent back to our last foster home in Michigan City, Indiana. Family, society, religion, programs and schools failed us. A whole system failed us. We slipped in between the cracks.
The source started with my father who is estranged to my brother and me unto this day. My mother chooses to be estranged from us, living on mental health assistance. I believe the relations with my immediate sister and brother are hindered, due to them faulting me in their subconscious for what I could not do on my own. I have let go of this guilt within myself. Today I am a man who has lived the life of the movies "Antoinne Fisher Story" and "Good Will Hunting". "God" placed me with a father, mother, family and situation, I neither asked nor had a choice in. I speak out to help spread light not darkness. I seek no revenge, but spread the knowledge of what "God" has designed me for. I did not ask for my environment, I was placed in it. I was betrayed and forsaken. If I do not speak out then I am part of the problem. I speak not against, but for/with the billions of adolescents and adults that share my experiences. There are many who cannot or do not understand or relate. I have been Blessed to rise above all as you have and will also. The character typical of my father, the absent man/father/husband, is evident in other men in my family. This character typifies the absent father/man/husband in the world. Males that are absent physically, emotionally, mentally and financially from his family and his responsibilities. This opens the Pandora Box for families to be destroyed by the person meant to protect us initially(The Man). I have witnessed the tears of many women who are frustrated and hurt. Mostly because of unwarranted struggles, caused by the absent man/husband/father. The emotions come from a place where there has been emotional and/or physical abuse. They struggle in innumerable ways and situations.
I have been Blessed to relate to you and I do feel for you. I will not disrespect you (Women) by saying I understand. I am not you. My life has been developed to Counsel. This is my field through not just book knowledge, but the most important source of all. I have "God" and personal hands on experience, life. This calling and intrigue with the field of Counseling is also my own quest to be a successful man, father and husband. I will succeed. The personal and indirect experiences in and with my life, has developed a passion within myself to understand relationships between Men and Women. I know the satanic, demonic, negative affects on children. I have lived and still fight through my own demons. Don’t worry, I will win.
I have been Blessed to gain vast wisdom and insight from working in the Mental Health Field. I have worked with numerous adolescents and adults, coupled with the relations and experiences of my Mother and Father. This wisdom has led me to the conclusion that the only source or solution if read, studied, applied, maintained and believed is "Gods" word and "His" Bible. There are many illustrations in the Bible that directs firstly "How Men Should Treat Women". This will be a chapter, for the book, I will be blessed to write. Understanding and applying spiritual premises can only repair what has become one of the greatest threats to family life in this world, the absent man/ husband/ father. I place these titles in the order that males need to be, i.e. Man of "God", Husband to his own Wife and then a Father. Many of us do not know our roles, thus continued devastation of families. The confusion for male/female relations continues abundantly.
Do you know that the Bible never mentions dating? The Bible only mentions courtship to marriage. There was Adam and Eve, Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Rachel. All met for the sole purpose to be married. People will never find in the Bible, “And Abraham Was Sarah’s Boyfriend”. Think how ridiculous it sounds by saying Abraham dated Sarah to try it out to see if they were compatible. The soul-mate for you is not a trial. It is a conviction of the heart.
The book of Song of Solomon is courtship, but not sex until marriage. “God” directly answers questions about sex. It is only “He” who gave use this gift, thus “God” abundantly explains. “God” gives and satan corrupts. Additionally, you will never see the word boyfriend or girlfriend. Just those very words brings to life the power of the tongue. Both of you have relegated yourselves to boys and girls in relationships. If you are a man you are a man, if you are a woman you are a woman. Why call who you love and believe in, boy or girl? Anyway, I am not speaking from an exalted throne. I am speaking from being guilty many times and having to learn for myself via choice.
Relationships are a complex area worldy wise but never spiritual. Thus I must expound in all these areas. I pray you see and understand.
Another truth is that those who abuse you do not love you. I will debate anyone on that, no matter who it is. Remember the Bible sates the truth will set you free. Free from what? Bondage. Too many people try to love and respect those who do not love them. Show me a missing, father, a missing, mother, abusive person and I will show you no love. “God” is the epitome of what love is. “God” states either you love me or not. Either you love me or love satan. I can show you many scriptures to back this point up. The Bible tells us what the fruits of love are. The Bible also tells us the fruits of satan. I will let you do the cross reference. Did not “Jesus” tell “His” mother and brothers that these(The people that “Jesus” was around) are my brothers and sisters? Did not King Asa in 1 Kings 15:11-13, remove his own mother? Read it. “God” led me to scriptures that state I am not wrong. Why be around someone who continues to re-infect the emotional scars you have? Forgiveness never means I have to be in that persons face. Aspects of forgiveness can mean being cordial to those who have wronged you. Forgiveness can also mean, “You are too toxic for me to be around”; I cannot be around you. How do you be around the person that molested or raped you and state I forgive you, now let us hang together? Or is that common sense to have the person, who abused you, be around your children to potentially abuse them? I never used this mess in my counseling of people. I counseled beautiful Caucasian women who was having mental crisis. Her daughters whom she loved were the by-product of incest. Incest is sadly quite prevalent in many areas of the world. What do many preach about in reference to forgiveness? Many do not expound enough on this subject. I even heard some one well-meaning, preach this the other day. This beautiful woman was trying to forgive, what goes against the grain of what “God” means. Did not “Jesus” tell the disciples (Mark 6:11) to wipe the dust off the bottom of your feet? Why? Study and learn the truth for yourself. Unfortunately, my father and mother are in this category. After letting my mother back in my life, my mother sent my brother, sister and I, a letter, disowning us again. She did not see us as a benefit to her. When “God” blesses me to be where I will be, I will keep the word that I gave to her at age five (Deuteronomy 23:21-23). My mother will seek me again. I will cut her a check and tell her goodbye. I would not want that around my children to possibly infect them. This topic will be another chapter in my book called “Parents Need To Realize The Demons That They Spawn. Many will think I am wrong, but “God”, I and those who know/love me will understand. By the way, please read 1 Timothy 5:8. How can a man go on to be successful in life, if those he has left neglected has not made it? My father who was a famous saxophone player, never made it after a gold record in 1973(Summer Time). Many men are under the pretense from satan, that they can go on to lead good lives. No you cannot! Read what many refuse to see in 1 Timothy 5:8. One can make mistakes, but you can not continuously live it. Correct the mistake and you alleviate the reaping that you will endure. All reap what they sow. Money, security, power, authority, a woman, a man, your job, etc., can not stop this from “God”. All things come under “Him”.
If “God” states you either love me or don’t, then why should you not accept? There is no in-between with “God”. Are you not more valuable then that? Prove it by living it. I have no hatred, ill-will or vengeance with my parents. Why? Because the truth set me free. I was not loved.
I always knew I was destined for greatness. Those who ridiculed my humble belief were agents of satan. All youth dream and have major dreams and goals. All adults have/had also. “God” put this intelligence in you before the world was created. I will let you dwell on this and think about what happened and where that hindering/destroying power source came from. Hint, satanic principalities! There are many in the world. I received further confirmation after being guided in the spirit to read Isaiah 48:3-22. This scripture is also for all those who have been through much trial and tribulation in life. This scripture answers all the questions and is the Balm of Gilead for all your wounds and pain. Read it and now walk in your own Destiny/Greatness. I was attacked by satan as has always been the case throughout the Bible. So have many who have been much afflicted in life. Contrary to popular belief it was not your fault. What did you do so wrong against the adults in your life? All who suffer are not because of sin. Natural calamities are under satan’s rule. Read what was done to Job. Look at 2004, the year of hurricanes. Do you think this was normal? Do you believe a category 5 hurricane heading straight towards Cuba, curved at the last minute, in the way that storm did? That was “God” answering prayers to save that island. “God” said enough! What satan sent, “God” stopped. Even the way that hurricane missed the island was not normal for hurricanes. That was a battle of principalities and “God”. Guess who won! Guess who can win with you! Satan tried to destroy you before you got to your own Destiny/Greatness. If you are alive today, you have won! It was “God”! You should have lost your mind. Statistically you should be dead, you are still here, why? I can write much more on this subject, but will save for my book. This is just a sample for the world. Prayerfully, it is destined for whoever will bless me, thus exalt “God” in the publishing of the book.
The Man is commanded in Ephesians 5:25-33 that he should be willing to do all he can to Love his wife. The man should be willing to die for her if need be, as "Christ" died for the Church. The man is commanded to Love the woman as he loves himself. When we talk about Love we do not talk about being one-sided, i.e. “all She is supposed to do for me”. This Scripture means that as is expected of her, I am the lead. The Love emanates from the male. This scripture never states for the woman to Love me, but for me to Love her. We Love "God", because we were Loved first, by "God". This Scripture states that she(the woman) will have(Not should have) Reverence for Me(the male) if I(the male) am doing my job of Loving her with every being of my body and soul. Remember Love is 1Corinthians 13: verses 4 through the first part of verse 8. If I am doing all I can in Loving that woman, she is going to give back what I am but only enhanced. This is a reciprocal relationship, the primary example of give and take. There are many preachers that teach wrongful doctrine mostly unfair to the Woman. The Woman is expected to take all the abuse from the man and to keep praying for what He is not doing for you or himself. It is a travesty for women to be taught all their lives from society to ignore the common sense (from the top of the food chain to animals) that "God" gave them in reference to men. I know/do not believe that "God" would want anyone to stay in abusive relationships especially if the man is cheating, physically or worse mentally, abusive, ,alcohol, not taking care of home, on drugs or any combination of all the above. Even the slaves of the Bible such as the Israelites of Genesis 3:7-9 had pity, sympathy and love by a "God" grieved, with their negative plights. "God" gave more understanding then many religious leaders teach and give to woman in bad/abusive relationships. By the way I do not believe in religion which is strict and by the law as the Pharisees and the Sadducees of the New Testament. The law condemns and keeps you locked into religion. Spirituality, loves, understands, comforts, relieves, sympathizes, etc. These wrongs are in the same context as adultery. Many religious leaders mean well but speak wrongfully. I have heard, seen and do know. This kind of doctrine is what damages the minds of many women. They cling past the point of what is healthy for the mental psyche.
This is what happened to my mother driven by a society (Especially the Church) to stick with your husband no matter what. My mother was a beauty queen with a model figure. My mother won state typing contests and had a 3.6 grade point average into her junior year at Florida A&M University. My mother still has the figure that many young women wished that they had. My mother is 60 years old. I can go on and on about her accomplishments. My mother gave up all, due to the expectations of society. She was expected to follow a man that was not worth the tissue paper that dried her tears. If the woman were committing the same offenses against a man, in many cases, he would be encouraged to seek a divorce. Do you as a man know that not being romantic, is a negative against the husband? If you do not believe me then read 1 Corinthians 7: 2-5. The Bible says do not defraud your wife. There are too many men who are not performing. The Woman is taken for granted after she has been won over. The woman deserves more than just Mothers Day and an Anniversary. THE WOMANS DAY SHOULD BE EVERY DAY! Whenever a child has a birthday, it should be Mothers Day. The one who carried that child in her body, for 9 months. Her life and body was on the line. Take her out for a celebration, as soon as she has medical clearance from the doctor. There are too many men who expect the woman, after giving birth, to stay home, take care of the child/children and listen to you (the man) vent about such things as i.e. weight, dinner, cleaning etc. From what I have seen, he is the one that needs to be in shape and encourage her with love. Remember, spirits are knit and thus are shared and passed on.
I can go on and on because of the broadness of this most important subject area. I can only put so much into the confines of this article. There are many Women in fairness with faults also, that I will have to write about in another article. I however choose to write where the problems originated from, Adam and thus Man. Adam is the first case where Men started blaming women and not being man or mature enough to take the blame. Never did Adam admit to any wrong as they were being kicked out of the Garden of Eden. This true of today, a man allows himself to be kicked out of his own garden, thus the whole family receives the sentence of harshness. Adam hid behind a fig leaf that we as men still use today as excuses. Encouragement and acceptance from society to create this type of man, is also detrimental to the family. A good book to read is called "Fire In The Belly", written by Sam Keen. The book examines men and states for example that 99.9% of men are boys. This is due to the fact that most of what we do as men is centered to get the woman. We as men have been raised this way by many of the men and women in our lives. Thus we as men are limited in many other important areas due to our focus on getting the woman. Many men, are not willing to outgrow the shells that limit/handicap us. This maturity/spiritual handicap has been due to areas such as other men, women, society and religion. "Fire In The Belly" is a deep book that I highly suggest men and women study. A whole knew world of understanding will be opened up to you. I was given this book by my minister (Rod Woodie) back home in Florida in my quest to learn. It was revolutionary for me to read. In closing the Bible never means for women to follow the man at all costs, or that we always have the final say so. Who wants to be enslaved? That is not how we as men desire to be treated, so why expect that from and to her? Remember "God" expects people to treat others as to how they desire to be treated themselves. Relationships are a duality(50/50) based over the long term not short term.
Spiritual Poetry "I WILL" “I Will” Through the darkest of days, through the blackest of nights, I WILL Keep on fighting, because this is My Right. The deepest of valleys, turmoil’s, many demons, I dare 2 go, I WILL For “God” just won’t let me say no. Through storms, blinding winds, lightnings, heavy rain, hail, snow, sleet, cold, dry heat baked desert, torrents, earthquakes, mighty high seas, mountains, plagues, tormenting insect bugs, volcano’s, pollution, cursed words, weapons swords, I WILL Keep fighting forward, 4 “Jesus” is my Savior “Lord”. Religion Law condemned to death thus a lie I Will Because IMMANUEL Spiritual Love giveth Life. I get weary and eyes blurry and yes I hide many times, But I WILL, I have “Jesus” always; even He wept and was crucified. I learned fake façades deny, believe perfect, join hand in hand, gossip, ignore, scorn, never forgive, I WILL 4 “God” has given me so much more 2 exceed thus I live. Satan wins some; I have lost quite a bit, I WILL Jehovah-jireh, Allah, YHWH, Elohim, just WILL not let me quit. Loneliness and weariness sets in at times, I WILL Keep on climbing, My “ABBA” says 2005 and beyond WILL be my time. Through mocking, beatings, slander and spit, I WILL 4 I read even Joseph triumphed from a jail via a pit. Through hunger, pain, homelessness, torment, exposure and shame, I WILL 4 my Savior, saved and kept me in this game. I started far behind below the starting line, I WILL As I move forward Chief Corner Stone, By use of a Divine PlumbLine. Husband and Father though much says I can’t/won’t be, I WILL 4 “Christ” died 4 You, They and 4Me. My Convictions, My Beliefs, My Spirit, I WILL 4 my “God” The Greatest and Only “I AM” Made YOU”, Dynamically, Ultimately, Wonderfully, 2 Be Me just so Real, get it? Though many may speak against me this I Know, I WILL, 4 It is “ABBA” Himself, they speak directly against, He States So. I Laugh, I Play, I get Deep, I get Through, I WILL 4 “God” commands, “Never 4get The Days Of Thy Youth” Choose I A Great Name, Destiny called me 2 stop always just chillin, I WILL, 4 “God” says a Good Man provides for his Wife and Children’s Children. Chivalry, Hopeless Romantic never dead for me, I WILL 4 "God" deemed Respect as the tradeoff 4 Love as the equality right, expected, fair, example 2 Be. A King I have been given 2 Be A King. I Will Why else would “God” create such a Glorious, Powerful and Unique thing for that rarest Queen? I have been Blessed by many, I know just a few, I WILL Be A Blessing Back, 4 “God” says, “Yes, This Is What I Must Do”. Yes the devil is a liar from Earth unto Heaven, I WILL, Because my “ABBA” says “satan get out, you are no longer welcome you most deceitful never equal 2 SEVEN! I have many times nearly drowned in the deep-sea voids, many fights, much legal, many times rocky bare terrain, holding on to a bare thread from above, I WILL 4 “God” gave me King, my Dog I did not like at first, Taught I THE True Form Agape Love. True Friends, Hosts of Heaven, Ancestors, Applause, Shout, Jump, Worship, Praise and Joyfully Sing! I WILL 4 my “FATHER” 4Evermore Most Of Exceedingly ALL, Celebrates His The Triumphant Completed Until Death 2 Back Hope Brings. I WILL. I WILL. I WILL… * "I WILL" Copyright © William W. Hemmans III*
Spiritual Poetry "I WILL"
“I Will”
Through the darkest of days, through the blackest of nights, I WILL Keep on fighting, because this is My Right. The deepest of valleys, turmoil’s, many demons, I dare 2 go, I WILL For “God” just won’t let me say no. Through storms, blinding winds, lightnings, heavy rain, hail, snow, sleet, cold, dry heat baked desert, torrents, earthquakes, mighty high seas, mountains, plagues, tormenting insect bugs, volcano’s, pollution, cursed words, weapons swords, I WILL Keep fighting forward, 4 “Jesus” is my Savior “Lord”. Religion Law condemned to death thus a lie I Will Because IMMANUEL Spiritual Love giveth Life. I get weary and eyes blurry and yes I hide many times, But I WILL, I have “Jesus” always; even He wept and was crucified. I learned fake façades deny, believe perfect, join hand in hand, gossip, ignore, scorn, never forgive, I WILL 4 “God” has given me so much more 2 exceed thus I live. Satan wins some; I have lost quite a bit, I WILL Jehovah-jireh, Allah, YHWH, Elohim, just WILL not let me quit. Loneliness and weariness sets in at times, I WILL Keep on climbing, My “ABBA” says 2005 and beyond WILL be my time. Through mocking, beatings, slander and spit, I WILL 4 I read even Joseph triumphed from a jail via a pit. Through hunger, pain, homelessness, torment, exposure and shame, I WILL 4 my Savior, saved and kept me in this game. I started far behind below the starting line, I WILL As I move forward Chief Corner Stone, By use of a Divine PlumbLine. Husband and Father though much says I can’t/won’t be, I WILL 4 “Christ” died 4 You, They and 4Me. My Convictions, My Beliefs, My Spirit, I WILL 4 my “God” The Greatest and Only “I AM” Made YOU”, Dynamically, Ultimately, Wonderfully, 2 Be Me just so Real, get it? Though many may speak against me this I Know, I WILL, 4 It is “ABBA” Himself, they speak directly against, He States So. I Laugh, I Play, I get Deep, I get Through, I WILL 4 “God” commands, “Never 4get The Days Of Thy Youth” Choose I A Great Name, Destiny called me 2 stop always just chillin, I WILL, 4 “God” says a Good Man provides for his Wife and Children’s Children. Chivalry, Hopeless Romantic never dead for me, I WILL 4 "God" deemed Respect as the tradeoff 4 Love as the equality right, expected, fair, example 2 Be. A King I have been given 2 Be A King. I Will Why else would “God” create such a Glorious, Powerful and Unique thing for that rarest Queen? I have been Blessed by many, I know just a few, I WILL Be A Blessing Back, 4 “God” says, “Yes, This Is What I Must Do”. Yes the devil is a liar from Earth unto Heaven, I WILL, Because my “ABBA” says “satan get out, you are no longer welcome you most deceitful never equal 2 SEVEN! I have many times nearly drowned in the deep-sea voids, many fights, much legal, many times rocky bare terrain, holding on to a bare thread from above, I WILL 4 “God” gave me King, my Dog I did not like at first, Taught I THE True Form Agape Love. True Friends, Hosts of Heaven, Ancestors, Applause, Shout, Jump, Worship, Praise and Joyfully Sing! I WILL 4 my “FATHER” 4Evermore Most Of Exceedingly ALL, Celebrates His The Triumphant Completed Until Death 2 Back Hope Brings. I WILL. I WILL. I WILL… * "I WILL" Copyright © William W. Hemmans III*
